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I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/15/2006 10:39:52 PM   
bedroomsexgod


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Status: offline 		Sorry it's actually two questions.  I'm new to this site please bare with me.  What is the difference in the Red and Purple names?

Also I am very good at pleaseing sexually.  I've always had difficulty cumming and so I've always devoted my time during intercourse towards pleaseing the woman that I'm with.  I've read varoius books on the subject and I'm currently trying to find a way to give consistant multiple orgasims.  With my eventual goal of making a woman squart.  Now I said all that so that I can say this.  Is my ability to please sexually something that Doms look for?  Because I haven't really noticed it in to many profiles.
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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/15/2006 10:43:26 PM   
juliaoceania


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From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		I believe purple refers to couples. I think red means domme, but I could be wrong (in fact that was guessing on my part so if someone knows please post it)

I just noticed the second question....lol... cant help you there...lolololol

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 5/15/2006 10:44:48 PM >

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/15/2006 10:51:02 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Purple is couples (because, apparently all couples are male/female ... and red + blue = purple ... but couples like us kinda screw that theory up LOL), red is Dominant Women, pink is submissive women, and there doesn't seem to be any way to distinguish between Dominant and submissive males.

As for the second question - some look for that, some don't.  Most are looking for other things first, and are willing to train their submissive to please them sexually - if they want that.  If you are looking for a Dominant that will allow you to have sex with them, then you need to mention that in your profile.  I will tell you, however, that a screen name like yours is not likely to interest many Dominants that I have met ... it's arrogent, and implies very stongly that sexual submission is all you are interested in (although, the "god" part kind of implies that you aren't even submissive).

For future reference, it's inappropriate to ask the same exact question in multiple forums.

< Message edited by SweetDommes -- 5/15/2006 10:59:54 PM >

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/15/2006 10:58:34 PM   
xavoc


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Joined: 6/19/2005
Status: offline 		Asking what a dom looks for is a bit like asking a person what their favorite color is.

It's really up to the particular individual as to what they find pleasing.  While some may prefer a partner who is skilled, others may have a particular fondness for the untrained that they can mold to their liking.  Others yet may decide that they need to break their submissive down and rebuild them.  Many people have their opinion on the matter, and even more are likely to offer them. 

Though I imagine your screen name will work against people taking you seriously.

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/15/2006 11:33:00 PM   
MistressLove999


Posts: 201
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: Daytona Beach, Florida
Status: offline 		Sorry kiddo,
I have to agree with all of the answers you were given.
As a domme, if you were in my collar first thing to go is that name.
You have zero info on your profile so thats a bad thing.
Most Dommes  get a bit pissed when you mail them and  offer just sex service, deal with it, sorry  you just wouldn't believe how many subs(male) there are.
So my advice is if you want to catch the eye of a Domme, use your wit and your charm, have a good profile filled out with a picture and ALWAYS ALWAYS be polite to everyone especially in these forums, you never know who is reading you.........and checking that profile.
I wish you well in your search.

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 4:46:52 AM   
LadyDomX


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Status: offline 		I believe the red/pink names are females, and the purple/blue are male...


From my experience, it all depends on the vibe that the two of you have, and what the individual preferences are...  The sexual energy that builds during sessioning can be just as potent as the raw energy from normal sessioning...

I hope this helps...
LadyDomX

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 5:35:13 AM   
angelface183


Posts: 688
Joined: 4/12/2006
Status: offline 		red is for dominant females, pink is for submissive; royal blue is for dominant males and lighter blue is submissive; purple is for couples

I agree with everyone else about the name; I was shocked to discover that you are submissive because it just screams Dom (or attitude)

And as someone else pointed out, be polite to all you encounter on the site.  Remember that your forum posts can be accessed via your profile.  Yesterday, a male submissive probably blew it with every single prospect on this site by barging in and ranting and raving about everything that was wrong with this site and its members.  Not too cool...just treat others with the same respect that you desire and hopefully what you wish for will come to you. 

Good luck in your search!

< Message edited by angelface183 -- 5/16/2006 5:36:02 AM >

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 5:37:33 AM   
RavenMuse


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Joined: 1/23/2006
Status: offline 		To answer your question, as mentioned, purple = couples, Red = Dommes, Pink Fem sub, Blue = Male Dom and I believe light blue = male sub

Must admit the first thing I expect that folks will notice about you is that name.... but unless the reaction you are looking for is ironic laughter and them moving to the next profile then I suggest you change it as that is the likely reaction of most of the Dommes I know


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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 5:44:48 AM   
ginawithaB


Posts: 141
Joined: 9/2/2005
Status: offline 		Re colors:

Seems to me the pink refers to females, sub or Domme...blue for males, again sub or Dom...purple for couples...red seems to be for ProDommes...but I could be wrong...just what has seemed to have come through my inbox.

