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Wantstocontrolu -> long distance control (6/5/2011 9:54:56 PM)
Find myself in a long distance relationship with a potental slave, however we have chatted for over 2 yrs now and the chance of him actually appearing here is slim, I have turned him away and he keeps coming back. There is nothing in it for us as we have been seeking one to help around the farm, I am not into financial control but my question is , he wants more control from me but other than chastity there is not much I can think of as I am not into "cyber" Thoughts ?

Kaelloric -> RE: long distance control (6/5/2011 10:01:04 PM)
If you're not into it, its an exercise in frustration and patience. If you're not into cyber, and he's not into r/l, sounds like he needs some online outlets. Irc.bondage.com is an awesome place for him to go. Show him IRC and you'll probably not hear from him again.

littlewonder -> RE: long distance control (6/5/2011 10:02:03 PM)
order him to visit you? Order him to find someone else who will cyber with him?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: long distance control (6/5/2011 11:02:30 PM)
quote: Order him to find someone else who will cyber with him? That's brilliant!

poise -> RE: long distance control (6/6/2011 5:51:42 AM)
This scenario seems odd to me. Dear potential slave, I regret to inform you that, while you were able to hold my attention during a 2 hour chat, I have determined that you do not meet the requirements that we are seeking in a slave. Warm regards, Wantstocontrolu Dear potential owner, It's true, I will never be relocating to you to help work on your farm. However, I am a very good cyber slave! If you just change what your preferences are and give me some of your control, I'll be ever so grateful! eagerly awaiting your orders, nottheslaveyouwantbutgoodatcyberstuff Relax! You really aren't in a long distance relationship, even if he keeps coming back again and again. Of course, if you have time you can set aside from your search to cater to his needs, then have at it.

DesFIP -> RE: long distance control (6/11/2011 9:38:41 PM)
If you really can't think of long distance control, here are some ideas. Does he stay up late at night? Give him a set bedtime. Does he procrastinate about chores around his place? Give him a schedule of things to do every day. Does he need help progressing in his career? Order him to identify what skills he needs and how to acquire them and then order him to get them in the order you think is best. Improve his life. And that will make you a better dominant for any future subs.

SimplyMichael -> RE: long distance control (6/12/2011 10:04:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you really can't think of long distance control, here are some ideas. Does he stay up late at night? Give him a set bedtime. Does he procrastinate about chores around his place? Give him a schedule of things to do every day. Does he need help progressing in his career? Order him to identify what skills he needs and how to acquire them and then order him to get them in the order you think is best. Improve his life. And that will make you a better dominant for any future subs. Train him to become a man worthy of an amazing mistress using the above as a foundation (Great post Des!) and the possibilities are endless. If your kink is control, the potential is amazing, but even if it is, doing all this is work and if the reward you seek is service, then you need to find a way to get your needs met. Put his ass on a budget, help him get his career moving and improve his financial security and as he does so, the "service" he can do for you is buy you gifts of the things you need, seed, farm implements, ammo, all the things you need on a farm. That isn't "using" him in a self destructive financial dominantion way but as a way for him to show his devotion for your ACTUAL dominance and positive influence in his life. Then, once he has become a slave worthy of someone amazing, help him achieve that goal as well.

TheChastiser -> RE: long distance control (6/21/2011 3:58:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wantstocontrolu Find myself in a long distance relationship with a potental slave, however we have chatted for over 2 yrs now and the chance of him actually appearing here is slim, I have turned him away and he keeps coming back. There is nothing in it for us as we have been seeking one to help around the farm, I am not into financial control but my question is , he wants more control from me but other than chastity there is not much I can think of as I am not into "cyber" Thoughts ? if you wish to continue this distance relationship, you need to put a bit of effort into it. ask for daily routines and then set instructions on these. get e mails back confirming such have been done. send a personal posession, can be quite small so that it can be held when receiving instructions and this will help to re-enforce your presence. this can also be held during orgasm again enforcing your control. there is lots of stuff you can do, but you have to want to, otherwise move on. Mike

DarkSteven -> RE: long distance control (6/21/2011 8:02:03 AM)
My thoughts are that you know what you want, and he ain't it. If you want to submit to his wishes and waste the time you need to find someone suitable, that's your prerogative.

