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experiment2 -> returning sub not sure why (7/2/2011 6:27:15 PM)
it has been six months since my Mistress and i separated. it happened at the same time that She stopped being a Domme and i had the need to clear my mind and return to a normal? lifestyle. it had all been online. now i don't know what i want, but feel an overwhelming need to be controlled by a strong female again. i can't explain the mental state making me want to do it again, but it is there. i had erase all i had been and thrown out almost all of the the devices i had secretly acquired, chastity cages, feminine underwear, nipple clips, etc. i can't explain why i am online tonight and even sending this. i am happily married and have a grown family. perhaps other can explain the reasons why. where this goes i don't know.

DarkSteven -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/2/2011 9:58:36 PM)
Um. Have you tried getting your wife to be a Domme to you? You're playing with fire by trying to have a secret relationship.

KiGirl -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/2/2011 10:36:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You're playing with fire by trying to have a secret relationship. Yep. Attempting to compartmentalize your sexuality (however it manifests) is very unhealthy.

ashjor911 -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/3/2011 6:12:39 AM)
Welcome To CM PS: I would listen to DarkSteven if I were you,

experiment2 -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/3/2011 8:20:15 AM)
thank you for your input. it is very difficult to involve my wife in any domme/sub activities, so i am pretty much frustrated at present. i had the benefit of belonging to a few Dominants online and really ended each connection more on my own. while involved it was very satisfying. i know it is risky, but do need to have some form of dominance control. i apprecite any additional ideas, or suggestions from others with similar situations.

DarkSteven -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/3/2011 8:21:39 AM)
Fella, I just read your profile. You're 62. That's way too old to be driven by your hormones. And you're jeopardizing a marriage that's gotta be about 40 years old. I suggest going to a Marriage Encounter. They'll show you how to communicate better with your wife, to kick some fresh energy into the marriage, and how to get the two of you to add new things to your sex life. Good luck.

experiment2 -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/3/2011 11:16:00 AM)
DarkSteven, thanks for the input and suggestion. it is probably unlikely that i will seek any formal help, since i do still enjoy marriage and my wife. the problem may be hormonal, although i am old in years, i could easily pass for 10 years younger. i guess the best thing for me is to try and remain outside of things and just maintain it as a fantasy type of activity. experiment

OohAahMrs -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/4/2011 8:07:47 AM)
Welcome to CM (hope your wife finds out!)

LadyConstanze -> RE: returning sub not sure why (7/4/2011 8:47:10 AM)
You don't want to talk to your wife about it, but have you ever considered the consequences if she'd find out? Not only that she might leave you, also the hurt you'd cause her. I'm not saying this lightly, but since you are married, you can't enter a real relationship with somebody anyway because you have other, previous commitments, so you're not fair on anybody involved, if you really feel the need that much, book a session with somebody, get it out of your system and make sure your wife doesn't find out, because she doesn't deserve to get hurt. Kudos for being honest in your profile but...

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