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HELP ME - 6/4/2011 9:37:03 PM

slaveal

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WHY IS BEING SUB MISSDIVE HARD IN THIS WORLD? I WAS A MARINE I SERVED MY COUNTRY! MY THOUGHTS AND DESIRES ARE ONLY TO SERVE? I LIKE BEING HUMILATED MY DESIRE TO FOR ANIMAL ROLE PLAYING IS IS ME I AM JUST CLAY TO BE MOLDED ? I CAN"T HELP WHAT I"AM WHO WOULD HELP ME BE WHAT I"AM??

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RE: HELP ME - 6/4/2011 9:45:21 PM

peppermint

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Let me give you some reasons.

First, in your note here it's all about me me me me and what I want someone to do to/for me. That is not being submissive at all. That is demanding that you be served. Second, maybe you didn't go to munch last month where that very cool Domme was looking for a submissive man. Instead of you she met some other sub and they are busy getting to know each other at this very minute. They are going to have their first play session next week at the play party. Third, sorry, but no one is owed anything in this life. Doesn't matter if you were a Marine. You have to put forth the effort in searching just like every other guy.

Now to answer your question. Only you can do whatever is needed for you to find that Dominant person who is willing to be your partner. That means going to munch. That means going to events. That means dating. If that's too difficult or too much trouble for you, then you'll have to be content with leaving whining notes in a BDSM forum about how unhappy you are. YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Make it happen.

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RE: HELP ME - 6/4/2011 9:48:19 PM

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*adores peppermint*

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RE: HELP ME - 6/4/2011 10:50:42 PM

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Make that two of us adoring peppermint.

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RE: HELP ME - 6/4/2011 11:04:09 PM

MistressDarkArt

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Dude, there is zip zero zilch in your profile. Your audio greeting is soundless. No picture. You will be passed over if you leave it like this. Female dominants are inundated with mail; you've got to do something proactive and positive to make yourself stand out besides whine like you did in this thread.

Step 1: Read and heed every word of the FAQ in Ask A Mistress

Step 2: Complete your profile narrative, focusing on what you as a person would like to offer your partner (leave off the kinky laundry list), post a g-rated picture there and stop typing in caps.

Step 3: Get out in the real world of lifestylers as the ladies above already suggested.

You will have a much better chance finding that which you seek. Good luck.

< Message edited by MistressDarkArt -- 6/4/2011 11:08:19 PM >

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RE: HELP ME - 6/5/2011 4:20:17 AM

BlackTigerDragon

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I DON"T KNOW HOW TO HELP YOU BUT TRY SHOUTING! THAT MIGHT FIX IT! I DON"T KNOW IF IT ACTUALLY WILL FIX IT BUT TRY IT ANYWAY!
AND IF THAT DOESN"T WORK, TURN YOUR FUCKING CAPSLOCK OFF!

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RE: HELP ME - 6/5/2011 7:27:04 AM

DarkSteven

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Dude, you're 44 years old. Is that your sole accomplishment, that you used to be a Marine?

What are you now?

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RE: HELP ME - 6/5/2011 7:33:03 AM

darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Dude, you're 44 years old. Is that your sole accomplishment, that you used to be a Marine?

What are you now?

A submariner? Sorry, I couldn't resist. Well I could have very easily resisted but I've lately found that expending too much effort contrary to my own desires tends to get me very little that I want. Go figure.

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RE: HELP ME - 6/5/2011 2:48:20 PM

SnowRanger

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Hello SlaveAl,

Being a sub male IS hard. It's rather scary to recognize, difficult to accept and harder still to act on. THIS IS JUST FLAT STOMP DOWN THE WAY IT IS! (ooppss, I don't want to be upbraided for shouting) Let's face it; this runs against all of your societal training and against ANYTHING you learned in the Marines. Those things that make you brave enough to stand up to a company of malefactors SEEM to be incongruent with your desire to find a wonderful woman to submit to. Hence, the difficulty. I can tell you that they are not till I am blue in the face. 'Till you belive that... It will be hard.

I would like to know why you asked for help in Ask-A-Mistress and not Ask-A-Submissive. So far the advice that you got here is:
1) Go to Munch or otherwise get out and meet lifestylers;
2) Read and heed the Ask-A-Mistress-FAQs;
3) Complete your profile;
4) Turn off the fucking caps-lock;
There is nothing wrong with any of that; but, before anything (except maybe turning off the caps-lock) settle the conflict with in you.

With Best Wishes,
Mike
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RE: HELP ME - 6/11/2011 6:35:43 PM

AcademyForSlaves

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Hello,

When a slave applies to Me it helps him to interest Me by asking what I want rather than telling Me what he wants from Me. Woo Me. Offer to serve Me. Tell Me what you are good at.

Ask not what I can do for you but what you can do to serve Me.

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RE: HELP ME - 6/11/2011 7:14:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveal

WHY IS BEING SUB MISSDIVE HARD IN THIS WORLD? I WAS A MARINE I SERVED MY COUNTRY! MY THOUGHTS AND DESIRES ARE ONLY TO SERVE? I LIKE BEING HUMILATED MY DESIRE TO FOR ANIMAL ROLE PLAYING IS IS ME I AM JUST CLAY TO BE MOLDED ? I CAN"T HELP WHAT I"AM WHO WOULD HELP ME BE WHAT I"AM??

Whoa! At ease!!

Connect with the woman first; keep everything else under control while you're making that connection. Normal, real, human - that comes first.

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