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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 4:08:01 PM

FirmhandKY

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

i am impressed by your female insight as someone of the opposite sex.

Sometimes I play a 4 foot tall lesbian dyke online.

(no, not really. Inside joke)

HNG

I've sometimes seen HNG referred to as "Horny New Guy" as well, but couldn't find it in a short google search.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 4:19:39 PM

MasterAgony

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I am one of the Doms reading this and agree 100% with everything that you say.
We have to treat everybody on an individual basis and we also have to be honest about ourselves, both who and what we are to expect any kind of sucess here.
Kudos to you FirmHand for writing this multi-part and very important guide.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 4:23:13 PM

FirmhandKY

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Are you a psychologist FirmhandKY? I ask because I went to a talk by a psychologist last week, who was talking along a similar theme regarding male and females, almost word for word in some things you said. I had to kinda blink at your post and wonder if it was him talking, checked your profile, can't be him, he is in Australia at the moment. Kudo's to you if this has just been an accumulation of realisations made from your own experience or insights.

High praise, thank you, but no.

I just try to be an acute observer of human nature. Plus, I've had the benefit of a bit of education, training, and experience with people.

Being an OF (Ole Fart) certainly helps.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali
I've actually never had the experience in my life of looking for a partner, I know that sounds weird..but its true. It makes me ignorant to a lot of the dynamics that people have and do go through. I think though, if I was ever in a situation where I was looking for a partner, due to my own lack of experience in the area, having people give tips and insights would be really gratefully received....so good for you for attempting to be a productive force.

Not uncommon at all, particularly for submissive women. One of the things that maledoms should realize and take into account.

Worthy of a another thread? Perhaps "How to be Hunted by the maledom"? I posted a few tips in the "hints for subs" thread, but generally women are in the defensive mode when it comes to finding relationships. Men are almost always the hunters, women are almost always the hunted.

I think I read a post by a woman the other day, who said, basically if she wanted male companionship all she had to do was whisper the words "Let's f**k" at 1 a.m. in the dark of a deserted park, and she would have 10 men lined up within seconds.

I don't think that's much of an exaggeration.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 4:24:19 PM

CrappyDom

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I have found that a stun gun and ether work pretty well for me. Either that or I just cut and paste a few pictures and a good profile and they come running.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 6:42:06 PM

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I have found that a stun gun and ether work pretty well for me. Either that or I just cut and paste a few pictures and a good profile and they come running.

A "dear" blind and feeder, CD? That's not very sporting. ;)

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 6:59:53 PM

CrappyDom

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To hell with sporting, I just want to bag my limit!

I mean, come on, imagine how much work it is spending all this time working on your online profile, pufffing up your image, preening online, etc. I mean the next thing some idiot is going to suggest is to start socializing with those fucking perverts and actually meet them. My god, don't you know some of those people are downright fucking sick, using blood for anal lube, cutting and branding, fisting, and god knows what other perversions.

Nope, I don't go in for that sort of crap, I simply bag em and tag em, dump them off when I am done.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/15/2006 8:03:16 PM

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Dear FHKY..thank you for a most thought provoking and insightful post..though not universal..as it pertains to me personally, dead on...you are correct in your analysis that attitude of a Dominant is important.Most women and I do mean women not just submissives are highly in tune to that which feels false in nature, generally speaking..of course this is not to say that we cannot be fooled.Your description of Their attitude(fem/subs) as to when I first came onto collarme was pretty accurate,however in the interim,I have become less skittish, I think the more knowledge and insight I obtain the hesitancy within becomes less. IMO with knowledge comes a certain comfort level.And with the wealth of knowledge that I have recieved by many a Dominant/submissives on CM, I have not only learned more of what is within myself but what it is that I seek....be well and keep up the good posts...Tempting

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/16/2006 8:22:39 AM

losttreasure

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You're one of the last true pleasure hunters, CD. ;) Stick to your guns and watch out for all those PC deviants out there.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/16/2006 10:49:36 AM

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once again, FirmhandKY, you have hit the nail on the head. i felt like you were talking specifically about me when you mentioned the skittish sub.

as for any comment i might make on the attitude of the maledom, from my limited experience, i know that i respond more to the take charge attitude. maybe that's just my deep inner slave responding but i have learned to curb my initial response until more dialogue has been engaged. i have a feeling i will be the skittish sub for a very long time.

thank you for all of your insight in this and the other two posts. i have truly enjoyed each one.

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RE: How to succeed in your search - Hunting the femsub ... - 5/16/2006 3:07:39 PM

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I think you are pretty much on target through most of your post. Its amazing how many men go fishing for a sub with rotten bait. I think your rationale on how femsubs feel about posting their profile is on target, as well as how we tend to react after a hundred or more hngs mails.

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