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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 8:54:36 AM   
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I would call it being a 'brat'. That is - you're acting up, in a cheeky or testing way in order to get attention / punishment from your Dom. According to BDSM gospel this is not good submission, but that opinion varies from one couple to another. Some Doms hate it, and will put you on ignore, others enjoy it as it lets them be more sadistic with you.

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That is too funny. Gotta love the forums.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 9:04:09 AM   
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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 9:26:56 AM   
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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 10:34:12 AM   
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greetings to all....

I have been collared to my Master for 1 1/2 {year} and i have to say that i find myself being naughty on purpose...just for the punishment.....is that not right? i spoke to Master abt this,for i tell him everything....HELP....



To my way of thinking your a self absorbed cunt who wants everything her way. Id have no use for you. The point being Ill smack you around when I feel like it NOT because your acting like a 2 year old.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 10:42:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh

I would call it being a 'brat'. That is - you're acting up, in a cheeky or testing way in order to get attention / punishment from your Dom. According to BDSM gospel this is not good submission, but that opinion varies from one couple to another. Some Doms hate it, and will put you on ignore, others enjoy it as it lets them be more sadistic with you.

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I think some like it because they have a sense of humour. People are different everywhere and some fit and others don't. I find the serious uber doms more douchie than i like so i am not with them.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 12:48:42 PM   
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Someone somewhere along the line called it funishment and thus it has stuck but really it is a punishment dynamics with behaviour that will get you punished but not severe enough to put the relationship in trouble. It is a fun term though.

Personally i have never been comfortable with walking up to N and saying "May i please have a spanking?" but there are plenty of playful ways in which i can get taken over his lap and get a red bottom.


i totally get this, it is our way too
Though i can not properly remember how we went about our very first spanking session... it must have been sort of mutually agreed upon...
anyway my Husband does not consider me to be a brat at all...
He calls me 'woman' mostly and thinks 'brat' only applies to children... stickler for English

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 12:52:37 PM   
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If I did that I have a feeling he wouldn't have me around for very long. That's not something he stands for around here.
He and I are on the same page on that. If my girl misbehaved just to get a spanking...well...there's the door bitch, don't let it hit you on the way out...

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 12:57:02 PM   
Arpig


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others enjoy it as it lets them be more sadistic with you.
Lets them? LETS THEM????

Seems to me a pretty sad excuse for a Dom if he needs the sub to misbehave in order to be allowed to hurt them.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 2:26:05 PM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		I agree Arpig.. he needs no excuse to spank me. Nor do i automatically get a swap for being cheeky. It does signal to him though that i am in a silly mood and this could lead to some fun role play.

I never really understood the big deal with this. IF i were rude and/or disrespectful then i could see the problem but i do not cross that line. If i broach it, N quickly puts me in my place in not a fun way.

I guess perhaps that really only works for a few people though.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 4:53:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like bratty childish game playing and seeking attention... not my cup of tea, but perhaps it is for others... maybe you should take a little harder look at what your actions are about..

anyone acted that way with me, I'd ignore them first and likely get rid of them second.. someone like that doesn't last too long with me...


quote:

ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

greetings to all....

I have been collared to my Master for 1 1/2 {year} and i have to say that i find myself being naughty on purpose...just for the punishment.....is that not right? i spoke to Master abt this,for i tell him everything....HELP....



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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 7:29:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you guys both enjoy it, then I don't see what it matters what other people think/do. Though it's a good idea to make sure you're on the same page.

I have a big punishment kink, so my ideal partner would enjoy doing punishment scenes and funishments. But I wouldn't want to actually annoy my partner or behave in a way that was counter to what they wanted. I think there's a difference between initiating a game that you know your partner generally enjoys, and acting out for attention or being manipulative. If you're trying to actually trick your partner into "punishing" you, then I don't think that's cool.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/25/2011 8:12:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master tells me to just ask for it if I want it. Misbehaving is a no-go with him. It upsets him and in turn greatly upsets me to see him that way. I am on my best behavior and always follow his lead.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/26/2011 2:41:01 AM   
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others enjoy it as it lets them be more sadistic with you.
Lets them? LETS THEM????

Seems to me a pretty sad excuse for a Dom if he needs the sub to misbehave in order to be allowed to hurt them.


*shrugs* D/s and s&m are not always the same thing. I've known Doms who purely liked the control aspects and were very hesitant to hurt their submissive. Others wanted to be more sadistic but felt that they needed to hold back, either because of their own guilt or because they felt they shouldn't be hitting / hurting a woman. In many cases, the submissive acting up gave them a reason / excuse / freedom to be more sadistic than they usually were. It's not my cup of tea, but I think it's important to remember that what works for you or me is not what might work for others. So long as they're happy, more power to them!

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/26/2011 3:57:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

I have been collared to my Master for 1 1/2 {year} and i have to say that i find myself being naughty on purpose...just for the punishment.....is that not right? i spoke to Master abt this,for i tell him everything....HELP....


What you're doing is nothing more and nothing less than exactly what your dom is both allowing and enabling you to do.

Of course, the male doms don't come here and ask what's wrong in such situations. That'd be like asking for directions when lost in the 'hood. Pffft, as if....!

Focus.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/27/2011 8:30:26 AM   
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If I did that I have a feeling he wouldn't have me around for very long. That's not something he stands for around here.
He and I are on the same page on that. If my girl misbehaved just to get a spanking...well...there's the door bitch, don't let it hit you on the way out...


Yes, because if you allowed the door to hit them on the backside that would be close to a spanking.

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RE: how to be a ? - 5/28/2011 7:50:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		When owned, i was "spanked" regularly because MASTER enjoyed it and thought it was good to discipline a slave. Punishments were not fun as they usually involved having something taken away or spending time locked away

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