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stellauk -> RE: Ignore your sub? (12/1/2011 2:59:58 PM)
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Wow.. interesting thread.. Now that it's here...
Anger is weakness, a bit like peeing yourself. It happens every so often but usually I will go to great lengths to avoid it.
Ignoring someone to me is being immature, especially if you're beyond a certain age. We have brains, we have eyes and ears, we have tongues, we can communicate.
If I'm upset I'll say so, and I will explain what is going through my mind and what I'm feeling. Whoever I'm upset with has the same opportunity. We talk, we discuss, and we keep doing this until we reach some sort of compromise or effort.
I might not be able to do this, I might not be able to understand, and rather than ignore someone I'll say, 'please, give me some space or time here.' I'm communicating.
If I'm being ignored, I'll go off and find something else to occupy my attention.
If it's online, then I have the view that any relationship online is purely communication. When there is no communication, there is no relationship.
If I'm being ignored to get me to do something then I'll take it that I'm being manipulated. I will respond accordingly by detaching.
But in all cases in any relationship I prefer communication and talking to mindgames.
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