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Surpassing Limitations - 6/12/2011 5:24:11 PM   
Back2theFuture


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Status: offline 		I have encountered a problem with strapons.

While I can take the larger ones(10"x 2.5") I am having a small problem with the even larger ones. Its not a stretching issue because I can insert a inflatable plug and inflate it until its nearly 5"-6" thick and it will still slide out and in with enough lube but I think its because its soft unlike the hard rubber dildos, and I have even been fisted on several occasions.

The problem I have been having is with a 13" x 3" dildo that seems to be getting blocked by my ischium(sitting bone)  in my pelvis. I have seen plenty of videos were guys have taken bigger sizes. I have tried these larger sizes with previous mistresses but we have never managed it.
I would hate to think this is my limit since I love strapon play and every woman I have engaged in it with has love it and wanted to take it further only to hit this road block.

Is it just my pelvis is too narrow? Are there better positions or lubes to achieve this? Some special type of training?

Please help.
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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/12/2011 6:18:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Damn dude, I have no idea, but I just had to say I love the profile. The name is wonderfully geeky, the pix are geeky cute, especially the main one. (yeah, I like geekiness)

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/12/2011 6:21:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe you just have a limit. 

My vagina is built in such a way that cowgirl style does not work.  EVER.  I have tried many times, and years ago I realized, I'm just not angled the right way.  You wanna try it?  Ok.  But you'll pop out.  Shockingly, they always pop out.  I could keep trying, or I could accept my reality. 

Sorry, man.  Good luck,
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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/12/2011 8:01:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hope not sunshine, cause that would be really sad.

@ Arpig thanks, oddly enough I don't look anything like what my geekiness portrays.

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/13/2011 8:29:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		You do realize that your colon is not straight?  It bends and curves.  If you are using a dildo with no give to it, it can only go in to a certain point if it can not bend to adjust to your innards.  If you try to force the dildo further than your inside can handle you will risk poking a hole in yourself.  That means emergency surgery and the possibility of being given a colostomy.  It's best to realize that there ARE limitations to what can be done to certain parts of your body.  Everyone is different in shape and can take a certain size. 

Let me add this.  The inflatable dildo can go inside further than the hard dildo.  It has give.  It bends and folds to follow the contours of your colon. 


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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/13/2011 8:48:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: peppermint

You do realize that your colon is not straight?  It bends and curves.  If you are using a dildo with no give to it, it can only go in to a certain point if it can not bend to adjust to your innards.  If you try to force the dildo further than your inside can handle you will risk poking a hole in yourself.  That means emergency surgery and the possibility of being given a colostomy.  It's best to realize that there ARE limitations to what can be done to certain parts of your body.  Everyone is different in shape and can take a certain size. 

Let me add this.  The inflatable dildo can go inside further than the hard dildo.  It has give.  It bends and folds to follow the contours of your colon. 



This. Look up a picture of the intestinal/rectal area as depicted in a medical illustration. The entire area is curved and has deep bends at just about 45 degree angles. Remember that not everyone looks exactly like those illustrations too. There is a normal variance of degree in length, width, musculature, etc in every human being on this planet. If you force something past the point that it 'goes' you will perforate your intestinal wall, its not uncommon. Intestinal perforation means waste material will enter the body cavity and you will have problems galore.

When I was in the emergency room after my accident the man in the curtained alcove next to me was told he perforated his intestine through 'personal' activities and if you could have heard the incredibly painful sounds he was making it would turn you off from possibly doing the same thing to yourself. Know your limits and respect them.

Honestly why would this even bother you? I don't know many Mistresses that go out looking specifically for this type of ability on the part of their men. Perhaps you are projecting a bit here and thinking that because it excites you then it would automatically excite a potential partner. Being a worthy man in character would probably matter more to a woman than any amount of plastic that you can put in your butt.

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/13/2011 1:11:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		i used to be narrow and tight, we have worked and worked and worked at it, from dildos to coke cans, then family sized shower gel bottles and now i am capable of taking barstools with ease... you just gotta perservere ya know, it IS the most important thing to always aim for bigger, innit?

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/13/2011 4:13:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know it curves were the Rectum becomes the Colon.(I am not an idiot, cause if I am I put way too much effort into getting my degree) Depth is not the issue, I will say it again DEPTH is not the issue penetration is.

The problem I am having is that my Ischium bone is causing a sort of bottle necking effect, keeping my partner from full penetration. Not matter how much pressure she places on it(within measure as we are careful) it hits this bone and stops.

Anywho I am not "projecting" mainly because I do look for women who enjoy this particular activity, which is what it is; an activity we enjoy. Unlike most male "subs" there is more to me and my service than just this one aspect.
And yes this activity and the for-mentioned issue does excite them, because the main pleasure for me is not the actual stimulation( though it is nice) is that hey are getting off on it.(and yes every one who has done this with me has at least one orgasm every time)

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/21/2011 9:24:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry.  I'm confused.  You said you could take a 10 incher just fine but are having problems with a 13 incher.  That appeared to be a depth problem to me.  Apparently I just don't understand what the problem is now.  

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/21/2011 1:19:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		i say rotate it all kinds of ways and see what happens.. oh no my sadist side is showing...

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/21/2011 1:57:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I suggest looking at a picture of the bone structure of the pelvis. If your partner is hitting ischium, their aim is way off.

You might have it confused with the pubis, which is more centrally located, and the pubic symphysis, which is the center seam or joint where the bones meet.

Either way, I suspect they're hitting the internal sphincter muscle, not any bones. It's a little harder to relax than the outer one. It might be a good idea to slow down and work on relaxation rather than on increasing size. And aim for the center and just slightly upward.

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 6/21/2011 3:53:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am pretty sure its the ischium though it could be the pubis, but it is definably hitting a bone. I can tell since its my ass
As I have said the problem is not depth, but penetration IE thickness of the dildo. It seems like it is too thick to fit past the bones as if my pelvic bones are too narrow.

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 7/4/2011 9:17:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		have you tried it with you in the lithotomy position on your back legs spread wide and just hanging past the edge of the bed? this gives the maximum access to the anus.if the 3" dia is too much just go back to a 2 3/4" and enjoy.

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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 7/5/2011 11:50:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Is there a particular reason you feel the need to go to the bigger size? And let's say you can reach that 13 inch depth.. does that mean you would seek out a larger one?

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ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture
As I have said the problem is not depth, but penetration IE thickness of the dildo. It seems like it is too thick to fit past the bones as if my pelvic bones are too narrow.




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RE: Surpassing Limitations - 7/7/2011 4:41:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Is there a particular reason you feel the need to go to the bigger size? And let's say you can reach that 13 inch depth.. does that mean you would seek out a larger one?

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ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture
As I have said the problem is not depth, but penetration IE thickness of the dildo. It seems like it is too thick to fit past the bones as if my pelvic bones are too narrow.





Depth is neither the problem or the part of the fetish of I(or they) enjoy; its the thickness. The stretching and fullness is the goal. and there is a limit to the human body.



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