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RE: How do you know? What would you do? - 5/14/2006 7:03:14 PM

DrkAngl

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I was an abused wife, but got mad enough to fight back. If someone had actually said something, done something, it might not of happened. That man whom was hitting the child might now have set in the back of his mind that he'd better keep his ass straight because the next time he does it, well..there is always someone bigger and badder than he is. It will at least get him to thinking a little bit.

My late husband was like that, when he was confronted, the edge came off really damned quick. I've no compassion for men who can't control themselves. All of these abusers should be castrated, but that's my five cents worth.

I've also stepped in between a neighbor and her teenage daughter. She was smacking her around. My presence there gave her daughter enough time to go upstairs and shut her door. It also gave the mom some cool off time.

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RE: How do you know? What would you do? - 5/14/2006 11:07:45 PM

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OnyxGoddess: yes as I said before a BIG difference between discipline and child abuse, We have to train/teach our children what is right and wrong, but as I said a smack on the butt is NOT child abuse. My youngest learned that crap well if you spank me, I can call HRS, I would always tell her to go for it but, to remember that if and when she did they could come and take her from me,and she would be taken to someone else's house and I couldn't protect her there, and that some of the people are really child molesters etc, (hehe) her little butt never said those words to me again. Note: she was never spanked with other then my hand on her ass.
feastie: Down here the last few years they are finding that to be a major problem. People can't leave kids in the car down here in this heat, even pets.
And in my book leaving a 4yr old with an 8month old alone in the car is neglect!!!!

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RE: How do you know? What would you do? - 5/15/2006 10:59:03 PM

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I don't agree completely about some of the posts. I am a huge advocate of children, however I have spanked my children in public, and from time to time I have "popped" them in the mouth quickly and lightly when they said something extremely inappropriate. Now I have never split their lip, or broken teeth, or even caused a "handprint". Sometimes, if a child says something for shock value, I believe an equal response is warranted.

Of course I also washed their mouths out with soap. I would bite them on the heel of their hand when they went through the biting stage at ages 2-4. I would take their bedroom door off the hinge for a week if they could not be trusted with their privacy. etc, etc, etc.... My kids never quite knew what "punishment" was coming, but they DID know that
1.) I'd never punish without cause.
2.) I'd strive to make the punishment fit the crime.
3.) They really didn't want to take a chance on what Momma was gonna come up with next if they misbehaved on purpose.

I now have a 16 yr old and a 22 yr old... both strong, confident, well-adjusted young men. I am proud of both of them, and they seem to be proud of me. (My 22 yr old is here on CM and sends prospects to ME - LOL)

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RE: How do you know? What would you do? - 5/16/2006 12:07:08 AM

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Like Mistresslove99 said, theres a difference one can tell between abuse and discipline, hell when I was that young I got similar treatment, but even I was able to tell the difference between where I was getting beaten and where I was actually being punished, in the situation I saw it wasent punishment, it wasent discipline, it was a grown man beating on a little girl in heavy anger, coupled with abusive communication and general treatment.

and a 22 year old huh? lol, just a year older than I am.

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