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PhilSlave -> RE: Is it weird when a member on here wants to know about your private life beyond what you share? (5/31/2011 4:53:23 AM)
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ORIGINAL: aromanholiday
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave
Is it weird when a member on here wants to know about your private life beyond what you share?
What do others think?
I'm only going to address one tiny aspect of this. There are, obviously, other reasons why this happens (for example, sometimes it is a form of flattery or a sign you have intrigued people.)
There is a really sick thing that goes on in most message boards, and I have noticed it occurring here more and more. When a small number of well known but extremely jaded and bitter posters don't agree with someone's (usually a new poster's) messages, they will scan the writer's profile for clues that will let them make bald and slanderous suppositions about that person's personality. They will display these sick little trinkets of their nosy snooping for all the public to see like they are solid gold, rather than the intellectual offal they really are. Some posters here are so sickly obsessive that they turn to Google or other kink sites to find more stuff you've written or disclosed under a particular user name, and then they try to use all these morbidly gossipy tidbits that their nosiness turns up about who you may be to discredit the message you are making. I think of it as taking an ad hominem attack to it's most disgusting extreme. If I ever do this sort of thing I hope somebody will just shoot me and put me out of my misery. In my valuation system, I won't deserve the title of "human" after behaving in such a vile manner.
You know that such sickness has reached a "no turning back" stage of extreme emotional toxicity when the despicable parody threads start. The mods used to cut down on that sort of extreme crapola here. But they're allowing more and more ugliness to stay in now, and it's coloring the tenor of the boards: making the general readership more suspicious and far less inclined to post. On some days this place reminds me of Literotica's General Board. (In case you don't know that place--lucky you--what I've just said is about the deepest insult you can offer a message board.) OK, maybe the forum connected with The Stile Project is a bit lower in the fecal ooze than Lit's GB...but not by much.
Why don't such people, if they so strongly disagree with a message that they want to start a witch hunt/lynching against the person who posted it, just logically and effectively present a counterargument that demolishes it? Two words: they can't. It takes some work above the neck, you see.
Additionally, like those most despised in the field of journalism, such individuals are also having way too much fun digging up the dirt on you: indulging their piggish and hateful little sense of righteousness and desires to snoop in the process. Letting such sick individuals (usually long-term established posters) carry on with this sort of infantile retaliatory behavior ultimately kills a message board. In the moment, such threads can increase readership, but when non-posters read them, they often decide never to post due to the hostile and derisive crap that gets thrown in the way of new participants who have a strong opinion about something that majority doesn't agree with. So there isn't enough fresh new input coming in and the message board becomes staler and staler, duller and duller, with the just repetitive obsessions and mutual-masturbatory "I wuv you sooo much!" group strokings of the general cliques getting aired, like farts held in the body for far too long.
Thank you and well said. What you have is a number of 'regular' posters wanting far more information than is normal about anothers personal life, because they do not like his opinions. As they are on almost allday every day, often the moderation is in on these group strokings. It's extremely weird.
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