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seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 6:48:57 PM   
SlutlingSlaveBoy


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So I have been unowned for sometime now, I am eager to find a new Mistress so i figured I would make this post to see if I can learn some tips or something from it.

What do you look for when hunting a slave? what qualities do you try to find in a slave? do you prefer them trained or do you like training them? what tips would to give to a slave seeking the collar?
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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 6:53:49 PM   
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As a tip, I'd say... do what you'd do if you were looking for a vanilla partner... behind our roles, we are still human beings.

I use the word partner, and not playmate, because collaring requires a degree of devotion, not so unlike to a "regular" relationship.

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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:07:58 PM   
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When slave hunting i look for the ones that are in season for that time of year and make sure I have my hunting tags in order.

ok couldn't resist.

Seriously, what Deviantman said.

We are people first not a dynamic.

Talk to women like they are PEOPLE. realize there is more to life then your kinks.

Be polite and talk about everyday interests not just bdsm things.

There is a group on fetlife called "Return to Sender" if you want to know what NOT to say to a female dominant, that will give you ALOT of ideas.

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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:12:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha

When slave hunting i look for the ones that are in season for that time of year and make sure I have my hunting tags in order.



And now, I get to watch the sunrise, picturing the BDSM version of the "Duck season-Rabbit season argument"... preferably with Duffy in a leather harness, and Bugs in a latex catsuit....


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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:13:36 PM   
Nanako


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Hello ^__^

You could do with a picture!
Your profile comes across as very aggressive, but also a little desperate. there's not much in there about your interests/personality/etc. no real conversation hooks

90% of your profile is about D/s, and then there's a tiny section at the end about you/. I think you should take that tiny section, and flesh it out into the main body of your profile. Rewrite the D/s stuff to seem less pushy, and put it down a bit

Hope that helps ^^ you could check on the mistress forum stickies for more info


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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:15:03 PM   
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I'm a community person.  I don't do any looking on websites at all.  This means I never have to deal with folks who aren't willing to go out, misrepresent themselves on profiles, or any of that other noise.  I get to know them as a human being that way, without all of the other nonsense. 

In most cases, I do happen to like folks who have experience, rather than not.  That way, even if we haven't gotten to the stage where we are discussing our various specific definition of terms, we still at least have a place to start.  I don't have to explain that poly means multiple relationships or what's the definition of a sadist. 

Also, I like in person better because I'm not thrilled with the kink list or screen names that are overtly sexual. 


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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:21:41 PM   
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Do you want a friend who cares about you, or is your priority to be owned as quickly as possible?

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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 7:50:18 PM   
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my advice is what does the collar mean to you. for some it is a symbol of submission and devotion not unlike a mariage meaningfull and significant. and others treat it more like a freindship band traded around and changed at whim. as far as finding someone it is best to go out to the local munches and find bdsm clubs to attend. try new things and see what you like and dislike you never know where the path will lead you

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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 8:47:11 PM   
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simply put, and to the point,  Deviantman.



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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 9:02:31 PM   
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Beyond all else said (and this might have been, i only skimmed):  Just be yourself, not what you think someone might be looking for.  If someone likes who you present yourself to be, and they end up disillusioned, it will generally end quickly and badly.  I know that you want to put your "best foot forward" and that's ok.  Just make sure that shoe really fits.


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RE: seeking the collar - 5/30/2011 11:31:19 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

my advice is what does the collar mean to you. for some it is a symbol of submission and devotion not unlike a mariage meaningfull and significant. and others treat it more like a freindship band traded around and changed at whim. as far as finding someone it is best to go out to the local munches and find bdsm clubs to attend. try new things and see what you like and dislike you never know where the path will lead you


clip has absolutely nailed it here!



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RE: seeking the collar - 5/31/2011 4:09:41 AM   
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Reminds me of the time I was taken to a "drag hunt" (since fox hunting was made illegal, drag hunts have replaced the old hunt in many palces), I remember being a little disappointed to discover that the person dragging the lure wasn't actually wearing a comedy fox costume.

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RE: seeking the collar - 5/31/2011 10:43:31 PM   
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Be yourself! Even if youre the most submissive being on the planet , youre still a person just as the dominant is. There has to be some sort of connection and not just the willingnes to suck toes etc etc.

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RE: seeking the collar - 6/1/2011 5:39:28 PM   
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Have to agree with LP and clip...an overtly sexual name and "how do I get insta collar" post IS NOT the way to go about it!!! Someone real, that understands I am first and foremost a woman, that happens to enjoy ropes and whips behind closed doors is what interests me. Training is a matter of preference because what I like and find appropriate may be very different from others that one served. MY way isn't THE way...just the only way to be with me!

Get out to a munch, be sincere and gentlemanly is the way to get attention (though clip had the bonus on his side of being hot). Being a boot licking wanker not only won't get you noticed it might get you kicked out in a non-kinky or consentual way.

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