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TheAmazinSub -> Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 6:24:45 AM)
Hello Mistresses =) I just turned 18 and i'm essentially interested in paying a Femdom to fulfill my fetish desires. So i have a few embarassing questions.. 1.) Where do i go about finding these places? I'm not interested in attending a club, I want to go to a professional femdom environment, and pay for a few fetishes, that's all... 2.) Isn't 18 old enough, or do i have to be 21? 3.) I REALLY REALLY want to be tied up /handcuffed & beatened (punching/kicking/smacking), spanked (belt), AND bad breath smelling. Lol i'd like it to be VERY realistic, like as if she was actually trying to beat me. I want to feel it DAYS after, I want to have marks...Would MOST do it exactly like that? (Idk how it works) 4.) How much would you GUESS the above would cost (bad breath, punching/kicking, and brutal spanking) 5.) Are the sessions USUALLY recorded, so i can watch it later or no? I don't plan on telling them i never really experienced any of the fetishes i'd like to accomplish (Besides getting hit with the belt earlier in life), but please don't suggest me to have them go lighter on me. That would be a waste of my money, and not my fantasy..Also can you please tell me how the place USUALLY works (Like do they charge hourly, do they do the fantasy exactly how the SLAVE likes)..I'd hate to go and embarass my self, just to find out they won't accept my request.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 6:36:45 AM)
1. Do a google with your location and dominatrix or dungeon 2. I guess it depends where you are 3. Up to you and her to discuss it (sorry, not suppling wank fodder) 4. Depending where you are, I guess somewhere between $200 and $300 5. NO You call them or email them in advance and negotiate what you want to have done, not every Domme will cater to every fetish. I would also suggest that you are honest with them, they won't go lighter, but they might just help you to get into the mood and explain a few things, you know if you're in there they will be able to tell from your reactions that you're new. Oh and bear in mind, while something might look very hot in a video, the actual sensations might not be to your liking at all, you might find out the hard way that you are not a masochist...

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 6:45:28 AM)
Alrighty then. TheAmazinSub has listed himself as a dominant in his profile. OP: This speaks of some confusion which you might want to clear up before you spend big bucks on a fem domme. As to your other questions, a good fem domme gets paid to fulfill your fetishes. Look for the Max Fisch (sp?) ads for pro dommes. And remember: cheapest is not always best. I would avoid a pro that did not have a dungeon, and was not an expert. Which means avoid prostitutes, they just play at being domme. Tell your pro the truth about your experience or lack thereof. They are like any professional, they more they know, the better service they will give. Good luck.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 6:58:11 AM)
Amazin, they will know if you are lying. Trust me. A pro domme can clock a man a mile away. Tell the truth. You have nothing to lose.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:05:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt I would avoid a pro that did not have a dungeon, and was not an expert. Which means avoid prostitutes, they just play at being domme. A lot of pros rent dungeon space, it's quite common, real estate and equipment (not to mention sound proofing) tend to be very expensive and a lot of them have vanilla careers as well to avoid the burn out and being too financially dependent on domming. Now what I find a bit odd is, the OP couldn't find out anything like that, but he signed up today and hit us with that question... I would think if he found us so easily, he would find more about dungeons and dommes in his area with a simple google search...

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:06:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Amazin, they will know if you are lying. Trust me. A pro domme can clock a man a mile away. Tell the truth. You have nothing to lose. I think the question "What kind of experience do you have" and then a few detailed questions will tell them pretty much if he's making stuff up or not.

