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text messages - 5/15/2006 7:40:15 PM

slavelooking2006

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is it not inappropiate for a Master that is not in a commited realationship with a submissive to text mesage her and say good morning sex toy and she tells Him so and He later says fine i wont text message you anymore good luck.

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 7:41:08 PM

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Your profile says you have a master. Why does this matter?

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 7:44:38 PM

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this is for a friend of mine that is not collared.

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 7:46:08 PM

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Many things are inappropriate, if it bugs her, she should ignore him.

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 7:48:47 PM

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I highly suggest she visit the "Collards of Protection" thread and obtain one from the many people who offer them.

Or she could stop screwing around on the computer and start screwing around in real life.

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 7:53:31 PM

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Im not a master but I will take a stab at answering this question... if she feels it is inappropriate then it is. She should feel happy that he has told her he will not message her anymore so she does not have to tell him to bug off... Just my opinion and I may be wrong.. Yadda Yadda Yadda

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 8:03:04 PM

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I would say it was inappropriate too and reply good riddance to his farewell, and merrily go about my life and forget him. Not important enough to matter. Just my 2 cents.

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RE: text messages - 5/15/2006 8:20:42 PM

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I highly suggest she visit the "Collards of Protection"

I had one of those once, they get really smelly after a while and are awful slimy around your neck.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 1:49:35 AM

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Just a question that we both hit upon is how did he know her phome number ( yes we know about letting your fingers do the walking in the phone book ) but she either must have given a lot of personal details to him even to find her in there or have they met in person at times.
Even then if they are not comited to each other it is inappropiat for the message to be sent as in many ways it is just the same as sending emails which are unwanted or just plain rude.There have been enough of those sort of posts here and often.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 4:06:41 AM

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Just a question that we both hit upon is how did he know her phome number ( yes we know about letting your fingers do the walking in the phone book ) but she either must have given a lot of personal details to him even to find her in there or have they met in person at times.
Even then if they are not comited to each other it is inappropiat for the message to be sent as in many ways it is just the same as sending emails which are unwanted or just plain rude.There have been enough of those sort of posts here and often.

I have to agree with this post.

She should not of given her phone number out saves the hassle

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 5:29:01 AM

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quote:

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I highly suggest she visit the "Collards of Protection"

I had one of those once, they get really smelly after a while and are awful slimy around your neck.

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LOL...located in the produce aisle.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 5:44:22 AM

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I assume they are in some type of relationship as she has given her phone number out. I am also assuming the text message itself was not the problem, but just what he messaged. In that case, I think he may have thought he was being charming with a friendly greeting. I am not sure it is automatically "inappropriate." However, if it made her uncomfortable or she did not like it for whatever reason she sould make him aware of that. If his reaction is fine, so long -- well there you go.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 6:22:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006
is it not inappropiate for a Master that is not in a commited realationship with a submissive to text mesage her and say good morning sex toy and she tells Him so and He later says fine i wont text message you anymore good luck.

I'm confused are we talking about adults here or 7th graders?

He was probably trying to be sexy and cute- taking a risk. She took it as too presumptuous. He got huffy and stomped off.

They both got what they wanted.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 7:34:36 AM

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I am missing the point here---first of all in order for Him to be able to text message, she must have given Him her number---that to Me is a sign of encouragement---and when has No stopped being an option?

Your "friend" needs to deal with life as life is--don't encourage if you don't want and if you make a mistake---own up and deal.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 7:50:54 AM

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I am missing the point here---first of all in order for Him to be able to text message, she must have given Him her number---that to Me is a sign of encouragement---and when has No stopped being an option?

Your "friend" needs to deal with life as life is--don't encourage if you don't want and if you make a mistake---own up and deal.

Not quite. Telling someone they can touch your breasts isn't the same as telling someone they can call you a whore.

Giving someone your phone number doesn't mean they get a free pass to inappropriate behavior just because it's on the phone.

I think he took a fairly safe risk, but unfortunately, she took it badly and considered it inappropriate. Nothing wrong with that at all. Her job then is to maturely and easily mention it "Hey, we're not there yet, I don't like messages like that."

His job is then to accept it maturely and decide whether he still wants to be with her. Acceptable responses are exclusively "OK I understand, we'll take it slower." or "OK I understand, but I'm not interested anymore."

But I don't think you can say something to the effect of "you encouraged him by wearing that slutty dress, so you deserves the looks and leers and name calling."

Wearing a slutty dress does not excuse the behaviors of others.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 7:59:11 AM

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this is silly - no third party can judge as no third party knows what went before - it could have been said jokingly or for any number of reasons - it all seems a bit pathetic really

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 8:07:58 AM

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Yeah, it sounds like she needs to grow up a bit. Maybe he did take a bit of a risk...who doesn't. But if she told him she didn't like it and he got huffy, well, then it's over and no worries.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 8:14:48 AM

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By "encouragement", I simply meant permission to contact---not in the context of a sexual comment--sorry for the confusion.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 8:35:01 AM

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quote:

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this is silly - no third party can judge as no third party knows what went before - it could have been said jokingly or for any number of reasons - it all seems a bit pathetic really

Third party's judge all the time. That's pretty much what the foundation of the US judicial system IS.

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RE: text messages - 5/16/2006 8:46:52 AM

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Sounds like you got text messaged by the same guy I get messages from, except, he and I are NOT involved.

Gettign a text message that says 'good morning' is alwys nice, if its from a friend or partner. :o) Its a nice way to start the day.

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