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RE: Age Differences - 5/14/2006 7:59:29 PM

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The age difference doesnt bother me at all, i am 16 yrs younger than my Dom. For me what counts, its how i feel with Him, and that is precious

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RE: Age Differences - 5/14/2006 9:05:03 PM

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I ONLY look for men who are older. No offence to younger guys, but they don't have the maturity or expereince that I want. I prefer men who are older than 38. I have dated younger men, heck, my ex-husband was 4 years older and that didn't last, the man who came after him was 21 years older than I at that time, it was one of my best relationships ever. Since then, I have found I get along better with older men, I don't carry myself like a typical 25 ear old so older men and I have more in common and we just get alogn better. :o)

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RE: Age Differences - 5/14/2006 9:10:49 PM

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Well, age does matter to me. If he's too young, then I feel very maternal toward him. If he's closer in age to my parents than to me, that's just creepy.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 4:27:50 AM

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My last Dom was 13 years older (but acted like a horny 17 year old

) and my new Master is 17 years older. I just like older men, always have. I have a serious thing for laughter-lines round the eyes <3

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 4:49:51 AM

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Age has always been an interesting characteristic to me. From the age of 35 onward, i have only had relationships with men who have been much younger than i; yet it was not a preference, only chemistry that happened between us. i have met some men recently who have been closer in age to me, but the chemistry has yet to match. i agree with those who say that age is really not relevant, but intellectual compatibility certainly is, and physical chemistry is as well.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 5:49:40 AM

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for me age doesn't matter so much as how i relate with/to someone. i am currently "under consideration" and He is 15 years older than me, but for me, i already get on better with Him and have felt an instant connection with Him more so than i have with Others closer to my age or younger.
For me experience also speaks volumes... but we're all different.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 7:47:27 AM

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Age in numbers is irrelevant to me. I have had relationships with someone 20 years my senior and almost 20 my junior. I just cannot tollerate those that are stupidly, clueless and unwilling to learn or even worse yet, think that because they are not 20something they have one foot in the grave and all these preconcieved notions about what is appropriate behaviour because of it. Example, a recent lecture I recieved.."LeeAnn, you cannot expect to keep riding those horses like that, your not a kid anymore. One of these days you are going to have to think about getting ride of them".........bullllllllllllllllllllllshit. There is nothing my body could do 20 years ago that it cannot do right now. (I just might not be able to crawl out of bed the next morning....)

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 8:13:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

I ONLY look for men who are older. No offence to younger guys, but they don't have the maturity or expereince that I want. I prefer men who are older than 38. I have dated younger men, heck, my ex-husband was 4 years older and that didn't last, the man who came after him was 21 years older than I at that time, it was one of my best relationships ever. Since then, I have found I get along better with older men, I don't carry myself like a typical 25 ear old so older men and I have more in common and we just get alogn better. :o)

couldn't have said it better.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 8:16:29 AM

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I am going to differ with others posting here.....

My first dom was 18 years older than myself. Yes we clicked, I was extremely attracted to him, and I refused to see it as an issue at the time we were involved. It did not work out, and afterwards I decided that I wanted a dom closer to my own age.

The reason why is I have just finished taking care of an elderly man that passed away. While this dom was only 55, he was going to reach the age of health problems long before I did most likely. He would most likely die long before myself too. I did not admit this was an issue for me at the time, and would shrug it off because I loved him, and really thought I wanted a life with him, but it didnt work either way. I want someone I can grow old with and fall apart with in roughly the same time frame... I do find older men incredibly sexy though...lol. It must be what I preceive as wisdom or something! The nice thing is I recently met someone close to my own age that has a lot of wisdom without the age... So age and wisdom are relative I suppose.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 8:47:33 AM

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age is a number and that is how i see it.....my Daddy and i are 19 years apart and he's a year younger than my mom......we don't have an issue with age until i start acting immature. I do understand the concerns about him "falling apart" and I'll still be young but we'll cross that brigde when we come to it.....i do love Him with all my heart and i know He loves me.....

