RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help?

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angelikaJ -> RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help? (6/2/2011 6:45:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shaym35 Thanks everybody. As I sit here typing this he is talking to others. I asked him if we could talk later, so we will. I have made plans to remove myself from his household in the next 3 weeks, and am just waiting to tell him... It's odd, I really knew from the start what I should do, but still was trying to figure out a way to get some positive attention from him... Again, thank you all for listening. So, ask him what that is about? Tell him you know, and that it hurts. You moved to be with him, not to be his afterthought/ You moved to serve him well and he will not allow you to and instead gives those attentions to other people.

masterlink65 -> RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help? (6/6/2011 7:10:36 AM)
You have been there 2 months and you love him with all your heart? Two months and no D/s ? He is chatting up and cruising while you are in bed next to him, while not getting what you need? Is the entire story being told? I would run as fast as i can to get away, buy a bus ticket, hitch hike. I would leave if I was not getting what I needed.

kalikshama -> RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help? (6/7/2011 11:30:15 AM)
quote: I'm treated as a girlfriend and nothing more... I have brought this up with him and he has given me many excuses as to why this is. One being that he sees me as his equal... Another that he's been too busy and stressed to deal with training... It's hurtful... On top of it all, though he tries to hide it (not well) he talks to girls online while he is cuddling me You've moved in with my ex!!! He was amazing long distance but could not deliver IRL. Because I too had uprooted myself to move in with him, I gave him several months. He never changed, and I ended the BDSM part of our relationship but continued to live with him as I did enjoy other aspects of his persona. He never ended his online addiction (which didn't bother me) and another woman moved in with us 3 years ago. This was fine with me as I liked her and she was supposed to take over cleaning. I eventually moved out. The new "sub" is still waiting for him to be the domly guy he was when they were long distance. His online stuff makes her crazy so he endeavors to hide it from her. They do care for each other very much, but are clearly incompatible. Oh, I had tried to move out many times before I succeeded, and he put on a full court press to stop me. Your guy may do the same. If you must, give him ONE chance.

SailingBum -> RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help? (6/7/2011 6:39:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shaym35 Alright, I'm not sure where else to go for help here... I met a man on here late last year and have relocated for him... I've been living here for 2 months now but the problem is that once I got here the D/s aspect has barely been a thing. I have a hard time acting submissive, let alone a slave, to somebody who barely tries. I'm treated as a girlfriend and nothing more... I have brought this up with him and he has given me many excuses as to why this is. One being that he sees me as his equal... Another that he's been too busy and stressed to deal with training... It's hurtful... On top of it all, though he tries to hide it (not well) he talks to girls online while he is cuddling me... Saying he needs a slut/slave/et cetera... I mean... I feel bad for looking, but he was doing it right there, beside me... But... This is what I want! I'm sure there is more going on than I have figured out so far... He doesn't want me to leave, and has told me that... But I want to 'inspire' him to be my Sir/Daddy/Master/Dom... I was considering after I do my chores around here, I dress up nice in my plaid skirt, put everything out on the bed and leave a note saying that I'm waiting for him in his room for him as he wants me... I feel like it might inspire him to be his Dominant master self, as well as open up things for discussion... And I would also just enjoy it... Perhaps that isn't the best plan, but it's what i've come up with so far. Talking only seems to get me so far. I was thinking a note may be good as well. I'm just not sure where to start with it or what to say. He knows what I want, and he knows I need to be inspired... I would just like some advice if anybody has any... I've never been in a situation like this, and I do truly love him with all my heart... Please... Just some advice, anything. I am feeling neglected and don't know what to do... Golly gee I get to give the same advice in two different threads... you've known the guy letseee a whole 10 months pack up all yer shit and move in with him and now your complaining that he is the the person you thought he was. Now whos the moron here... So you come lookin for advice after the fact. What you post should read. "Ive been talking to a guy for 10 months and he asked me to relocate" Duh BadOne

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Lacking the D/s aspect with him... Help? (6/8/2011 12:15:47 AM)
adores the Bad One [sm=hearts.gif]

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