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To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 3:25:52 PM

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OK - yes I know, prolly been asked in one hundred threads before and I should go seek the threads to answer them rather than start a new one - but hey! Call this xmas - new thread, new start.

As the question asks - what is D/s to you? A lifestyle of Domination and submissiveness - Sado/Masochism? Even Gorean or simply Master and slave? Love and/or obedience.

See where this could lead.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 3:29:17 PM

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To me Ds is a relationship based on the conscious authority dynamic on which one adheres to the authority of the other.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 3:40:01 PM

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It's just assigning responsibities to each other. Dom is in charge of decisions. Sub is responsible to adhere with those decisions. The Dom since he is in charge of the decisions is ultimately responsible for making bad decisions, or good ones. The blame always rests at the feet of those in postions of authority. The Sub is responsible for working with the Dom to make the doms decisions happen and following the Doms instructions.

Really it's just one handing over some control and responsiblities to the Dom for another set of responsiblities laid out by the Dom. So, Doms are generally more control oriented and subs are more duty oriented. Exchange one responsiblity for another more favorable responsiblity.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 3:41:27 PM

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What is D/s?

Duct tape / superglue.

Duh.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 3:46:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

What is D/s?

Duct tape / superglue.

Duh.

Sinergy

Oooooo, sounds like a hot scene!!

For myself, D/s is me making an informed, intelligent decision to honour and obey the desires, and wishes, of the one I choose to put in a place of authority.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 4:13:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

What is D/s?

Duct tape / superglue.

Duh.

Sinergy

Oooooo, sounds like a hot scene!!

For myself, D/s is me making an informed, intelligent decision to honour and obey the desires, and wishes, of the one I choose to put in a place of authority.

Cin

What she said.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 4:19:08 PM

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Ask me no questions, I will tell you no stories about correcting an uppity submissive at a play party...

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p.s. Duct tape is like the Force. It has a light side and a dark side and holds the universe together.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 5:08:10 PM

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Well, to take this thread back to what the OP asked.

Short answer, Gorean. As, well, that's what I am.

Long answer.

D/s is the taking of power from another. Whether that taking of power is intentional (such as most D/s relationships that you will find here), or unitentional (most "vanilla" relationships).

D/s is disipline from the Top/Master/Dom/Domme/whathaveyou to the sub/slave/bottom/pony/whathaveyou.

D/s is the want of one to control, and the want of another to be controlled.

D/s is life.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 5:09:24 PM

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edited, hit button to many times, grrrrrrr

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 5:13:43 PM

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For me, D/s is a relationship based on consensual Power exchange. The Dom being the authority figure, the submissive giving him/her that authority.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 5:15:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

Ask me no questions, I will tell you no stories about correcting an uppity submissive at a play party...

Sinergy

p.s. Duct tape is like the Force. It has a light side and a dark side and holds the universe together.

I once heard of a slave who apparently had a thing for having her pussy glued shut with superglue. Since I've never met her in person I've relegated it to Urban Legend status in my mind, although I suppose it could work for some people. Seems awful unhealthy to me, but then I'm not the one allowing it.

Duct tape, yes...I've never made it's aquantance in a scene but I've definitely seen it used. I'm a cling wrap girl, myself.

Cin

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 5:30:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

I once heard of a slave who apparently had a thing for having her pussy glued shut with superglue.

Why would I glue shut something I planned on using later?

I tend to not forget who is in charge in our interactions.

She was uppity so I superglued her nose to the wall when she refused to stand in the corner.

A few hours later, the superglue remover. Besides which, my hands were tired from spanking her best friend.

And yes, I got lucky when we (my sub and I ) got back to the hotel that night. I was able to tell my friends that she can be taught!

Sinergy

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 6:54:05 PM

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D/s is the expression of dominance and submission in a relationship.

Whether that relationship lasts five minutes or a lifetime is irrelevant. Whether the dominance or submission is extreme or casual is irrelevant. Whether the expression is physically sexual or service oriented or anywhere in between is irrelevant.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 6:56:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
She was uppity so I superglued her nose to the wall when she refused to stand in the corner.

I can see how that would be effective. Try to resist that and you end up with a skinless nose. Try explaining that at work the next day!

I agree about the superglued pussy...Doesn't sound like my idea of being useful, or ready to serve...

