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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Different genders treated differently. (6/11/2011 4:11:38 AM)
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that's any interesting take on it Hill; when i was a newb, i read a post by a masochistic woman who was not at all a sub, and thought of herself as a captured warrior or something like that. her posts stuck with me because, at the time, i was pretty sure masochism and subbiness went together for EVERYONE like they did for me.
a lot of men worry that they're just going to "hurt something" if they do certain things with women, and they don't worry about it so much with men; perhaps because they're also men and they feel more comfortable with their personal experience of what a man might be able to deal with? most men don't know anything about being a woman, so you know... that's reasonable. =p
there are men who struggle from day 1 with "you can't hit girls" theories that they grew up with. some of them overcome them, and some of them don't.
other men just aren't interested in it at all -- i think RS has a pretty good viewpoint on that. all sadism isn't sexual, and if there's somewhere you want to go, it's up to you to pick someone who you think can go there, too. we all function based off our assumptions or schemas formed in our minds from personal experiences, so it's not really that unusual.
i don't know if men can necessarily take more than women. women are pretty good at dealing with a LOT of pain. but i think there's a difference in that men are often more likely to jump in with both feet, while women are often more likely to be cautious. have an idea of where the line is but no need to get there, vs. "there's the line but who cares!" at least that's what i've observed.
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