Hope that helps...but to be sure, ask the mods.

< Message edited by ginawithaB -- 5/16/2006 5:45:49 AM >

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 5:58:47 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Well you'v had the color thing verified---but I am here to agree about the screen name--( would never take that seriously---smacks of arrogance, topping from the bottom and its all about you)--and the question---sorry lad, there is a whole lot more to a Domme than sex---IF that even enters the picture.

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 6:19:43 AM   
Reflectivesoul


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quote:

Also I am very good at pleaseing sexually.  I've always had difficulty cumming and so I've always devoted my time during intercourse towards pleaseing the woman that I'm with.  I've read varoius books on the subject and I'm currently trying to find a way to give consistant multiple orgasims.  With my eventual goal of making a woman squart.  Now I said all that so that I can say this.  Is my ability to please sexually something that Doms look for?  Because I haven't really noticed it in to many profiles.


Not only do most Dommes not look for just sex but from experience those who brag about their so called talents are often the ones that have no damn clue. Furthermore what self respecting woman is going to go ooooooo look its a sex god lemme just run right over there? Hello women are more than just an ass and titties to make someone elses fantasies come true. I think you may be better off to just delete that profile and try again because you're not going to get very far with this one.
 
~RS~

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 6:30:12 AM   
angelface183


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Status: offline 		once again RS, I really wish that you would stop being so demure and just let people know what it is that you really think!  LOL

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 6:40:45 AM   
shivvy


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From: Ireland, living in Kent, England.
Status: offline 		thank you everybody for answering this query, coz i wasn't sure either


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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 8:24:38 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		The only Red ones i've seen are for those that state "Lesbian" on their profiles. pink - female, blue - male, purple - couple. Not sure if the colour is different for men that sate gay though. never been messaged by one. *s*

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 9:37:13 AM   
Reflectivesoul


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Status: offline 		 heh hiyas angel *hugs*

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 10:01:06 AM   
mixielicous


Posts: 1283
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: Boston area, Massachusetts
Status: offline 		as a matter of fact, i cant recall one red domme who contacted me being lesbian.

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 10:32:43 AM   
angelface183


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Status: offline 		same here

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 10:53:46 AM   
Proprietrix


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Joined: 7/15/2005
From: Ohio/West Virginia
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quote:

ORIGINAL: bedroomsexgod
Also I am very good at pleaseing sexually.  I've always had difficulty cumming and so I've always devoted my time during intercourse towards pleaseing the woman that I'm with.  I've read varoius books on the subject and I'm currently trying to find a way to give consistant multiple orgasims.  With my eventual goal of making a woman squart.  Now I said all that so that I can say this.  Is my ability to please sexually something that Doms look for?  Because I haven't really noticed it in to many profiles.


I don't know many Dominas who are strictly looking for a submissive who can provide multiple orgasms and make them "squart" as you so eloquently put it. Sex, even good sex, isn’t that hard to come by for any gal, and vibrators are much lower maintenance than sex slaves. That’s probably why you haven’t seen many Dommes posting profiles looking for what you’re spending your time learning to provide. Is sex all you offer as a submissive? If so, your chances of finding what you’re looking for are probably slim to none. Most ladies want a relationship (albeit many different kinds of relationships) with a submissive. If you don’t offer anything more than their sex-toy drawer offers, you might find yourself falling very low on the list of applicants.
I don’t understand the concept of submissives offering sex, as the basis of their submission. Don’t most men enjoy sex? What’s so submissive about enjoying a woman’s orgasm? Even the Dominant men I know, and the vanilla men I know, enjoy bringing a woman to orgasm. Anyway… I digress…

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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 11:47:44 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
What’s so submissive about enjoying a woman’s orgasm? Even the Dominant men I know, and the vanilla men I know, enjoy bringing a woman to orgasm. Anyway… I digress…


Damn straight its enjoyable, I enjoy controling how she gets there every bit as much as I enjoy controling how she gets me there.


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RE: I'm new to being a Sub and had a question - 5/16/2006 12:50:23 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		omg, this poor guy just hasn't a chance........My advise ditch this profile.......create a new one that does NOT have the two words sex or god......oh hell bedroom is not good either......okay....start over with a WHOLE new attitude....write LOTS of stuff about you, none of which includes none of the topics your old profile name or your interests in sex apply to......add a nice smiling face photo and then just THEN you might have an icecubes chance in hell...

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