Cin

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 7:22:33 PM

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D/s to me is the aspect of having a dominant in control of at least some aspects of a relationship with a submissive. In M/s relationships I see this as complete control. Such relationship is based on the wishes and will of the Master, many of whom seem to want to keep their slaves happy so the relationship works to both's benefits.

I see Sadomasochism as a separate entity that may or may not be associated with D/s. For example, I am a Dominant, but also a committed sadomasochist. I love pain play from both sides. However, scenes where the Top tries to ultimately Dom me tend not to work out well. I resist (unconciously mind you). Play ends. Vice versa, I can Top without domming my bottom. However sadomasochism would be a nice addition to a D/s relationship should it develop in the future, but I know I would need my submissive or slave be able to pick up the whip every now and then and use it.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 7:30:21 PM

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Dominance and submission is, for me, simply the reflection of one individual's control and another's yielding. It can be voluntary or involuntary, it can be explicit or implied, it can be long-term or brief, full-time or for brief interludes. The term D/s is a broad brush with which to paint any relationship that revolves around one or more individuals who hold power over one or more other individuals.

Sadism and masochism may be D/s, if there is that power/yielding thing going on as well... or it may just be two people fulfilling their own personal needs to give or get pain. Gorean lifestyle is a form of D/s, reinforced by a particular philosophical mindset. Master/slave, again, is a form of D/s, and more of a matter of "what are we calling our brand of D/s" than a completely separate entity. Some consider it to be more involved, but D/s, being as broad as it is, can cover everything from the most subtle displays of dominance and submission to the most extreme, so M/s, no matter its particulars in a given relationship, is going to be a subset of D/s. As for love and obedience, obedience is a requisite part of D/s. If one does not submit to the command of the dominant party, as displayed by one's obedience, there is no D/s dynamic there. Love, on the other hand, is completely optional. Some cannot think of entering a D/s dynamic without it, some have no particular interest in having love mixed up with their D/s, some D/s relationships are inherently not love-oriented by their nature (in particular, the non-consentual forced D/s relationships like many Tyrant/subject relationships), and in most, love grows or fades in its own time through the life of the relationship.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sab

OK - yes I know, prolly been asked in one hundred threads before and I should go seek the threads to answer them rather than start a new one - but hey! Call this xmas - new thread, new start.

As the question asks - what is D/s to you? A lifestyle of Domination and submissiveness - Sado/Masochism? Even Gorean or simply Master and slave? Love and/or obedience.

See where this could lead.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 7:41:22 PM

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D/s to me is...
That you really enjoy doing what I want to do to, and with you. The fact that it is what I want, and demand, adds just a little or a lot more to you wanting it and enjoying it. Even if you did not desire the act, the giving makes the act satisfying.
Ideally, you are happy to be you as you are, and to be the additional joy to another in making them even happier, makes you happier too.
Maybe you have desires that wish to be fulfilled. Another who demands it can fulfill. Maybe you have a bit of guilt about your desires. But if another demands them, the guilt is lost in service.
D/s is symbiotic, Give and take. It frees the giver and taker, in the bounds of D/s. No guilt, no abuse. Mutual desires fulfilled.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 10:57:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

I once heard of a slave who apparently had a thing for having her pussy glued shut with superglue.

Why would I glue shut something I planned on using later?

Sinergy

Heh, because then she can't use it! Superglue on the pussy only lasts a few hours. So if you have something to do, you can always superglue her pussy shut and it'll be ready for you later when you want it.

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/13/2006 11:52:15 PM

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quote:

Why would I glue shut something I planned on using later?

Sinergy

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Heh, because then she can't use it! Superglue on the pussy only lasts a few hours. So if you have something to do, you can always superglue her pussy shut and it'll be ready for you later when you want it.

**hmmm....absent mindedly remembering past events**

It only lasts a few hours if she is very dry to start with. When we...ummm...he...ummm....THEY (yeah, now I've got it right) tried this, it ended up that she was so wet with anticipation that all the wiping in the world didn't make it dry enough to stick at all.

Fantasy meeting reality can be a crushing blow.....lol

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RE: To you, what is D/s? - 5/14/2006 12:01:32 AM

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What is D/s to me? Giving to the One who has the power to be the benevolent dictator, the permission to dominate me while my will to disobey him and control him dissipates like fog reaching pure sun. Leaving only light and joy where there was previously confusion.

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