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litttlesubkitten -> i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 9:47:24 PM)
hello my name is kitten and after multiple bad experiences in private chats i feel i need to ask a question. why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile well they look at the pic but they have no idea what it says so when we start talking they get angry at me for having a Master well if they would have read they would have seen plus its says not looking for men i just dont get it i know that its not my place to complain but if people just read the profile they wouldnt waste my time or theirs! please explain to me why male doms (not all just most of the ones to contact me) feel they dont have to red the profile and then get mad at me for haveing a Master? i mean some of these men are just rude and that is not how i thought doms were ment to be any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you to all

slavejali -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 10:30:22 PM)
littlesubkitten, i think you answered your own question.. quote: some of these men are just rude Take care... j

Gauge -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 10:41:10 PM)
quote: i mean some of these men are just rude and that is not how i thought doms were ment to be any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you to all Welcome to the Internet. If every guy on the net would be a gentleman there would be little need for a block button on message boards or Instant Messages. You are not the first to ask such a question and I am certain you will not be the last. The waters of the Internet are truly enjoyable, but beware, they are shark infested as well.

Najakcharmer -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 10:47:39 PM)
Probably the same reason that guysubs send me pictures of their penises and graphic, explicit offers to perform oral sex on me for hours. My profile clearly says that I'm seeking friends and please don't message me with rude, crude or explicit proposals. Like it helps. LOL I tried writing my profile differently a few times, but no amount of changing the wording in my profile helped. What did finally help was switching the more attractive photo of me into second place and putting as my main profile shot a picture of me from some years ago, 40 lbs heavier before I got seriously into weight lifting and working out, no makeup, in plain work clothes. That finally worked, and now I get much more of the friendly, intelligent and sociable emails want and much less of the yucky stuff I don't want. Works for me.

leatherorlace -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 10:56:58 PM)
Possibly they become overly excited when they learn of your fishing expertise, or they may sympathize with you for your hating enemas, but, I'd imagine that it's the tired approach of another horny poseur. Gentry http://groups.yahoo.com/group/A_BDSMDs_Church_for_Delicious_Deviance/

CanadianGuy -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/11/2006 11:03:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten hello my name is kitten Welcome, kitten. You are kitten number four hundred seventy six, which doesn't count the three hundred twenty eight who go by "kitty". [;)] Your first post is probably almost identical to half of all first posts made by submissive females on these boards. And yes, I apologize on behalf of everything that is bad about dominants, males, and the internet.

RavenMuse -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 1:02:09 AM)
Why? Because all too many of them may wear the lable 'Dom' but are nothing less than adolecent HNG's. But then given you have a Master you know not to tar everyone with the same brush (At least one would hope he is more than a HNG!) so the question would be somewhat rhetorical, just something to break the ice for your first post? Welcome to the forums anyhow dear

Wulfchyld -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 1:43:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse Why? Because all too many of them may wear the lable 'Dom' Happily wears the label... forum god of mischief. Sorry it happens to you girl. If you read the forums and then click on the avatars of people you find interesting you could then read their forum posts. That will give you a very good look at what kind of person they are. I understand you are collard and assume you are looking for people to talk to and perhaps mentor. That is the best way to find them. DO NOT let the fact that you are a submissive stop you from contacting people. In your positions you will do better by initiating contact first, and perhaps deleting all others.

Raethepain -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 2:54:14 AM)
I had the same problems when I had a picture up- the honest truth is that they take one look at your (frankly gorgeous) picture and message you. Just like that. And the ones that are worth anything wont do that- they'll look at what you WANT and either leave you alone or message you with friendly advice on navigating the site. Don't worry. It can be a great place to meet people, just have faith!

Quivver -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 3:35:49 AM)
I sum that up like this........... Catalog shoppers who fail to read the fine print.

Focus50 -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 3:52:05 AM)
Let's see - you're female, submissive, young and pretty.... Girl, you're prime 'Triple A' wank-meat for many a wannabe dom! Despite what your profile says, there are some things you do seem inexperienced in. One is "red flags".... The very behaviour you've described from these "doms" is obviously something you need to save as a "red flag". So rather than get all upset and frustrated at these tossers, what you do is politely excuse yourself and 'X' out any dom geek who trips one of your flags. You're in for a whole world of futility if you're gonna try and reason with them - delete their arse asap! Trust me, because of what I've written in my opening sentence, there'll be plenty to replace the ones you delete.... Hmmmm, this is obviously distressing you enough to make your first post (welcome, btw [:)]) but anything that upsets my property upsets me by logical extension. This master of yours, what's he got to say about it? Spend more time in the Forums and you'll soon know one of the main complaints fem/subs have is "doms" who are rude and obviously don't read profiles. Subs naturally like to please etc, but you need balance. You'll just get more miserable the more you cater to the oafish wankers.... Do you really want to be slave to your own keyboard, too? So find the right balance.... Maybe a bold headline on your profile saying you're collared and NOT looking, for starters. And when the next creep gets nasty, just point him to your profile as you block/delete etc and move on. Focus.

feastie -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 4:05:26 AM)
Block, delete and move on.

fastlane -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 4:12:18 AM)
In every walk of life you have people like you describe....not just in the category of Dominant Men. If they get angry and rude with you....good riddance to them. I hope you come across some Dominant Men who will show you that we can be who you are expecting to become friends with. Best, Kevin

Rule -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 4:51:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile Its hormones. When a man sees a nubile, attractive woman, he usually will desire her - whether or not she already is attached to another male. quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten they get angry at me for having a Master Well, of course. Since they are perfect, the other has to be at fault, not so? [;)] quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten it says not looking for men We are myopic and usually read only the first line. So your first line should not say, but shout: "NOT LOOKING FOR MEN!" quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten i know that its not my place to complain Oh, but it is your place to communicate your distress. Slaves and subs need to feel safe. If they feel distress they cannot feel safe. So it is your duty to communicate your distress - to your master or to those that are responsible for the distress. quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten but if people just read the profile they wouldnt waste my time or theirs! Put a nubile, gorgeous woman on the Moon. Guard her with a thousand battle ships. Some male will try to get at her and consider it time well spent.

TNstepsout -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 7:02:44 AM)
Reading before proceeding? Are you kidding? I work in billing and collecting and I had a guy call all pissed off about a bill he got. "What's this for!" he demanded. "Sir", I replied, "there was a letter sent out with the invoice explaining it". "Well, what does it say!" sigh

BiteGirl -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 7:06:51 AM)
As you said they are just rude. As well as not very intelligent, I might add.

Ceyx -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 7:12:36 AM)
Not sure this is a 'dom man' problem so much as a 'rude and inattentive person' problem. You get rude and inattentive people who have nothing to do with kink. Quite a few, actually. I'd go so far as to say that most rude and inattentive people are not even remotely kinky. [;)] There are plenty of polite and respectful dominants. You've just encountered one of the people on this site who isn't-- 'real,' not 'real,' it doesn't much matter. Block him and move on.

BrutalAntipathy -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 7:23:16 AM)
*Huh? There is a thread? I was too busy looking at her pic. I wonder if she is avaliable!* *Seriously now, if the cretins can't read, they aren't even worth the effort of wondering why they do it. Consider them poster children for pro choice groups, and move on.*

optrists -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 7:43:33 AM)
at least you put you have a master not all do then its their own fault for not reading it

Lordandmaster -> RE: i just need some help understanding dom men (5/12/2006 8:19:41 AM)
Life is a bridge. quote: ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten any insight would be greatly appreciated

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