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Submission Realsied!!! - 5/15/2006 10:55:51 AM

genuineguy33

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Hi everyone... I have just come from reading the many diverse posts and just felt i had something to share!

I have had strong 'submissive' traits and tendencies for as long as i can remember. I have only been able to articulate this and understand this, even just a little bit, since the age of 25.

I am now 33 and my journey into 'submission' has been about my 'self-developoment'.

It started with a bit of tying up and 'role-play', an outlet for all these strange feelings and fantasies that not only plagued my dreams and nights... Oh No, they invaded my waking life as well!

Eventually after a number of years groping in the dark with just a candle light, my light became stronger and i could see a little clearer and a little deeper. After a couple of 'femdom' orientated relationships, i was able to fully realise who i was and what i wanted!

My submission is not a fantasy or a role that i play. It is who i am and what i have to give. some of my fondest memories are of serving a girlfriend. I would dress up as a maid, full attire and she would give me a list of chores to do. It started as roleplay but eventually, it became very real! It stopped being about me and became what i could do for her! I would do all the chores to my absolute best, just because it would please her! I actually began to gravitate my whole existence around serving her needs.

It was only when this 'internal' shift took place that i truly surrendered to myself!
Now i find that that without that loving and guiding force in my life, i have nobody to surrender my gift to, which leaves me feeling disconnected and unfuffilled.

By reading the variuos posts i can gather that 'submission' is interpreted differrently by differrent people. However, regardless of how it is intepreted, it is always engendered by the 'depth' and 'duration' of that submission.

Therefore, it seems quite important not to just stick an 'easy-attach' label to yourself and start to un pick what it actually means to you! This way we can save a lot of anger and frustration when communicating our needs and desires with other people.

Remember - MISCOMMUNICATION IS THE NORM -

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RE: Submission Realsied!!! - 5/15/2006 1:16:12 PM

theRose4U

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Very good and well thought out post. I would deffinately agree that mis-communication can be a problem, not sure that I would call it the norm.

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RE: Submission Realsied!!! - 5/15/2006 1:19:25 PM

Sab

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Good on you!

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RE: Submission Realsied!!! - 5/15/2006 1:51:31 PM

ArchangelMichael

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Some of the best tools I use to prevent misunderstandings ae The Four Agreements. I posted about them here:

http://www.collarchat.com/The_Four_Agreements/m_372531/tm.htm

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RE: Submission Realsied!!! - 5/15/2006 4:59:44 PM

genuineguy33

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Thankyou for the replies!!!

Returning to miscommunication being the norm. It may seem extreme, but if you kind of accept that - it makes you work that little bit harder at actually communicating.

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