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Are there no female dommes who are only interested in r... - 6/2/2011 4:56:28 AM

ryansub1

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Hi everyone

I have been messaging various dommes on here... and it seems that most of them are only interested in online domination, or at least want online domination before meeting in real time

Now, i am not particularly interested in online, but it seems to almost be a requierment? I am inexperienced when it comes to bdsm, so if anyone can tell me whether it is a must when it comes to finding a domme then i would be grateful :)

Or are there dommes who are only interested in real time?

thanks

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 4:59:02 AM

LadyConstanze

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Get thee to a munch where you meet people fact to face, I doubt that they will then order you back to the computer to do online...

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:00:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Get thee to a munch where you meet people fact to face, I doubt that they will then order you back to the computer to do online...

quote:

LadyConstanze

a munch? do you mean like a fetish event?

are you interested in real time btw?

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:07:32 AM

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Hi there, Ryan.

It is not a requirement at all. I suspect that the Dommes might have been wanting a tribute for the online. Or perhaps they were men presenting as women.

As LC said, just get out and meet people at munches and play groups. Here in the US, being below 21 will limit your venues - I don't know if that's the case in the UK.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:08:40 AM

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Definition of a munch:

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/dictionary/Munches/

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:11:09 AM

LadyConstanze

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Ryan, I'm nowhere near you but in London there are lots and lots of places where you can meet people, a munch is less of a fetish event, it's just people meeting up somewhere in a pub and talking about things and getting to know each other, they will all be dressed discretely and not be in fetish gear. It's a good way to meet people and get to know them, so if you are going to a fetish event or a party, you aren't there all alone and don't know anybody.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:11:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Hi there, Ryan.

It is not a requirement at all. I suspect that the Dommes might have been wanting a tribute for the online. Or perhaps they were men presenting as women.

As LC said, just get out and meet people at munches and play groups. Here in the US, being below 21 will limit your venues - I don't know if that's the case in the UK.

thanks for your response.

some dommes wanted tributes which i ignored straight away of course as many of them are scammers i believe... however some dommes wanted me to do stuff on cam for them... which i am not particularly comfomtable with for reasons which im sure you can imagine aha

in the uk, its not a problem as the age is 18 i think
Welcome to collarme.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:15:20 AM

DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: ryansub1

however some dommes wanted me to do stuff on cam for them... which i am not particularly comfomtable with for reasons which im sure you can imagine aha

Yeah. One reason is that I bet they're as feminine as you or me.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 5:16:10 AM

ryansub1

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yes you're right. There are a lot of fakes on this site it seems

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 3:46:44 PM

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Gee, I often wonder the same thing about the male subs. All so many of them want to do is "perform" for me on webcam. (Not a complaint, just an observation)

< Message edited by Delilya -- 6/2/2011 3:47:35 PM >

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/2/2011 3:52:21 PM

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What LadyConstanze said... most Dommes, or subs, or Doms, or Mistresses, or Masters, or slaves.... will more likely need to trust you, me or whoever, before going for a Real meeting. OK, us guys are mostly more adventurous on that, but... we are in a BDSM meeting site... every meeting idea has a few risks involved, especially with a stranger... getting a cam-to-cam period sort of introduces a hint of trust... you see the other party, you get to judge his danger potential

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 3:19:58 AM

ryansub1

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Thanks for telling me about this. I'll check some out :)

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Ryan, I'm nowhere near you but in London there are lots and lots of places where you can meet people, a munch is less of a fetish event, it's just people meeting up somewhere in a pub and talking about things and getting to know each other, they will all be dressed discretely and not be in fetish gear. It's a good way to meet people and get to know them, so if you are going to a fetish event or a party, you aren't there all alone and don't know anybody.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 4:11:32 AM

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 5:54:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ryansub1

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Get thee to a munch where you meet people fact to face, I doubt that they will then order you back to the computer to do online...

quote:

LadyConstanze

a munch? do you mean like a fetish event?

are you interested in real time btw?

The "Any Port in a Storm" approach makes you look desperate and silly. Women are not interchangeable Lego pieces and you cannot get one to match your couch.

Think hard about what you want beyond getting hard, approach a dominant Lady with respect, show her that there is a person behind the penis.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 6:05:09 AM

ryansub1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

quote:

ORIGINAL: ryansub1

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Get thee to a munch where you meet people fact to face, I doubt that they will then order you back to the computer to do online...

quote:

LadyConstanze

a munch? do you mean like a fetish event?

are you interested in real time btw?

The "Any Port in a Storm" approach makes you look desperate and silly. Women are not interchangeable Lego pieces and you cannot get one to match your couch.

Think hard about what you want beyond getting hard, approach a dominant Lady with respect, show her that there is a person behind the penis.

quote:

OttersSwim

Thankyou, although I have already been told that that remark came across as rude and direct, and I have apologised to Lady Constanze in another topic.

It was never my intention to come across with that approach.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 6:32:30 AM

Killerangel

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There are Dommes interested in RL. It's going to be some work trying to find them and it won't be easy. The suggestion of attending a local munch or meeting was a great one since the proportion of men to women on sites like this is much greater especially if you are looking for a Domme.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 6:59:34 AM

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You've already been given great advice.
If you seek at real life events, munches, meetings and parties, you should find real life encounters.
If you seek online, you'll probably find mostly online encounters.

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RE: Are there no female dommes who are only interested ... - 6/4/2011 8:53:25 AM

ryansub1

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Thanks for your help everyone. I shall be taking all of your advice on board.

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