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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 4:01:25 AM

LadyConstanze

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You should move out, because whenever I dated a guy who was still living at home (without a valid reason like looking after the parents but just so that mom could pamper him), it didn't last and people do need privacy.

Who is going to pay his bills while he is still in school or do you think he should drop out also? I mean what's more important, an education or getting laid?

I think I got an education without living at home, none of the universities made "living at home" a condition to attend, for the money, there's this ugly 4 letter word called WORK, not living at home doesn't mean you have to be a drop out. It's been a while since I've attended university, but the courses and classes tended not to be on the weekends and there used to be holidays, plenty of businesses are looking for people to fill in when their regular workers want to spend time with the family and go on vacation, a lot of people don't like working weekends. Sure it will cut into somebody's private life but it's part of being a grown up. Additionally a lot of companies won't hire people fresh out of college or uni without any job experience, they actually prefer people who had jobs before.

For the life of me, I can't see where I said that moving out means dropping out, I'd have been embarrassed to let my parents pay my way throughout my education, how can anybody call him or herself an adult when they rely on the parents to clean after them and pay for them? If you're living at home, it's THEIR home and you play by their rules, if you don't like it, you get out and get a freaking job and pay for your own roof, where you can do whatever you like without mom snooping!

When I visit the parents I still abide by their rules (though I don't visit that often because I hate structured formal dinners and having to change, plus they don't understand that I really have trouble digesting meat and look disapprovingly if I only eat veg), it's their house. When they come and visit me, they don't like it and complain that I'm living a bit too bohemian for their liking (we have breakfast together and then eat when we are hungry, the occasional dinner together) but I made it clear that I'm an adult and they are on my turf.

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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 4:48:49 AM

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For the life of me, I can't see where I said that moving out means dropping out, I'd have been embarrassed to let my parents pay my way throughout my education, how can anybody call him or herself an adult when they rely on the parents to clean after them and pay for them?

I don't think there is anything wrong with having your parents help you pay for college. I started working at 13 and also worked for a roofing company each summer while in college, and I still did not have enough saved to pay for college. I'm grateful that my parents helped me get through college debt free. I would do the same for my neices and nephews if needed.

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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 4:52:20 AM

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To the OP:
I am confused about the activities... what activities? You don't seem to be doing diddly that would warrant moving out.

You want to find a domme. Any idea how hard that is? How long that can take? Might want to start with just actually TALKING TO a woman and GOING ON A DATE. You're getting the cart before the horse, sparky.
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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 4:53:25 AM

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I didn't get through college dept free - most people don't, it's called student loans and I'm still paying them back and I worked during university, my parents offered to pay but there would have been conditions attached to it, like what they want me to study and where - since I wanted to be an adult and make those choices myself, I declined their offer.

Would I pay for my niece or nephew? NO, I would possibly help them out but I wouldn't pay their way, I would want them to carry part of the responsibility, if you're paying for something yourself you realize much more what it's worth than if you get it on a silver plate.

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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 5:05:57 AM

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I had a friend whose father had what I thought was a great setup.

He payed 100% of her college the first year so she could focus on the culture shock, the change, the move, learning how to be a uni student.
The second year, he paid 75% so that she had to figure out how to pay part of her tuition and such without it overwhelming her.
The next year, he paid 50%; she had had a good part time job by then and they hired her full time for the summer, so she actually did have the money - what she didn't she took out loans.
The final year, he paid only 25%, she paid most of her way, and the company she'd worked for for two years hired her full time. She had been fully trained by then, and they sent her out to California to get a new office started.

In the end, her father paid half of her expenses, but he did it in what seems to me like a very logical and supportive manner. He recognized the girl she was and her learning curve, and he honored the woman she became over those years.

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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 8:37:59 AM

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My wonderful parents saved so I could go to college, something they were unable to do. I paid for grad school both times. I lived at home, because hey!tuition AND room & board? Not happening. If your parents are generous, pay them back by studying and not being a douche.

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RE: My activities- should I move out - 6/24/2011 8:42:22 AM

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My father paid our way through college and set up college funds for the grandkids. We are grateful because otherwise none of us could have afforded the universities we've attended. Ivy League schools do not come cheap.

Beyond that we all hold the view that a student's job is their studies. To do the best job at school that they can. But in my culture, learning is held in high esteem.

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