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Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 8:53:26 AM

TeddybearNerd

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Hello,

As a male on the internet I am finding it increasingly difficult to try and start up conversations with people without coming of as an internet creeper. I love meeting new people and i am actually really friendly. Anyway thanks very much

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 9:25:31 AM

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Welcome to collarme!

I find that keeping initial conversation nonsexual and ninkinky is about as noncreepy as possible.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 9:32:24 AM

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 10:13:24 AM

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 10:36:08 AM

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Not an easy one Ted, probably easier when they come to you.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 10:44:42 AM

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Welcome to Collarme...
What DS said most generally works

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 10:49:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: TeddybearNerd

Hello,

As a male on the internet I am finding it increasingly difficult to try and start up conversations with people without coming of as an internet creeper. I love meeting new people and i am actually really friendly. Anyway thanks very much

Do people love meeting you? Especially woman-people?

Serious question.

If the answer is yes, then why? Use that. And, if the answer is no, it's not likely that the internet will be much different.

The only way to meet people off the internet is to come across as a person that others want to meet.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/17/2011 11:05:28 AM

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It can be difficult, I'm sure.

Speaking only for myself, a friendly message that shows a person has read my profile, and can actually put together a coherent sentence goes a long way with me. Starting off with overly personal questions, or sexual demands, or a desire to meet/cam within the first message or two tends to set off warning bells for me.

While ultimately I'm looking for r/t experiences with someone local, I am always open to chatting with intelligent, interesting people. If you approach someone with honesty about your intentions and try not to jump the gun on personal details, I can't help but think that most people would be open to communicating with you.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/18/2011 9:21:57 PM

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/18/2011 9:25:24 PM

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Thank you all for the responses. So I have said hello to a few people here and everyone has been friendly.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/18/2011 9:41:12 PM

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Hey there, welcome to CM. Yep, you're a nerd, I read your profile. But you seem like a fun, down to earth and intelligent-ish (so far) nerd, and that's a good thing. :) I don't know, so far, from what I've seen on this thread and your profile, I don't think you need to worry too much about coming off as an internet creeper. Just don't start off conversations with "Hey there, I think you have nice tits and want to lick them all night long. Hope to hear from you soon.", and I think you'll be okay. ;)

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/18/2011 9:42:57 PM

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Personally I like creepy but I know how hard it can be to try and leave it out of conversation. You got the best advice you can be given. Leave sex out of it. Try to be honest and open about who you are and what you are really looking for in life. If you can figure out how to do that while, at some point, working in that you are a into horror movies, dragons, ren fairs, sharp things, and movies about big mean fish(sharks) then you will be doing really well. I'm still trying to figure out how to do it

Welcome to cm, and good luck.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/18/2011 9:54:50 PM

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Welcome to CM.

Good tips so far. There are some threads in the Mistress section under the Frequently Asked Questions sticky that have a lot of good information about how to write good emails and what women respond to well. It's a little research, but it's well worth it.

Excellent screen name, btw. You're already ahead of the pack who won't get mail answered because they've chosen a screen name that is sex/kink related.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/19/2011 12:06:23 AM

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Hello Teddybearnerd!

nice to see you here! I agree that if you don't come across rude and focused initially on sex, asking for money or feeling like you have to show me your cock to get my attention, I will respond and probably be interested in getting to know you better! I love it when people take the time to read my profile too! It saves time for both of us if they are only interested in pursuing a relationship, which I am not. I am interested in developing friendships here.

Enjoy yourself!

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/19/2011 2:58:31 PM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. You've been given very good advice by some well-known and beloved posters. You should do fine, above all have fun.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/23/2011 5:57:43 PM

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Welcome to the Internet...
Actually I find no problem talking to people on or offline.
I simply speak as a gentleman,and with respect.
The same as I would, if meeting someone in a club,or at work.
My advice,if you will, is to just keep it simple.

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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/23/2011 10:33:42 PM

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great advice has been given..
and humor.. having a sense of humor is vital!
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RE: Anyone have tips for being non-creepy on collar me - 6/23/2011 11:50:36 PM

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A right side up profile photo might be a start.
A profile photo without a lampshade on your head would be good too.

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