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Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 9:32:22 AM

UberBrat

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Hi,

I was wondering if any other subs/slaves have dyspraxia? For me, dyspraxia was something I was born with. Although it can affect different people in different ways, personally it affects my ability to do practical tasks (such as cleaning, or cooking) etc. Obviously, I realise that, getting into a relationship, I will probably be expected to do at least some chores, or whatever, or tasks that may have a practical element to them. For some things, such as dusting, I am able to do it, it just takes me much longer than it may take someone else. With things such as cooking, my ability is so limited that, at least the majority of meals, is something I cannot cook.

My question is, really, to anyone else who has dyspraxia, how have you overcome this, or at least tried to, and how did you go about telling your D/M about your situation. If any D/M's are reading this, would a difficulty such as this be a dealbreaker to you? And, how would you expect your sub to talk about this with you, and how early on in getting to know you?

I would really appreciate any help or advice; thank you :)

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 9:56:03 AM

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I don't have the same thing that you do... but I have wrist issues that make it so I can't do everything. I brake it to them early on... like "I have wrist issues. I can't do everything."

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 10:01:59 AM

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Hi Uber,

I don't have dyspraxia, but I do have other disabilities that affect my ability to do certain things. My suggestion is to make a list of what you know you can do, even if it takes you longer than most people. Look at the things that you feel you can't do and make a list of what things would help you to accomplish those tasks if anything. If you have already started a relationship, then I would definitely start talking to your Dom about it. Go over the lists with him and decide together how to approach things. It's always hard to bring these kinds of things up, but if you are with the right Dom he wil be understading and help you determine the best route.

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 10:37:45 AM

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My young nephew was recently diagnosed with dysgraphia (among a few other things) and so I've been reading up/learning a lot about his challenges because my sibling and I faced some similar ones. Identify what your strengths are, and focus on those....rather than those tasks that you know aren't feasible. My nephew, for example--simply cannot write. His teacher relentlessly came down on him, trying to convince his parents that if he focused hard enough, he could communicate. That will just never happen. Instead they found out that if he types or dictates to a scribe, he does really, really well.

While I can read information and retain it, many motor skill activities I have to repeat several times, in order for my "body" to remember how to do them. It takes a lot of patience usually for those who are teaching me new skills, but once I've got it, I've got it. (going through a firefighter class was NOT a picnic)

Find those things that work for you, let your Dom/Domme know in advance, and I'm sure you'll have something to offer if the willingness is there. Not all Doms/Dommes require cooking, cleaning, etc. maybe there are other things that you'll find come easier.

good luck -- I hope you can find a few others to get tips

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 10:53:54 AM

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quote:

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Hi,

I was wondering if any other subs/slaves have dyspraxia? For me, dyspraxia was something I was born with. Although it can affect different people in different ways, personally it affects my ability to do practical tasks (such as cleaning, or cooking) etc. Obviously, I realise that, getting into a relationship, I will probably be expected to do at least some chores, or whatever, or tasks that may have a practical element to them. For some things, such as dusting, I am able to do it, it just takes me much longer than it may take someone else. With things such as cooking, my ability is so limited that, at least the majority of meals, is something I cannot cook.

My question is, really, to anyone else who has dyspraxia, how have you overcome this, or at least tried to, and how did you go about telling your D/M about your situation. If any D/M's are reading this, would a difficulty such as this be a dealbreaker to you? And, how would you expect your sub to talk about this with you, and how early on in getting to know you?

I would really appreciate any help or advice; thank you :)

No it would not be a deal breaker. How a person deals with it is what I would look at. I want her to tell me EVERYTHING that could possibly affect our relationship. It's never too early. As for how.....there are only a few options really. I prefer her to tell me and explain how it affects her and what it means to her.

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 10:54:27 AM

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yup, I have dyspraxia.

It wasn't diagnosed officially until a few years ago, but it's always been a part of me. Couldn't ride a bike, roller skate, skateboard, all that good stuff.

