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BBBTBW -> RE: When in Enough Enough?!?!? (5/13/2006 9:15:05 AM)
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW
I have been in the lifestyle for several years now. I would never deem to call myself an expert because after all, what is a Pert and am I sure I want to be an Ex??? Just a little lite humor.
As I said I have been in the lifestyle several years (14), I have had a couple of subs in those years but never anyone I would call a slave. I have searched for a slave for the past few years but there always seems to be some reason (on their part) why they can't serve me. Either I am not close enough in proximity, They don't want to relocate to Oklahoma (they can't make the money here that they make in their current locations) or we just simply don't see eye to eye on issues.
My question is when is enough enough? I am very tired of going thru the rigamarole associated with interviewing subs/slaves and getting to know them for it all to culminate into the abyss of nothingness. If there is anyone out there that is having the same or similar issues or if you just have a comment, please discuss this with me as I am really considering calling an end to this whole thing for myself. I am a natural DOMINANT and just tired of playing all the games that people play.
Ms Loren
Ms Loren,
After reading your profile and the full thread, I think the best suggestions you've gotten here are Ms MacComb's, Lady Zephyr's and and julia's.
The more conditions you pre-set for a fulfilling, contented relationship, the less likely you are to find one. The more pre-conceptions you have about the ideal slave, the less likely he is to even exist.
In this world of WIITWD, Dominant Women are far outnumbered by submissive men. If, after 14 years of looking, a Dominant Woman cannot find a submissive man who meets her requirements, I think it would suggest that she needs to look within herself for the cause of the problem.
For instance, you say in your profile, that once your slave is owne by you, "then I own EVERYTHING about you." Yet in your post, one of the problems you state is, "they can't make the money here that they make in their current locations." What difference does it make how much money he can make there, unless your requirements for his income are unrealistic?
I would suggest that you step back and examine yourself: who you are, what you want and what you can live with.
The highlighted quote was not complete. What I originally said was, "They don't want to relocate" I left out the word BECAUSE. I didn't think it was necessary to put it since I put that quote in parenthesis. Money has nothing to do with whether a slave is good for me or not. I have found that most feel as if their pocket book will buy them a position as a slave. If money were important to me, I would be a financial DOMME. I have never taken money or a tribute of any kind from a sub or slave that wasn't in my care.
This thread is part of my soul searching, thats why I started it. I thank most everyone for the input, it gives me something to think about. I won't change my stance on sexual relations with subs/slaves...but that is not to say they won't have sexual situations. I recently deleted quite a bit of things from my profile. I was about to delete all of it when I decided to post this question. I have had ENOUGH for now and although I know that if you are who you are, you are drawn back to this lifestyle with a vengence...it has happened to me a few times in the past years.
I don't just keep my searching on the internet, I have met and speak with subs locally as well as from a distance but there is always something...not necessarily from my point of view. I admit I am picky but we all have a right to be with the issues apparent in today's living. If we were more picky there wouldn't be so many negative issues hitting us from every corner. Perhaps I just need a few days to clear my mind. I am headed to Vegas in 2 days for a week of shows, hanging out and just having fun. Thanks again everyone for their input. See you when I get back.
MsLoren
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