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Suleiman -> RE: Am i the only one? (10/24/2004 8:13:19 PM)
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You mean that sort of aftercare isn't normal? Just goes to show I've been living in the boonies. Back in the day (tries to find a rocking chair to clamber into) when I was a young man, and used to get myself whipped till I was nearly bloody, that sort of care and attention was standard, at least within the odd little community that took me in. Now, after ten years in suburban limbo, I hear stories like this one, and I wonder what sort of a madhouse was it that accepted me? Oh, I know, it's not so bad as all that - you can't hear it over the chattering of my keyboard, but I'm laughing at myself for having been scandalized that MY way isn't the accepted standard.
As Cynnacent and beachmystress have suggested, you should bring this up with your top. This is not a desire that will go away if you ignore it, and s/he will not be able to change their habits if you do not tell them there is something missing from your loveplay. (What's that? Some people don't think of this sort of thing as loveplay? Balderdash!) Eventually, little things like this can gnaw away at you, just as similar things gnaw at the roots of almost every relationship. A little preventative care, in the form of a quiet discussion now, can help to stave off an very nasty breakup later.
Just my twenty five quatloos. Your mileage may vary.
~S
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