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How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/13/2006 9:16:08 PM   
MistyMenthal


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Status: offline 		How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind?
 
I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7.
 
But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You
when You need it the Most!
 
Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc.
 
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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/13/2006 9:28:15 PM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal

How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind?
 
I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7.
 
But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You
when You need it the Most!
 
Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc.
 
KISS ME Misty


Aside from all of the things that you have already mentioned, I hunt, fish, camp, hike, cook, ride motorcycles or watch a good movie amongst many other things.

Just a note....I also did all these things when I was living 24/7. Being 24/7 doesn't mean that you think about whips and chains every moment of the day.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/13/2006 10:07:54 PM   
shygirldesires


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Status: offline 		after reading your profile...what about smoking in the local library .....
shopping for menthal cigars...do they even make them?

i was wondering.... what is so BDSM about using the bathroom or driving to work....
cooking or doing dishes.....
i guess BDSM means playing to you?  and you play all day and nothing else?
damn....  some peeps have all the fun... but then some girls demand to be caged 24/7...
WIITWD sures IS differ for every one 
mmmmmm wonder when you sleep..do you sleep and smoke??

well...Mnday is coming and i have to serve Uncle Sam so he gets his taxes...
*scratches my head..... would that be considered BDSM?

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 12:46:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Just a note....I also did all these things when I was living 24/7. Being 24/7 doesn't mean that you think about whips and chains every moment of the day.


The very point I was about to make

24/7 doesn't mean I spend all day every day with my girl tied to the bedposts, it means the dynamic is in place as much when we are doing the shopping or walking in the park as it is when we are playing. There is no 'down time' for the dynamic, Dom and sub isn't hats to be worn at playtimes, it is just who we are and how our relationship works.

To the actual question posed, how do I relax?.... just like anyone else. Lounge on the couch watching a DVD or with some stratagy game on the PS2. Grab the camera and head off to London zoo. Meet up with a friend to catch a band and a few beers.... 'normal' stuff


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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 1:54:22 AM   
Slipstreme


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Draw and do random artstuffs (I love my art)
Write stories of gory scifi.
Occassionally, I'll crack open a text book and actually study academia without having a reason to.
Read stuffs, usually scifi or nonfiction about animals.
Take photos of things, mostly animals.
Go take a trip in the woods to let my mind relax and enjoy nature.
Spend some time at a coffee shop.
Think. Let my mind wander about random things.
Meditate.
Sometimes simply sitting back and relaxing for a while, or taking a nap.

Much of the above is tied to my furry lifestyle, such as the art and the friends I hang with, as well as simply things I do to relax.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 1:57:38 AM   
Dollbecky


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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 2:06:05 AM   
Kedikat


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Status: offline 		Uhhhh Fun things in life? Is that allowed oh gods of BDSM?

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 2:36:23 AM   
meatcleaver


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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:06:56 AM   
Littlepita


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse


The very point I was about to make

24/7 doesn't mean I spend all day every day with my girl tied to the bedposts, it means the dynamic is in place as much when we are doing the shopping or walking in the park as it is when we are playing. There is no 'down time' for the dynamic, Dom and sub isn't hats to be worn at playtimes, it is just who we are and how our relationship works.





Exactly!! I am currently obsessed with losing weight. I spend a lot of time on my low carb message board, I collect and make new recipes and agonize over the weekly menu. I workout, listen to music, and if I'm really lucky sneak in a little All My Children. I'm also studying for my GED so I can pass this boring ass test and go to college in the fall.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:08:41 AM   
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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:12:57 AM   
Raethepain


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Status: offline 		haha, I used to masturbate to relax. Unfortunately my Master doesn't allow that one...

So I now exercise. A lot. Rowing machine mostly, or swimming if I can get to the pool.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:15:20 AM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		My being able to unwind/relax is attached to focus issues.  I'm a very high strung individual, i need to be doing something/moving something...constantly.  (yes, i am the one that sits at the table and it feels like an earthquake is about to happen, because i move all the time.)
It has taken me years however to figure this out.  Ok, Thorns figured this out <soft smile>.  There are two things that i have found that when i do them, i focus.  Throwing/Sharpening Knives...........and Cleaning!  I am a clean freak....i hate clutter...i love to iron....i love to do laundry....doing dishes and putting them in the cabinet just right is one of the best feelings for me.    For me, these are the times i feel most relaxed........so i do them often.

Happy Sunday...

~smilezz~

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:25:11 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Ohh smilez, I wish cleaning and organizing did it for me!!! Even the thought of that stuff causes me tension and stress.

Relaxing for me can be alot of different things. Usually it has to have something to do with nature, hiking, time with my furry babies, gardening. Or, just wandering around my 3 acre yard with my dog watching her investigate, seeing it thru her eyes, nose and ears, talking to the trees and assorted wildlife.... being in the Now.  Other times, reading as I often have 4-6 books going at once. Painting if I have a bigger block of uninterupted quiet time. Writing is good for me also. Photography I do constantly so even though I love it I cannot say it is always relaxing.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 5:55:59 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I will echo the sentiments that 24/7 does not mean that you are doing BDSM 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  To me it means that the M/s dynamic is in place 24/7. 

I do pretty normal things to unwind and relax; I love a good book, movie, shopping, going to the beach, playing cards, watching weather, planting flowers....  I just don't stop being a slave while I do these things.

kyra

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 6:18:18 AM   
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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 6:36:14 AM   
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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 6:38:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		swimming, horseback riding, reading, shopping, nature hikes.

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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 6:40:49 AM   
artglfr


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Status: offline 		fast reply, as I am unwinding reading posts; Golf, Playing my drums or guitar of course reading and watching DVD's and gardening, sitting on my porch reading watching the garden is relaxing knowing in a day or so I will have fresh Peaches, eating strawberries, brussell sprouts, tomatoes from my garden, talking with friends or visiting family.

I am a very , very good relaxer.

I work very hard so I can relax and consider myself Olympic quality.


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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 7:10:34 AM   
MistyMenthal


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ShyGirldesires   after reading your profile...what about smoking in the local library .....
shopping for menthal cigars...do they even make them?

 
Sounds like a new Hobby for me.
 
BLOW ME A KISS Misty


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RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? - 5/14/2006 7:19:42 AM   
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On a more serious note,

I live, I breathe, I dance the dance of the mystical llama while basking in the glory of the mid day sun, I go out into nature and commune with the butterflies, I become one with the leaves and the water, I marvel at the wonderment that is a furry bee while at the same time I pour scorn on any none furry insect type creatures. I marvel at the majestic cow at play and I see glory in the plumage of any none standard type ducks, I sit in the shade of a big oak tree and muse upon its fabulousness etc.



< Message edited by MstrTiger -- 5/14/2006 7:21:33 AM >

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