Arturas -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 7:45:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wantstocontrolu Find myself in a long distance relationship with a potental slave, however we have chatted for over 2 yrs now and the chance of him actually appearing here is slim, I have turned him away and he keeps coming back. There is nothing in it for us as we have been seeking one to help around the farm, I am not into financial control but my question is , he wants more control from me but other than chastity there is not much I can think of as I am not into "cyber" Thoughts ? I think the same as you do; " There is nothing in it for us (you)". Here is another quote; "It is what it is" and in the case "it" is nothing. Be well, Arturas

crazyml -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 9:24:23 AM)
You could try this... Dear XXXX I've explained that this isn't going to work. I've sent you away, and yet you still keep coming back. What makes you think I'd be interested in someone too stupid to get the message? Frankly, it's insulting. Now, fuck off.

sunshinemiss -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 9:30:51 AM)
I KNEW it was a canned message!

BitaTruble -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 9:55:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml You could try this... Dear XXXX I've explained that this isn't going to work. I've sent you away, and yet you still keep coming back. What makes you think I'd be interested in someone too stupid to get the message? Frankly, it's insulting. Now, fuck off. :: blows nose and adds crazyml to the list of people NOT to read while drinking coffee::

Lockit -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 10:31:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wantstocontrolu Find myself in a long distance relationship with a potental slave, however we have chatted for over 2 yrs now and the chance of him actually appearing here is slim, I have turned him away and he keeps coming back. There is nothing in it for us as we have been seeking one to help around the farm, I am not into financial control but my question is , he wants more control from me but other than chastity there is not much I can think of as I am not into "cyber" Thoughts ? So you are asking for a way to do long distance control when you are not into cyber, he is of no use to you in what you really want and you have turned him away and he keeps coming back. So he wore you down and you caved because he won't go away and now you will give him what he wants? You already lost control. You can't gain it back because you are already doing things you are not into, something with no pay off for you and he got what he wanted because he wore you down. You might ask him what he would have you do, because he is the one in control.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: long distance control (6/23/2011 11:18:51 AM)
the chance of him actually appearing here is slim, I have turned him away and he keeps coming back. There is nothing in it for us as we have been seeking one to help around the farm he wants more control from me but other than chastity there is not much I can think of as I am not into "cyber" When I read those lines, I'm thinking you know what you want and he's not it. You've sent him away and he keeps coming back to irritate you like a bad rash. He's wasting your time while YOU are trying to do what HE wants. YOU are supposed to be the Dominant here and you've already given up control to him. I would say block and delete. Yahoo and MSN have block and delete as well as CM does. ~Hisprettybaby~

nursedrugthem -> RE: long distance contro (6/24/2011 7:38:35 AM)
SORRY FOR THE TRUTH BUT LONG DISTANCE CONTROL IS SOOO BS ITS NOT FUNNY. ITS NOT REAL CONTROL AND NOT REAL BDSM AND NOT A REAL BDSM RELATIONSHIP. PEOPLE DO THIS WHEN THEY CANT FOREVER REASON DO IT IN REAL LIFE. MOST TIME ITS BECAUSE THEY ARE MARRIED TO A VANILLA PARTNER.

crazyml -> RE: long distance contro (6/24/2011 8:00:53 AM)
Ah! Well that settles it. I see you're evidently vastly more experienced in the domain of BDSM than you are with the layout of your keyboard. You'll find the cutest little key lurking on the left-hand side of your keyboard, it's called "caps lock" - go on! Give it a little press!

sunshinemiss -> RE: long distance contro (6/24/2011 9:55:25 AM)
Baby, I know a number of slutty fucking poppet tarts who need their lil buttons pressed. I've heard you're just the man for the job. Care to comment? scfhlwiov

crazyml -> RE: long distance contro (6/25/2011 2:15:57 AM)
Oh yeah! I'll press those button's baby, even at a distance.

thishereboi -> RE: long distance contro (6/25/2011 4:54:09 AM)
fr You said you are not interested in the relationship. So tell him that. Seems pretty simple to me. Now I have a question for those posters who suggested she go ahead and use control to teach the boy. How does going against your wants and doing what the submissive demands make you a better dominant?

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