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RE: adding sprinkles to vanilla - 5/13/2006 7:21:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: mitsu
I was wondering if anyone out there has ideas about how to introduce a new partner to SM. I tend not to date within "the scene," and a lot of boys are sketched out by (their own prejudices against) non-vanilla sex.

Well, I was introduced to my dominant side by a semi-pro domme in NYC when I was in college, so I hit almost exactly your situation. She was very straightforward with me one night we were at her place (we went to school together and had become friends), I was giving her a backrub and she asked me to spank her, hard. I was into her, which is what helped me get past my nice suburban upbringing, and 15 minutes later I knew this was something I was REALLY into.

I think the problem a lot of women have is that the guys they pick simply are not and never will be doms, it isn't a matter of how to "sell" them on it. There are a lot of guys out there who seem meek and too-nice at 20, precisely because the few times they were dominant with Lucy in high school she freaked out, so the guy learned not to do that or girls would get upset. Make your goal to find one of those guys, and it won't take much effort at all to unlock his potential.

I'd look more at how/who you're meeting and explore ways to find the right guys. You're obviously stunning and probably get hit on a lot just living life in NYC, but it's all the wrong guys hitting on you.

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RE: adding sprinkles to vanilla - 5/14/2006 9:31:31 AM

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Hi Taggard,
I'm not excluding guys who identify as doms/tops/sadists. I just don't meet many of them w/ whom I'm otherwise compatible! I'm interested in a relationship in which bdsm is mostly confined to the bedroom (or dungeon, or kitchen, or whatever). Also, relationships in New York are harder than you'd expect. Think Seinfeld. Or (cringe) Sex in the City. Issues galore!

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