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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/14/2006 4:41:46 PM   
lilshmekel


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Status: offline 		*has the same "problem" as the as the virgin in refrence to erection time (but im more of a magic twig the magic stick :). Anyway i can say that sex is very enjoyable, if not more when you please the other person, perhaps that's the sub in me talking. But when she would finish and i was still erect i did feel like shit. Not because i didn't get off. But because she wasn't given the satisfaction of pleasing either. It seems involentary for me to slowdown and tense up before release. But as far as my feeling towards my ex after sex nothing got me off more then hearing her cum with out doing it myself.
Perhaps i need therepy?
**this is my first post so be nice**

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/14/2006 8:12:37 PM   
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"Who the hell would want seven virgins anyway?  Give me one professional."  George Clooney, on Islamic Terrorists.

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/14/2006 8:35:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
"Who the hell would want seven virgins anyway?  Give me one professional."  George Clooney, on Islamic Terrorists.


Robin Williams Live on Broadway- "It seems that there was a slight mis-translation of that part of the Koran. Instead of 7 dark haired virgins it's actually 7 crystal clear raisens. As any man that's ever been with one virgin knows, seven isn't anything to get excited about. "For my talent portion " "noooo" ...move on. So the hijacker gets to heaven and goes where's my bitches...here's your raisens... maybe it wasn't worth the trip after all huh?"

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/15/2006 1:27:51 AM   
MistressLove999


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Status: offline 		Hoping to keep this one alive so she will keep us up to date on her progress with him.......

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/15/2006 6:22:22 AM   
merrymasochist


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Status: offline 		Happy morn to everyone,

Level - Lordy, if anyone had told me two weeks ago I'd be asking a man -not- to masturbate, I'd have fallen to the floor in a fit of disbelieving giggles. Thank you for the encouragement Level. It really means a lot to me that from a gent's point of view I'm doing alright so far.

theRose4U - Communication -is- key. I've just got to teach him the vocabulary both verbal and non-verbal because I feel bad when I put him to blush and he doesn't know how to answer. You're right that a good percentage of skill is knowing how to read your partner. I like your way of asking him to refrain. It sounds nice and incentive based and hopefully it will work.

sophia37 - I'm hoping there isn't any "love" involved at all. I want to keep it to friendly affection. Not because I think love is a bad thing, but rather because he and I are at two totally different points in our lives and it just wouldn't work. I'm out to gently corrupt him, not cause him any heartache.

lilschmekel - Welcome to the collarme forums. This seems to be my week of "firsts."  There in lies the trick, I don't want him feeling bad at all if I can help it.  I'm hoping this will cure itself, but just in case it doesn't, when you are going through it, what words would make you feel better?

Sinergy & theRose4U - ~giggles~

MistressLove999 - No worries, I'll keep on with the updates. If this goes as well as I want it to it will be in large part due to y'all good people here.

I've run into yet another snag to ask about. Good ole mother nature has decided to call. I know some gents are squicky about periods, while others don't mind them much at all. I was kind of hoping to have to worry about this later rather than sooner but my luck strikes per usual. Sex on my period doen't bother me, though I will say I'm squeamish about being gone down on during the time. Should I cancel out till I'm done? Tell him I'm on my period and let him decide? Or, should I just not mention it until it becomes a factor?

Have I thanked everyone today for all their patience with my questions? Thank you one and all from the bottom of my heart.

Sincerely,
merry

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/15/2006 4:04:07 PM   
Level


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Status: offline 		As for the period question, bring the subject up, and if he seems to balk, gently put your next "go round" off until the coast is clear lol.
 
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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/15/2006 11:07:50 PM   
MistressLove999


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Status: offline 		I agree, if he says ewwwwww lol well you know the rest.
Doesn't mean you can't see him and sit and talk awhile and get  to know more hmmmmmmmm?

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/15/2006 11:24:32 PM   
xavoc


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Status: offline 		Well, my first time I went the same route...  2 hours later she had to leave to go meet her mother at the bank.  I don't think I finished until the 3rd or 4th time.  Mostly I attribute it to nerves.  If one is too preoccupied with other things then they're not going to be doing so well on concentrating on what they're actually experiencing.

Personally I enjoy knowing that I please my partner than finishing myself.  Though it does get a bit old dealing with insecurities surrounding her ability to orally bring me to orgasm.  I certainly enjoy the act and appreciate the intimacy involved, it's just not easy for me to get there.  Sex during your period could be affected by several things.  His squeamishness, yours, the actual amount of blood involved (as this varies from woman to woman), and exactly how aroused the two of you are.  If all else fails simply put off the oral portion until the tide is out.

Unfortunately it's rather easy for the inexperienced to confuse love and lust.  Or if one has their head wired as such they may simply attach emotions to the act that are not reciprocated.  Likely it is important to reinforce this periodically with him to help avoid confusion and/or anger if it arises.

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/16/2006 3:26:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressLove999

I agree, if he says ewwwwww lol well you know the rest.
Doesn't mean you can't see him and sit and talk awhile and get  to know more hmmmmmmmm?


Good point, ML, they can still proceed in getting to know one another, and build up to the next time.

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/16/2006 6:38:47 AM   
merrymasochist


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Status: offline 		Level & MistressLove999 - Well, I talked to him yesterday and he'd rather hold off while the red flag is a-flying. We're just going out for lunch instead this time. A good time for talk and possibly slide in a mention about holding off on masturbation a bit amongst other things. I'm going to try and gently pick his brains for notions and ideas and see if I can pull it off without putting him too much to blush. It's hard because when he starts blushing, I start blushing and feel like Mrs. Robinson leading him down the wayward path.

xavoc - Thank you for your insights. I'm learning more and more that it's not something I should worry about too much just yet. I'm keeping up with the friendly reminders about his future girlfriends and by pointing out that each girl is different in likes and tastes.

Time for me to feed my forum addictions and grab a nap before I have to meet up with him for lunch. Take care everyone and I'll keep y'all posted. Many thanks to everyone.

Sincerely,
merry

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RE: Virgin Dilemma Update - 5/16/2006 6:44:39 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Coo Coo a Fuckin' choo.........

You Go Joe DiMaggio!

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