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Aneirin -> Would you date an Aspie ? (5/26/2011 4:52:07 AM)
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Aspie, a common and more friendly term for a person with Asperger's syndrome which is so defined in many ways, but overall social anxiety seems to be a common theme. But as more and more adults seem to be given diagnosi of Aspergers Syndrome, this opens up many questions and that as so far since Asperger's syndrome has come to the fore, it was and still is more common to talk about the young who have been diagnosed, what difficulties they will face in the coming years, totally forgetting about those adults who have been diagnosed later in their life and have got through life with the 'problem' that seems to draw all the attention with the young.
Many adults who at whatever time in their life gain a diagnosis of AS receive it with positive elation and that not because they suddenly have a disorder that entitles them to more attention in life, because there is precious little of that as it is, but because it gives meaning to all those misunderstandings and outright failures one has experienced through life, failures one nevers sees another making. But when the dust has settled and one has come to terms with their supposed inadeqacies, it presents another problem, a problem that in once aware of the things one cannot do, or receive much difficulty and confusion in doing, one tends to keep clear of such situations whereas in the past they would have tried and kept trying from all angles. I will say this, as one so diagnosed, it makes for a lonely life, because although many think they know what an aspie is like, they don't, for aspies just like everyone else feel, the problem is in communicating that feeling. The resultant is aspies tend to indulge in their 'special interest' where they can be in their own world cut off from the realities of life, purely as self defense, perhaps what makes such people appear geeky or not interested in human interaction or affection.
I have and still wonder at the use of all these diagnosi to society, what purpose does it serve if it alienates and the only reason I can come up with, is societal acceptance, the premise that once a person's medical problems are known, the person suffers less suspicion and antagonism for being the odd ball whatever that lives on their own keeping away from people, you know, the norm of society as it is expected, but it does make for a lonely life for the diagnosed if they are not already in an understanding relationship.
But as to my question,the title of this posting, given that more and more adults are being diagnosed with some degree of Asperger's syndrome these days, what does anyone actually know about Asperger's syndrome, for there are too many descriptions often conflicting on the net as it is, would anyone date an aspie if they knew they were aspies ?
What I think I am asking is would a possible date be more comfortable with another if they were honest and admitted their difficulties up front before the commencement of interactions, or best left for another to find out themselves, bearing in mind some of the 'net' descriptions are that of aspies come across as cold and disinterested, something which is purely the failure in human interaction that some aspies experience, it does not mean they don't feel, they just do not know how to express it.
Truth or dishonesty?
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