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 9:00:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

While this dom was only 55, he was going to reach the age of health problems long before I did most likely. He would most likely die long before myself too.

this is something that has come into my head and has worried me, frankly because i can't imagine my life without Him. i just focus on the time we have together instead of focusing on the time we might not. He could easily outlive me by many many years though. i have had health problems that could have ended my life very young-- should someone walk away from me because it could return?

i can't let what ifs determine my lifes choices or i just end up with more what ifs...

just my opinion :) to each their own!

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 9:12:31 AM

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I like your point of view very much. The reality is that no matter what the age none of us are guaranteed any set amount of time. I think just enjoying the time we have with those we love to the fullest is far more important than counting the years.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 9:30:44 AM

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I agree with you, and I would not have left the relationship for this fear either. I stated that I wouldn't admit it was a problem for me during the relationship.. But deep down I constantly thought about how badly it would hurt to lose him. No one has any guarantee either,... I could get hit by a car tomorrow, true, BUT it is more likely that someone who is 20 years older will pass before you do. I did not make this up, I did not invent it, I am just stating the facts statistically speaking.

I have issues about death anyways as I lost my father at 14. I saw my mom recently lose her only other mate besides my father, a 23 year relationship... I cared for him before he died. It made me think about my FUTURE relationships. What I want and what I need, and it is not a judgment on anyone else's wants or needs. I decided for ME I wanted to attach myself to someone that I could grow old with, not that would be old 20 or so years before me. Age is not a number .. it is a reality. People do age at different rates, and physically speaking I am a young 38 because of diet and exercise.

Basically I decided I did not want to lose my mate prematurely. I came to this conclusion after being involved with someone much older than myself. I did not come to this conclusion because I lack an attraction to older men, I actually prefer them. I came to this conclusion because of other factors in my life, namely losing two father figures.. I want my next dom to be closer to my own age, even though that is no guarantee either, it is a better chance at two more decades of happiness... Just my opinion

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 10:04:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I like your point of view very much. The reality is that no matter what the age none of us are guaranteed any set amount of time. I think just enjoying the time we have with those we love to the fullest is far more important than counting the years.

just what i was trying to say, only said much better.. :)

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 10:12:11 AM

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i see what you are saying, and i respect your choice to find a Dom close to your age. i can't say that i would do diferently.

i guess what i am saying is that it would be a shame to close a door on someone you connected with based on their age alone.

when my Dom and i first met we would joke about how we were too far apart in age to ever be a couple. sometimes you just can't deny the connection and its meant to be :) you either embrace that or you don't.

i personally am glad i did-- couldn't be happier! if you can find someone your age that you connect with, wonderful, and good luck :)

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 11:10:14 AM

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Mistress is 29 and i am 56. Mistress says that She prefers older subs in that they know their place better, have fewer issues, and are more willing to go the extra mile in pleasing their One.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 2:38:38 PM

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There is a age difference between my Master and myself with him being the older it is more than 10 years but it never mattered to either of us. I agree with fastlane that age is just a number. Also my mom who said you are as old as you feel. It is that i just love older men and my Master in particular.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 2:49:12 PM

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My alpha it came as a suprise to both of us that we were 15 years apart. When we met we both thought the other was in their 30's so never asked. He found out my age at my 26th birthday...he'd turned 41 a few months before.
My last boy was exactly 3 days younger...to the hour.

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 3:26:12 PM

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I see age difference as not a problem at all. Master is 21 years older than me (I'm 19, He's 40) and we have a very great relationship and understanding of one another. Well, i guess i couldn't say age isn't an issue for me... I prefer to have a Dom (well, when i was looking) at least 10 years older than me. I would actually to have a Master who is old enough to be my father... it helps really bring out my submissive side (Daddy/little girl play is the greatest!).

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RE: Age Differences - 5/15/2006 4:47:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I just cannot tollerate those that are stupidly, clueless and unwilling to learn or even worse yet, think that because they are not 20something they have one foot in the grave and all these preconcieved notions about what is appropriate behaviour because of it. Example, a recent lecture I recieved.."LeeAnn, you cannot expect to keep riding those horses like that, your not a kid anymore. One of these days you are going to have to think about getting ride of them".........bullllllllllllllllllllllshit. There is nothing my body could do 20 years ago that it cannot do right now. (I just might not be able to crawl out of bed the next morning....)

That is hysterical and way too true.

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