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for real? - 5/15/2011 12:33:44 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I have no name, no phone number, no address, and he wants me to drive an hour to meet him?


Hmm.
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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 1:00:13 PM   
littlewonder


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I've done it <shrug>

It's how I met Master lol....3 hours away, only knew his screen name, never talked on the phone, a blurry photo, no address, met for coffee and the rest fell into place.

Why not just meet for coffee and see how it goes from there?

What's the harm? If nothing else you walk away with having gone out and done something.


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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 1:14:40 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		We went from him working in the town I live in- to -  his day off meet him there.  The guy did not answer my question as to his name.

He does tho have my phone number- I guess he wants to do this all by email.

I think I would rather do yard work- then go on a goose chase.

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 2:32:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can see no reason to give full name, address, work info and credit history before I've even met for coffee. The time to exchange all that info is after, when you know there is sufficient chemistry to keep meeting him. Because we've all met people we wish didn't know anything about us so we didn't have to worry about meeting them again in the future.

Tell him to meet you half way. That's perfectly fair.


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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 4:22:41 PM   
firedogmilwaukee


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Status: offline 		I love DesFIP answer meet half way. Otherwise go with your gut, if your gut says go make sure to be safe. If your gut says, stay the hell away then do just that.

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 4:25:00 PM   
pahunkboy


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I can see no reason to give full name, address, work info and credit history before I've even met for coffee. The time to exchange all that info is after, when you know there is sufficient chemistry to keep meeting him. Because we've all met people we wish didn't know anything about us so we didn't have to worry about meeting them again in the future.

Tell him to meet you half way. That's perfectly fair.



I still have not gotten a first name out of him.



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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 4:39:41 PM   
littlewonder


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I can see no reason to give full name, address, work info and credit history before I've even met for coffee. The time to exchange all that info is after, when you know there is sufficient chemistry to keep meeting him. Because we've all met people we wish didn't know anything about us so we didn't have to worry about meeting them again in the future.

Tell him to meet you half way. That's perfectly fair.



I still have not gotten a first name out of him.





You can't meet someone for coffee without knowing their first name??


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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 4:57:48 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		Isnt that like being desperate?

I told him my first name and a phone number.  If any interaction between us is going to be one way- then forget it.


I should really have a facebook page to. This is supposed to be a date who wants a relationship.  I can not read minds. 

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 5:26:52 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I dunno. I don't see any desperation. I just see it as something to do, drinking a coffee and talking to someone.



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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 5:30:40 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I gave him too much by giving him my phone number.    (which - will give an address if you plug it into search)


Oh well. Shit happens.    At least I got the garden planted.  

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 5:31:49 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Next time don't give out your info, have them drive to meet you, and then you will not feel so badly about it

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 5:49:43 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		Julia-  I never left the house.  Not this time- this one.


There was a time when I would have.     So he has my info.  Big deal- take a number.    Communication is a 2 way street-

Maybe there is a guy willing to drive an hour- to no address to meet someone with no name and no phone number and not even an email address other then the dating site platform.


Man I must be messed up.  In my mind going on a goose chase would have been the bad thing to do.

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:16:46 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I would drive an hour to meet someone... These days I meet in public places without exchanging last names or too much personally identifying info. If the person was someone coming from a much larger distance than personal info that I can verify and leave with friends and family is crucial, but for a local meet, not so much (an hour is a local meet in my mind).

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:25:14 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I am not totally writing the guy off.

More like- I need more of a sell to put a drive into it.

I think my email to him was more complete then typical-  A/S/L games.

It is early in that-  there have been just a few emails- in 10 days time.    I do not have a first name.  For some reason that eats at me.  

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:30:03 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		There is no reason for him not to share his first name....

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:32:22 PM   
pahunkboy


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

There is no reason for him not to share his first name....


That is how I feel.  I did ask him-  but maybe he did not see the question.   Sometimes people get excited and only read 1/2 of what is there.

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:37:21 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		If he recommends that you meet, perhaps you can tactfully tell him you would at least like his first name before you meet him. I would also say that you both should meet in the middle when it comes time. In other words, if he lives an hour away, perhaps you should only drive half that distance, just to be fair to both of you

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RE: for real? - 5/15/2011 6:41:13 PM   
pahunkboy


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RE: for real? - 5/16/2011 7:20:37 AM   
pahunkboy


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Anyone driving by the place-  My place looks real good now.   The plants- the yard- the garden... I am proud of it, what I done to it from scratch and on a cheap budget.    In fact- the neighbors try to copy it- which is profoundly flattering.

I am glad this came up-  because an old friend who owes me a good deal of money-  found me.   I just want nothing to do with her anymore- because it is one train wreck after another.   So- she too would have my address.   

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RE: for real? - 5/16/2011 10:15:46 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		How would you write the email to express this?

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