TheAmazinSub -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:09:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt Alrighty then. TheAmazinSub has listed himself as a dominant in his profile. OP: This speaks of some confusion which you might want to clear up before you spend big bucks on a fem domme. Oops! Believe me, I'm far from a dominant person unforunately =( I was in a rush when creating this profile, and i wasn't paying attention. I intended on going back to edit my profile explicitly later when i was in the mood to. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Oh and bear in mind, while something might look very hot in a video, the actual sensations might not be to your liking at all, you might find out the hard way that you are not a masochist... I mean, it turns me on just thinking about it. For years i ALWAYS fantasize about it. I may not be a hardcore one, but i know i'm one, even if it's just light..I'll find out when i go. Thanks for the replies so far =)

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:10:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt I would avoid a pro that did not have a dungeon, and was not an expert. Which means avoid prostitutes, they just play at being domme. A lot of pros rent dungeon space, it's quite common, real estate and equipment (not to mention sound proofing) tend to be very expensive and a lot of them have vanilla careers as well to avoid the burn out and being too financially dependent on domming. Now what I find a bit odd is, the OP couldn't find out anything like that, but he signed up today and hit us with that question... I would think if he found us so easily, he would find more about dungeons and dommes in his area with a simple google search... Well I meant more "have access to dungeon space." I didn't mean the pro had to own the space, my assumption is most share. And I agree, a pro will know in a NY second if the OP has experience or not. I think he's looking for recommendations (I would be). Perhaps someone from Tulsa will steer him in the right direction.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:18:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheAmazinSub quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Oh and bear in mind, while something might look very hot in a video, the actual sensations might not be to your liking at all, you might find out the hard way that you are not a masochist... I mean, it turns me on just thinking about it. For years i ALWAYS fantasize about it. I may not be a hardcore one, but i know i'm one, even if it's just light..I'll find out when i go. Thanks for the replies so far =) Well, a few years ago when I was a pro domme, a guy came to me and wanted a brutal harsh whipping, OWK style, no warm up, told him I won't do it without warm up, dangers and all and nope, not a bullwhip, single tail... Asked him about the experience he had and he mentioned quite a lot of crops, paddles and whips, sounded believable, so I warmed him up and he started screaming and yelling like crazy, I thought he hasn't safeworded and it's part of his game (some people get off on that) mind you at that point it was still just a spanking with my bare hands. He was trashing and yelling so much, that I thought I risk "breaking the mood", especially since he yelled that he had "forgotten this freaking word that makes you stop", turns out he couldn't take even a spanking. I sat him down, reminded him of the "experience" he claimed, and he told me that he did watch those videos so often.... It wasn't a nice experience for him, so just be honest and let them guide you, they do have more experience and can lead you in another direction in case one thing doesn't work out as it did in your fantasy...

TheAmazinSub -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:20:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheAmazinSub I don't plan on telling them i never really experienced any of the fetishes i'd like to accomplish I didn't exactly say i planned on being dishonest, I was implying if they didn't ask, i didn't plan on telling them i was new..

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:24:07 AM)
If they don't ask about your past experience, run (don't walk) away. A pro will have an intake type of interview (or perhaps questionnaire) to determine experience level, fetishes and fantasies, possible medical issues, etc.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:25:10 AM)
quote: mind you at that point it was still just a spanking with my bare hands. He was trashing and yelling so much, that I thought I risk "breaking the mood", especially since he yelled that he had "forgotten this freaking word that makes you stop", turns out he couldn't take even a spanking. Okay that did crack me up.

PeonForHer -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:25:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze . . . mind you at that point it was still just a spanking with my bare hands. He was trashing and yelling so much . . . Seriously - even just a spanking? Were you using a knuckleduster or something?

PeonForHer -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:29:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheAmazinSub quote: ORIGINAL: TheAmazinSub I don't plan on telling them i never really experienced any of the fetishes i'd like to accomplish I didn't exactly say i planned on being dishonest, I was implying if they didn't ask, i didn't plan on telling them i was new.. Oooh, that sounds like a bad news policy, TAS. Imagine if they're used to men who are really, really into getting beaten up. Besides, I'm certain that an experienced pro-domme will know that you're holding back on the truth, and once she sees that, she might just lose the confidence to do anything at all.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:29:18 AM)
Nope, and I don't even have huge hands or anything, he just seriously couldn't take any pain, in his fantasy he possibly could and I am sure there was a lot of rhythmic movement going on while he watched various OWK videos where guys were whipped and possibly convinced himself he would be able to endure it, just when he felt actual pain, he simply couldn't take it.

