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ParappaTheDapper -> Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 1:08:30 PM)

I've found that both in social situations and work situations, I tend to gravitate toward women with dominant personalities. I don't mean women who I think are sexually Dominants. I mean that when I'm meeting a new group of people, or when I have an issue at work, the way I tend to relate to groups is by befriending and seeking the counsel of women with strong personalities. My own personality is pretty forceful, and I don't find myself backing down from other people either socially or professionally, but I find that my comfort zone is definitely confiding in and hanging out with strong women. I trust them, and I trust in my ability to deal with them.

When I have personal issues I tend to confide in women, and if I'm having problems with someone in my social clique my instinct is often to go to a high status woman and ask her advice or even for informal mediation. Likewise at work, if there is some kind of issue, I tend to seek out female superiors.

Do other submissives feel a similar urge to hang out with and to some degree rely on strong personality types of your preferred gender?



stef -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 1:29:36 PM)

No.

~stef



ParappaTheDapper -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 1:33:34 PM)

Thanks!

Parappa



littlewonder -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 1:45:07 PM)

no. I simply hang out with people who I build a rapport with and we connect on a friendly basis. 



myotherself -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 1:54:54 PM)

at work I AM the strong forceful one. The one who gets things done and will keep on pushing others until it's done properly.

I tend to hang out with people who make me laugh and who seem to be thoroughly decent. Some are more passive, some more forceful.



0ldhen -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 2:26:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

at work I AM the strong forceful one. The one who gets things done and will keep on pushing others until it's done properly.

I tend to hang out with people who make me laugh and who seem to be thoroughly decent. Some are more passive, some more forceful.



Ditto on your comment.

And....I am so jealous of your new hat.



myotherself -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 2:30:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: 0ldhen




And....I am so jealous of your new hat.


It's delicious. Black olives and anchovies. Want a slice?



OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 2:49:38 PM)

On the contrary - I positively avoid dominant types, male or female. I find them irritating and presumptious, probably because I am kind of loud and dominant in my personality. We'd clash too much. Funny people however, now that's another story, I positively love being around them.

owned xxx



ParappaTheDapper -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:01:37 PM)

Thanks for answering the question and hello. :)

I have to say, wow, all these answers have been really eye-opening for me. I have a naturally pretty strong personality, and nothing feels more natural for me than to forge friendships and alliances with women who have forceful and dominant personal qualities. I just assumed this was a common trait among people who identified as submissive and it is fascinating and rather exciting to learn that so far this isn't the case. It's always a rush to have some preconceived notion one has held for a long time suddenly challenged by evidence! :)


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ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh

On the contrary - I positively avoid dominant types, male or female. I find them irritating and presumptious, probably because I am kind of loud and dominant in my personality. We'd clash too much. Funny people however, now that's another story, I positively love being around them.

owned xxx




Charnegui -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:16:25 PM)

In normal life and daily situations I tend to be the 'dominant' one. I organise and do the things, the guys at work can't fix. That's also part of my urge to be submissive to my Man.
Part of the reason I surrender to him is, that I take care of myself for a very long time, mentally speaking as my parents always let me be. My parents were caring, but too occupied with their own issues to take proper care of me and my sis.

My biggest wish ever is still to give all control away, but I'm also scared of giving all control to another.
I think the 'right' one will understand and do it in a way that's very comfortable for me also.

And for better understanding, I work oil and piping industries as wel as construction and building. I'm often the only or one of the few women, working at the construction site.

edited for typo's



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:17:04 PM)

I do not seek out dominants or submissives, rather I *identify* dominants and submissives. This is helpful in my knowing how to effectively communicate.



ParappaTheDapper -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:19:24 PM)

Interesting. I hate to derail my own thread here, but I've always been fascinated by the ways we (I do it too) seek to identify doms and subs in the wild. What are some things you look for, and how effective are you at it?

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I do not seek out dominants or submissives, rather I *identify* dominants and submissives. This is helpful in my knowing how to effectively communicate.




ParappaTheDapper -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:20:29 PM)

Oh wow! I can see how those would be very much male dominated (no pun intended) fields. That would definitely skew the social dynamic significantly!
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ORIGINAL: Charnegui

In normal life and daily situations I tend to be the 'dominant' one. I organise and do the things, the guys at work can't fix. That's also part of my urge to be submissive to my Man.
Part of the reason I surrender to him is, that I take care of myself for a very long time, mentally speaking as my parents always let me be. My parents were caring, but too occupied with their own issues to take proper care of me and my sis.

My biggest wish ever is still to give all control away, but I'm also scared of giving all control to another.
I think the 'right' one will understand and do it in a way that's very comfortable for me also.

And for better understanding, I work oil and piping industries as wel as construction and building. I'm often the only of one of the few women, working at the construction site.





trueshadow -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:39:12 PM)

I am terribly attracted to powerful, dominant women at work, but I don't hang out with them because they generally hang out with other higher level staff.  I've fantasized about being their slaves, though.  Because of everything, I'd only respond if they made the first move, and that has never happened.

I generally hang out with other people at my own level.  I think that is the way it is with most people.  We all are comfortable with those of us at the same level in the company.



Charnegui -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/28/2011 3:42:30 PM)

I hang out with all on site... from management to constructionteam and builders.... I don't do 'levels'

Ow and I do have a pic fully dressed to go on an inspectiontour :)
Must say it is one of the most charming, ever taken of me *grinnnnn*



txurinal -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/29/2011 7:52:04 AM)

i don't really "hang out" with those i work with although i really get along with both males and females of all tupes. i must say however when it comes to dealing with superiors ( and by that i mean managers), i find it easier to work with males than i do the females



leadership527 -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/29/2011 8:42:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ParappaTheDapper
Do other submissives feel a similar urge to hang out with and to some degree rely on strong personality types of your preferred gender?

Yes, Carol is strongly attracted to socially dominant males (as opposed to "doms"). She doesn't "rely" on them. She seeks to serve them and just generally be around them.



sexyred1 -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/29/2011 9:02:42 AM)

I don't seek out others who are Dominant or submissive nor do I think you can "identify" them walking down Fifth Avenue or making assumptions of their sexual proclivities through average contact, at work or in social situations.

I think that would be somewhat presumptuous and inaccurate. I doubt anyone meeting me would immediately think, oh, she is a submissive.



juliaoceania -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/29/2011 10:24:43 AM)

I tend to get along best with men that have dominant personalities or who have authority over me in some way...

I tend to clash with dominant women that have authority over me...Not openly mind you, but I do not feel comfortable with it, and I avoid those situations... Although I get along swimmingly with women that have authority, yet act submissively....

And yes, I have contemplated the reasons for this. I am not submissive to other women, although I can work in a team with other submissive women (equals in other words) even if they have "authority".

I like to please dominant men. I do not have to be attracted to them, it is enough that I respect them.

I do not consider myself a service submissive, because people tend to think of service submissives as housekeepers. My skill set would be wasted, even though I would love nothing more than to keep a house and do nothing else[:D]... I have ambitions for myself, in other words



sweetbiggal -> RE: Do you seek out dominant personality types of your preferred gender in every day situations? (5/29/2011 1:21:48 PM)

I think I just seek out good people.  It doesn't matter if they are dominant or submissive, just that they are not rude or anything like that.



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