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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/13/2006 3:17:44 PM

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Fastlane puts on his leather...and breaks out the MoPed.......I am the leader of the Pack........rats!
Jump on the back, grab my ass and hold on for dear life!
I can get this thing up to 20mph going down hill.....sez the leader, Kevin

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/13/2006 3:24:02 PM

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AND ...
ok, well the fetish i had pre M/s/D/s, i discovered in the 8th grade. its a hand fetish. i am obsessed. perfect hands make me wet [bone structure, complexion, smoothness of nails, moons etc] and it lead into a mild arm/shoulder fetish, but nothing will match getting my mouth finger fucked [yep, fetish. lol]

it was a specific person who evoked this fetish [a crush] but soon it moved past him.

it does not change the way i serve [besides the fact that Master has a thing for my teeth, so lucky me His hands are in my mouth allllll the time]

i prefer not to disclose the others b/c i am still discovering at what depth the are.

I knew a guy in high school who had beautiful hands. Even now, when I see hands like his, I think of him... he was gorgeous all over... :)~

Did you feel the need to hide your urges, thinking they were strange, or did you have someone who thought it was cool? How did you deal with it?

I know a female who is married- as well as heterosexual- and has a very strong fetish for female feet. This has caused her alot of grief, because she confided her needs to people who taunted her and used it against her. She lives in a small town and can't really find an outlet for her very strong desires. She considers herself a "freak"..

How did you muster the courage to come out about this desire? (I understand if it is too personal to disclose)..

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/14/2006 7:30:59 AM

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I am guilty of being attracted to the bad boy image...But difinitely not ALL bikers, or all bad boys... lol If everything that excites me or attracts me qualifies as a fetish I am in trouble!

And i usually am. I'm not saying i want to jump them all, only saying they always get a head turn from me. Lol, my owners joke that they need several rolls of paper towels to take me to a bike event.

Leather stores, lingerie stores, shoe stores, the hardware store, hell i can even get distracted at the tanning salon, though the Harley dealership is usually the worst place to take me. Not saying i get stupid, just saying my owners know!

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/14/2006 10:54:16 AM

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Sorry... the quote is part of the signature.. lol... I am always open to ideas and different perspectives. One cannot learn if they are always defending their position. ;) Arguing rarely changes anyone's opinion.

But... on the subject of leather clad bikers... what about Harleys that VIBRATE!! :) Makes ya wanna jump right on there huh? Ben-Wa's sound like a good idea... ;) Paper towels? Get out the shop vac! I have never done ben-was on a Harley but I think I'd like it. :D

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 4:46:12 AM

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But... on the subject of leather clad bikers... what about Harleys that VIBRATE!! :) Makes ya wanna jump right on there huh? Ben-Wa's sound like a good idea... ;) Paper towels? Get out the shop vac! I have never done ben-was on a Harley but I think I'd like it. :D

I have, well........ hmmmmm......damn the shop vac would have been hard to use on the highway.

All HD's vibrate, surely you have heard them called the great American vibrator, but honestly for me i do not even have to be on them, hearing them, seeing them is enough.

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 5:15:52 AM

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Though it did not bring me to the lifestyle:

Men with long hair always does it for me.

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 6:43:26 AM

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Did you feel the need to hide your urges, thinking they were strange, or did you have someone who thought it was cool? How did you deal with it?

I know a female who is married- as well as heterosexual- and has a very strong fetish for female feet. This has caused her alot of grief, because she confided her needs to people who taunted her and used it against her. She lives in a small town and can't really find an outlet for her very strong desires. She considers herself a "freak"..

How did you muster the courage to come out about this desire? (I understand if it is too personal to disclose)..

i never hid it, but never advertised it either. recently, i told the female counterpart of my fetish founding what i thought about her hands... eight years later lol - she was flattered beyond belief and didnt think it was weird [or, didnt tell me about it]

i never thought anything was wrong with it, so i never *came out*. it was a little hard to tell my Master i love it when He fingers my mouth, but He has come out about *harder* fetishes than that with me so i felt secure.

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 8:32:18 AM

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my fetish is in being bound. it started as a kid playing cowboys and indians...i always wanted to be captured and tied up. and yes, it did lead me to bdsm and D/s.

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 9:02:54 AM

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Wow..I had forgotten how I had liked that too. I have always thought that my interest in being bound started from viewing a Playboy pictorial when I was 8 or 9! Now I know this started when I was 6 or 7; I always wanted my friends' older brothers and their buddies to "kidnap" me and pin me down or tie me to a tree!

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 9:09:22 AM

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But... on the subject of leather clad bikers... what about Harleys that VIBRATE!! :) Makes ya wanna jump right on there huh? Ben-Wa's sound like a good idea... ;) Paper towels? Get out the shop vac! I have never done ben-was on a Harley but I think I'd like it. :D

I have, well........ hmmmmm......damn the shop vac would have been hard to use on the highway.

All HD's vibrate, surely you have heard them called the great American vibrator, but honestly for me i do not even have to be on them, hearing them, seeing them is enough.

Ladies,

Forget the Ben-Was, try getting your hood pierced! I used to work in a bar that had a fairly decent biker clientle. Every now and then, one of them would take me for a ride late on Lake Shore Drive! The vibrations were intense. I would be holding on to his jacket screaming, "Downshift! Downshift!"

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RE: How does fetish become submission? - 5/16/2006 12:46:59 PM

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Ok.... some could say being a dom or a sub is a special fetish in and of itself... I would not agree with that, but some think so.

I have many kinks... There is one underlying thread to them all and that is in all my kinks, fetishes and fantasies I am on the bottom. I am not aroused by the thought of being on top. In alll my relationships I tried to bottom before I knew what bottoming even was.

I have only been with one person that had a special object fetish as you describe and he used my submissive desire to please to satisfy it, and that was a pantyhose fetish. He was not a dom. He just wanted to constantly indulge that one fetish to the exclusion of any other activity. This was before I discovered my submissiveness, so while at first I was aroused by doing this (the sub in me wanting to please), eventually I got bored because it wasnt my thing. I did not get my needs filled. And yes subs have sexual needs too. Subs can get bored with the same fetish month after month after month if it is the only thing that is EVER done. It becomes like missionary sex, nice in its own way, but boring after a while.

I wonder if other submissives have had this happen to them. I identified with the female lead in "The Secretary" when she and her dom were not seeing each other and she tried to date out of the newspaper and all she found were men wanting their own fetish satisfied because of this guy I dated.

Of course this is just my experience.

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