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ShadeDiva -> RE: Flogger...Discipline or Other? (10/13/2004 4:30:59 PM)
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Punishment = equals something they don't like.
I have found that most people hate repetition, and that sentences can be a wonderful tool for sending a message home.
Sometimes essays are useful for those that don't hate repetition - tell what you did, why it wasn't a good thing to do, why it displeased me, why you should have not done it, and what you could do to prevent it in the future.
If they are someone I can see face to face, I have them read it out loud to me, sort of as an affirmation, and then I will take the paper and grade and edit it, red pen and all. *smile* Spelling counts, so does penmanship.
Then I will determine from the sincerity of what was written, the effort that was taken, and the honesty that was shown and decide if they need something further to cement the lesson into their pysche.
Often that might entail community service - they might as well do something that benefits the community in which they live, such as picking up garbage in a littered area while I watch, or if it is a supervised event, then I might not watch, but then get in contact with the person running it and ask how they did, what their attitude was, and what they contributed.
Punishments I think should involve the dominant using their brains, and finding ways to turn it into a positive growing experience that will be a part of their training, rather than a knee-jerk reaction without a goal and a purpose other than expressing one's dissatisfaction. They ought to at the end, IMO, come away from the experience, sad that they warrented it, but proud that they learned something, and grew from it, and proud in how they got past their mistake.
JMO.
~ShadeDiva
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