To be honest, having a label for it doesn't change things. I'm a smart woman, and I find ways around the problem. For my driving test I wrote L and R on the back of my hands. When I wanted to learn to ride a bike I bought one and practised over and over again until I figured it out.

The kind of balance and coordination stuff that comes normally to other people doesn't come naturally to me. It's no biggie. When I drive, I get passengers to give me instructions based on 'your side' and 'my side' rather than left or right. Tiredness makes me more prone to clumsiness, so I don't do anything dangerous if I'm not 100% alert.

And I avoid aerobics, lol

edited to add: Master knows I'm dyspraxic - I mentioned I was more clumsy than most and he said 'ok'. Let's face it, as I'm not the one wielding the flogger/crop/cane/whip/whatever, my coordination is irrelevant, lol

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 11:05:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

yup, I have dyspraxia.

It wasn't diagnosed officially until a few years ago, but it's always been a part of me. Couldn't ride a bike, roller skate, skateboard, all that good stuff.

To be honest, having a label for it doesn't change things. I'm a smart woman, and I find ways around the problem. For my driving test I wrote L and R on the back of my hands. When I wanted to learn to ride a bike I bought one and practised over and over again until I figured it out.

The kind of balance and coordination stuff that comes normally to other people doesn't come naturally to me. It's no biggie. When I drive, I get passengers to give me instructions based on 'your side' and 'my side' rather than left or right. Tiredness makes me more prone to clumsiness, so I don't do anything dangerous if I'm not 100% alert.

And I avoid aerobics, lol

edited to add: Master knows I'm dyspraxic - I mentioned I was more clumsy than most and he said 'ok'. Let's face it, as I'm not the one wielding the flogger/crop/cane/whip/whatever, my coordination is irrelevant, lol

Thanks Bunny!

I have never been diagnosed--but I have the exact same issue--"right" and "left" are HELL on me. My medic partner used to have to point sometimes rather than yell out right and left.

Oh man, it took me FOREVER to get riding a bicycle without training wheels. And I realized early on that I had to give up motorcycles because I had so many coordination issues with the clutch and brake.

My colleagues know that some things I grasp immediately (I'm great with radio equipment and electronic devices) but some other skills just take me awhile to grasp. We just got a new piece of equipment at my station, and I have to keep playing with it, over and over and over again until I know I have it.

I haven't ever really discussed this with my Sir--my cleaning and other skills are fine and come easy to me. But now that I think about it, he bought a new washing machine, and he has shown me how to load/use it twice now, and has commented how I can't seem to be able to remember how to use it.... hmmmmm...... never really thought about that til now....

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 4:11:26 PM

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OMG I have dyspraxia too!
But I'm more dominant though, so big middle finger to anything I say in this forum

And I also find it really hard to do chores and I've noticed that it takes me twice as long. I even take longer to get dressed. But holy shit, other people with Dyspraxia has this problem TOO?? So there really is nothing wrong with me?

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 4:22:33 PM

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I find it really odd that the word "dyspraxia" has only been brought up in these forums a handful of times before (according to the search function), and then we have a guy from the UK saying the reason we "misunderstand" him is due to his dyspraxia, and then one day later we have someone else from the UK asking if anyone else has it.

I have to say though, you communicate with the written word much better than the other guy.

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/22/2011 9:11:50 PM

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The other poster might have "apraxia" which is a form of "dyspraxia". Apraxia affects speech and how one communicates their ideas.

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RE: Dyspraxia - 5/23/2011 4:23:28 AM

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Doubtful, as apraxia does not cause you to tell others they are all fakes and liars.

OP, find someone who doesn't care about your ability to scrub floors but who cares about you instead. It really is that simple. If he wants someone to be his mother, and take care of him, then you aren't the one. If you're someone he values and likes, he will help you with your difficulties just as you will help him with his.

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RE: Dyspraxia - 6/2/2011 1:26:34 PM

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I'm sorry it's taken me so long to reply - I've been very busy with exams.

Thank you so much for all your advice and help, I have found it really valuable, and useful.

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