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RE: Tests? - 5/16/2006 10:59:45 PM   
MistressVlinder


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Status: offline 		hope we are allowed to post websites here at least, as for tests, no I did not read through all the comments, but for those who really want to know what their sub likes before they get started and then push limits and know where NOT to go there is this site www.castlerealm.com and there is the bdsm checklist that you can copy and go over with your sub together before you realise that you aren't meant to be together at all, which yes sometimes happens....

damn how do I get rid of that stupid ice cream cone and vanilla label damn it????

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RE: Tests? - 5/17/2006 12:02:29 AM   
CERCKL


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damn how do I get rid of that stupid ice cream cone and vanilla label damn it????


It will haunt you like the albatross in "The Ancient Mariner"...until you accept the inner vanilla and can let go of it...

C

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RE: Tests? - 5/17/2006 12:08:04 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressVlinder

hope we are allowed to post websites here at least, as for tests, no I did not read through all the comments, but for those who really want to know what their sub likes before they get started and then push limits and know where NOT to go there is this site www.castlerealm.com and there is the bdsm checklist that you can copy and go over with your sub together before you realise that you aren't meant to be together at all, which yes sometimes happens....

damn how do I get rid of that stupid ice cream cone and vanilla label damn it????


Ms Vlinder,

You get rid of the ice vanilla label by posting 22 more times to the boards.  But, then you get a "Curious label.  Even worse, between 50 and 75 posts, you get labelled "Newbie."  Past 75 posts, you get to be "Kinky."  And after one more post, I'll become "Indecent."

Sheesh, I've been indecent for over half a century and I only now get the label?

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RE: Tests? - 5/17/2006 7:57:51 AM   
Proprietrix


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Call me shallow, but...
I do things like held positions, (wall stands in my case, yum yum) because -- it's fun.
That's it.
It doesn't bleet to some deeper sincere meaning of trust, loyalty, dedication and power. Nor is it a test of submission. It does have a bit of inherent symbolism in it, but the bottom line, for me, on this one is... It's just nifty and fun to put mine on a wall stand until their knees tremble.
Or as others have stated it "It's pleasing." (I prefer the word fun.)

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RE: Tests? - 5/17/2006 8:29:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CERCKL
will haunt you like the albatross in "The Ancient Mariner"...until you accept the inner vanilla and can let go of it...

C


Hmmm albatross eh? :)  Only haunted when some idiot shot it.

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 2:52:16 AM   
rainn


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Status: offline 		Mistress after so many  replies on this post, they change the cone to something else.Does that answer your question.
good day Mistress

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 3:40:31 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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Status: offline 		I think we 'test' one another often enough in the natural flow of a relationship that there isn't much need to perform tests that are meant to seriously determine any commitment, either of the submissive or the dominant.

But, if you're using the word 'test' just for fun, then that's always enjoyable to push and be pushed, but the submission/domination shouldn't be in question truly and posed in some test...the results of which likely would do nothing to show a "pass" or "fail".

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 5:11:04 AM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		Held possition tests are actually not designed to rpove anything beyond the level of self discipline the person has at that given moment. As such they are a valid test, this has nothing to do with devotion or such things beyond them as  motivation for the self discipline. So why do them? because the level of self discipline to hold a possition for longer than the S type thinks they can builds a higher level of self discipline within the S type down the road.

People decry Drill Sergeant methods, but there are some real and valid reasons they work the way they do. (and most times I see an incomplete understanding of that)

Think Mr Miagi, Paint fence, Wax on Wax off, sand deck,...
The reasons are not always what they seem.


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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 5:35:04 AM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: CERCKL
will haunt you like the albatross in "The Ancient Mariner"...until you accept the inner vanilla and can let go of it...

C


Hmmm albatross eh? :)  Only haunted when some idiot shot it.


I would imagine that the use of the term "Lucky" would not apply to the one with
bullet holes in it.

Just me, though, and I could be wrong.

Sinergy

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 7:03:39 AM   
adaddysgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

I would imagine that the use of the term "Lucky" would not apply to the one with
bullet holes in it.

Just me, though, and I could be wrong.

Sinergy


Wouldn't say you were wrong this time Sinergy 
 
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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 7:24:56 AM   
adaddysgirl


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Status: offline 		To me, pushing limits is one thing.  That can lead to pleasurable realizations and be quite rewarding in ways on both parts.  But testing a sub just to prove what.....her level or degree of submission?.....is too much of a game to me.  If a dom is really so unsure of his partners submission, loyalty, or whatever it is he is testing her for....and he can't just sit down and talk about it....then it seems there are bigger issues that really need to be addressed in that relationship.
 
i suppose some do it in fun and if that's the spirit it's taken in, fine.  But i don't think that's what we are talking about here, are we? 
 
DG

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 7:33:58 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

Held possition tests are actually not designed to rpove anything beyond the level of self discipline the person has at that given moment. As such they are a valid test, this has nothing to do with devotion or such things beyond them as  motivation for the self discipline. So why do them? because the level of self discipline to hold a possition for longer than the S type thinks they can builds a higher level of self discipline within the S type down the road.

People decry Drill Sergeant methods, but there are some real and valid reasons they work the way they do. (and most times I see an incomplete understanding of that)

Think Mr Miagi, Paint fence, Wax on Wax off, sand deck,...
The reasons are not always what they seem.



Hadn't even thought of that, does make sense.  Something new learned today, score!

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 8:35:56 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
I would imagine that the use of the term "Lucky" would not apply to the one with
bullet holes in it.

Just me, though, and I could be wrong.

Sinergy

It got to come back and haunt the ship and kill everyone on board...not too bad a fate.

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 11:05:15 AM   
MzMia


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I am reading this thread, what exactly do you get when you past the "TESTS"?
No more tests?
LOL
Also, are the tests graded? A, B, C, D and F?
I love this fucking place.
Yeeeeeeeeeeeee Hawwwwwwwww

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RE: Tests? - 12/3/2006 5:55:58 PM   
behindmirrors


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Status: offline 		To have my submission to my Dom tested would seem unnecessary to me. I suppose it's because that's like trying to quantify a part of my self- it is there, and it is what it is. To be tested in my devotion in a meaningless way just to "prove" something would cause harm, should I to ever know it had happened. I would be disappointed, both in myself and him.

In other ways, though, my Dom does test me. He will skillfully engineer situations in order to make me realize something about myself, conquer my fears or anxieties about something, and through this, he contributes to my strength as a person as well. He knows I will not come to harm through it, and we discuss it afterwards- usually when I have realized that I am more empowered than I previously thought. In this, it is not a test of my submission to him- especially as some of the situations have used my submissive nature in order to work as he planned so that I get the experience he felt I needed. It is much more a test for me as a person to figure out something I needed to know- and I am grateful for that. It is showing me, though my own actions, what I am really made of.

Just some thoughts-
behindmirrors.

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