PeonForHer -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:34:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Nope, and I don't even have huge hands or anything, he just seriously couldn't take any pain, in his fantasy he possibly could and I am sure there was a lot of rhythmic movement going on while he watched various OWK videos where guys were whipped and possibly convinced himself he would be able to endure it, just when he felt actual pain, he simply couldn't take it. What, like river dancing, maybe? Strange that the disconnect between fantasy and reality was that big, though. We're talking yawning chasm, here.

TheAmazinSub -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 7:47:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: TheAmazinSub quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Oh and bear in mind, while something might look very hot in a video, the actual sensations might not be to your liking at all, you might find out the hard way that you are not a masochist... I mean, it turns me on just thinking about it. For years i ALWAYS fantasize about it. I may not be a hardcore one, but i know i'm one, even if it's just light..I'll find out when i go. Thanks for the replies so far =) Well, a few years ago when I was a pro domme, a guy came to me and wanted a brutal harsh whipping, OWK style, no warm up, told him I won't do it without warm up, dangers and all and nope, not a bullwhip, single tail... Asked him about the experience he had and he mentioned quite a lot of crops, paddles and whips, sounded believable, so I warmed him up and he started screaming and yelling like crazy, I thought he hasn't safeworded and it's part of his game (some people get off on that) mind you at that point it was still just a spanking with my bare hands. He was trashing and yelling so much, that I thought I risk "breaking the mood", especially since he yelled that he had "forgotten this freaking word that makes you stop", turns out he couldn't take even a spanking. I sat him down, reminded him of the "experience" he claimed, and he told me that he did watch those videos so often.... It wasn't a nice experience for him, so just be honest and let them guide you, they do have more experience and can lead you in another direction in case one thing doesn't work out as it did in your fantasy... Hmm, by trashing do you mean crying? Just curious, I can't remember hearing that word before besides trash talking. I got a question, did alot of the people end up not enjoying their first time with you? This is something i must experience, i just hope i don't regret it. If i do, i'll at least not act like that guy from your story..

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 8:02:19 AM)
No by thrashing I mean flapping, flailing around like I stuck his fingers into an electric socket, trying to break out of his restrains (sorry, missed an H but maybe you are familiar with the expression thrashing around like a fish on shore - you get the idea) and yes, screaming and crying... This guy was an exception, usually people who were new came and said so, you sit down with them and you try to find out what they are trying to achieve, you tell them what to expect, you also mention that some things might be quite different in real life and actually experiencing them than they were in their fantasies. The more honest somebody is, the better it turns out usually, you know if somebody claims that he has experience in something and then he doesn't, you do wonder a bit, you also wonder a bit if he was honest about his medical issues and you are more distrustful of everything he said, which doe have an effect of how you interact. My advise would be, you do tell her that you always wanted to experience it, and let her run with it.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 8:05:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Strange that the disconnect between fantasy and reality was that big, though. We're talking yawning chasm, here. Not really, you know quite a lot of people fantasize about something and they aren't prepared for the reality. I mean just think about the ever popular "I wanna live in your cellar for the rest of my life, chained and beaten, tortured..." I do wonder how they would feel being chained there for 2 days with a bucket as a toilet and ignored because I might not be in the mood to torture them... Or guys who fantasize about "toilet service" because fantasies just don't smell...

OttersSwim -> RE: Where do i pay for fantasy (5/25/2011 8:20:32 AM)
OP, I would agree with being honest. Look, if you find yourself tied up there and she is not hitting you hard enough...you can easily ask her to hit harder. Frankly, for a first time visit, she is likely to start slow and light and see how you do - it takes nothing to "ramp it up" if you are doing okay with it, but a couple of strikes harder than you are prepared for will entirely color if not ruin your experience. Be straight up honest with her, and when you get up there, actually feel what is happening to you - it is not a macho contest to "endure". It is something to "ride", fully experience, and hopefully enjoy. There is no shame in crying out, in tears, or admitting that you have a pain tolerance. Especially your first time. You are paying to have an experience. Don't let your bravado get in the way of your actually experiencing it.

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