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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/12/2006 12:10:35 PM

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One thing you are missing here is the fact that usually the first girl and second girl like or love each other as well. The goal for both girls is to please and love their Master. If they are bi then the relationship between the girls is even better. If they are not bi, they can come to feel like sisters to one another.

Think of it this way. With two of you, there is always someone to help with the housework. There is always some one to talk to or go shopping with. And if you're not feeling well there is always someone there to please Master.

In a happy healthy multi slave/sub situation. Ususally the girls are worried about their sister getting enough attention from Master not whether or not they are getting the time they feel they deserve. I know i used to make sure that my partner was spending enough time with his wife. I often tend to be "second girl" for some reason. *grins*

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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/12/2006 12:22:44 PM

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Andi...

I've met several Doms that had multiple subs and slaves. As well many that fall into the dynamic which you speak of... where he loves his "first" slave and is in love with her, so on, so forth. However, he still wants to have another sub/slave for his amusement. He may grow to love the new subs servitude in general... but not her as a person on that level because his heart is truly filled with love for his first or main sub/slave. Hopefully that makes sense. There are many different aspects to this and believe it or not... many subs/slaves are in it for the servitude (which is where it's supposed to be) and that's why the commit to such a relationship... and if that 2nd sub/slave is looking for a life mate then chances are they should look elsewhere. Unless of course everyone involved is on the same page and actually wanting/needing more of a family style atmosphere.

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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/12/2006 12:32:44 PM

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..and actually i am the second girl and have no idea why i choose this for myself..why i am putting pressure on myself knowing that he will never love me the way he loves His first girl, knowing that i am just there to please Him in the areas outside of His first girl relationship.

This Master has already said he does not and will not love you? Are you then willing to enter his service for the sake of giving service? Do you love this man? Has his original girl came out and said she will leave if he brings you into this group?

At this point from what i see you are only setting yourself up for disaster. If the original girl stays chances are if you two do not get along you will be miserable. If everybody involved does not agree to this situation and work at making the relationship function it is doomed from the start.

As to why you are willing to do this i would have to know more than i do. Have you been looking for a long time? Are you new at this? Does he just physically drive you crazy? What is it about him that makes you want him this badly?

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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/12/2006 12:44:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha

One thing you are missing here is the fact that usually the first girl and second girl like or love each other as well. The goal for both girls is to please and love their Master. If they are bi then the relationship between the girls is even better. If they are not bi, they can come to feel like sisters to one another.

Think of it this way. With two of you, there is always someone to help with the housework. There is always some one to talk to or go shopping with. And if you're not feeling well there is always someone there to please Master.

In a happy healthy multi slave/sub situation. Ususally the girls are worried about their sister getting enough attention from Master not whether or not they are getting the time they feel they deserve. I know i used to make sure that my partner was spending enough time with his wife. I often tend to be "second girl" for some reason. *grins*

Well said, akisha! I hope people don't get tired of hearing this from me, but long before I even discovered BDSM I read a book called "Open Marriage" (which has nothing to do with 'swinging') I loved the concept immediately...though I've yet to experience a Poly relationship.

People are 'allowed' limits. For me...swinging is a hard limit; I couldn't handle it emotionally. Soooooooo... I communicate this with Dominants and look for those who aren't into swinging and who do not 'loan out' their girls. Still...I'm interested in the possibility of a Poly relationship for all the reasons akisha mentioned.

People ARE able to love more than one ( IMHO )...consider parents with multiple children, or even children who have a couple 'new' sets of grandparents after their parents divorce & remarry. <shrugs>

Anyway, the idea of another girl.....one we both enjoy and want to welcome into our relationship, is more than a little delightful to me. Having said that, I doubt I'd ever chase a Dominant who is not poly or who has a girl I didn't 'click' with at all. Yup...seems to be all the makings for a train wreck. (to me)

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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/26/2006 8:42:45 AM

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i personally wouldn't want to share but well would consider it but not at this point but ultimately a slave its His choice and she choose to serve Him. Only my opinion though

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RE: Sharing a Master? - 5/26/2006 9:49:01 AM

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