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MsIncognito -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 7:57:33 PM)
As with anything else in life I keep at it (whatever it may be) until the negatives outweigh the positives. When it gets to the point that I get more grief from it than not then I give it up. If not permanently then at least temporarily until I can go back to it feeling renewed and ready to give it another go.

Najakcharmer -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:00:46 PM)
I dunno. I "gave up" a long time ago in the sense that I had no expectation or belief that I was going to find Submissive Prince Charming who would ride up on a white horse and carry me off to Merry Kinky Land where we would attend play parties happily ever after. I chose to focus not on the fact that I didn't have a Special Someone, but on the fact that I had many good friends (some of whom were also darn good play partners) and a whole lot to accomplish with my life that was positive and fulfilling. Works for me.

MsIncognito -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:01:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy One of my own thoughts on this is that what you look for will always be in the last place you look for it. Well of course it is. I don't know a single person who keeps looking for something once they've found it.

gooddogbenji -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:03:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul gives benji a cookie lol and cuddle a lolli [:D] Takes the cookie, names it Jim BITE MY ASS, ALREADY!!!! Yours, benji

slaverosebeauty -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:04:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn I've been wondering this lately as I've never really found what I'm looking for. Maybe I set the bar too high. Maybe I forgot to set one at all. I'm not really sure. ........When do you finally give up, or do you just keep looking up until the point the end credits start rolling up on the life screen? I thought for the longest time that I had set the bar too high, I kept getting losers, morons and trolls who contacted me with a few intelligent and potential Masters mixed in on occassion. The more losers and trolls that came my way, the higher I set my standards adn the more frusturated I became, after I was on jury duty, my standards went up even higher. Giving up is NOT in my blood, I haven't given up love; and right now, I am seeing who my true friends are and who will capture my heart; see who is ONLY in this for my physical/sexual reasons and nothing else. Don't give up, don't lower your standards; when you do that, you compermise who you are and where you want to be, especially if you are talking about love. Just when I would think of giving up on finding a partner, a great man would come into my life, even if he turned out to be a friend, he was still there. Now, well, I won't go into anything, but, I didn't give up and I am trully happy. :o) If I can find happiness, you can. Good Luck.

Smythe -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:23:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DommeIrene2 good question, no answer. I'm at that point now. When you find out let me know. I have yet to find one true slave :( Irene, meet little sarbon! little sarbon, meet Irene. Irene, I think little sarbon might be moving to California soon, although I am not sure how much good he will do you in northern California but it's closer than Michigan. little sarbon, it sounds like you could make DommeIrene's dreams come true. best Yente

akisha -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:32:49 PM)
been looking for 15 years and still looking. Doesn't mean i haven't enjoyed my time during the search though smiles

MrMister -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:44:57 PM)
As long as a tiny spark remains, it can be fanned into a roaring flame.

beachstoyboy -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:50:45 PM)
whoops.. mispost

BeachMystress -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:51:46 PM)
I know it can be hard looking for your "One." I searched for years and actually gave up a few months before I met him. My collared submissive husband had been in the lifestyle for all of three months when he met me. There is just no telling how long it is going to take. As for you having unrealistic expectations, only you can decide that. If you're looking for a movie star beautiful person in black leather who is constantly "on," you're probably doomed to a long search. Does that mean you shouldn't keep looking for exactly what you want? Personally, I think you hold on to your requirements and do not settle for less. I gave up before I settled for less, and I ended up with my dream. Good hunting!

Najakcharmer -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 8:56:35 PM)
If the cookie tastes like ass, you probably shouldn't eat it. Unless ass cookies are your kink.

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 9:05:17 PM)
Happiness isn't something you find, it is something you feel. Happiness doesn't come from someone you find, it comes from somewhere inside of you. You will never find that missing piece until you realize it isn't missing at all, just forgotten somewhere inside of you. When you can be happy and complete by yourself, others will want to be with you. Stop looking and start living. Find happiness in yourself, in the here and now, and the rest will all fall into place. Taggard

RavenMuse -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 9:09:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn When do you finally give up, or do you just keep looking up until the point the end credits start rolling up on the life screen? Till I find her or till they nail down the lid.... but then I'm a stubourn bastard!

michaelGA2 -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 9:12:57 PM)
well, for me, i've noticed that, over the years of being on this site, i have become bitter and it shows. my attitude has made me somewhat undesireable and unwanted...so the search, for what it is...continues. it seems a bit fruitless most of the time. maybe someday i will give up (probably when i'd dead and buried)

dogobedience -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 9:15:12 PM)
NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER!

juliaoceania -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 10:42:09 PM)
Have you heard... "you can't always get what you want, but if you try real hard you might get what you need" (gotta love dem Rolling Stones...smiles) I have thought of those lines for a couple of years, because I decided it was more important for me to get my needs met then to concentrate on what I could not change, IE being frustrated due to not getting what I want. I may not ever find what I am looking for, I can accept that because it is about the journey, not the outcome for me. I met some nice people, had some wonderful friends, treasured some along the way and when the credits role I want them to reflect this. I do not want my epithet to read "Was lonely and frustrated". It is not about giving up or not giving up for me, its about living a day at a time and finding something worth doing that day.... Just what I feel about it....

Reflectivesoul -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 10:49:10 PM)
benji baby, I am not biting your ass lol Like I know where that things been! uses some tongs n pinches his ass with those instead Thats just gonna have to do doll lol ~RS~

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 11:04:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn I've been wondering this lately as I've never really found what I'm looking for. Maybe I set the bar too high. Maybe I forgot to set one at all. I'm not really sure. This isn't really a complaint about not finding someone. We see enough of those here. No, this is more about curiosity for those who have been looking for awhile and who may have just given up on finding someone. Or people who remained looking forever until they found the person they were seeking. When do you finally give up, or do you just keep looking up until the point the end credits start rolling up on the life screen? I'll give up when I either have no reason to look or when they put me in the ground. I gave up once, gave up on everything, love, life happiness. I gave up for years. That's no way to live. I don't plan on doing it again.

MistressLorelei -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 11:44:38 PM)
If I gave up everytime something in life frustrated me... I would have gotten nowhere at all. All of the things I value most in life took time and effort to obtain. I grow frustrated often, but if I decide that dealing with the internet world becomes too frustrating... I might be giving up a website or an organization, but I will still be moving towards finding the things in life I think will make it a better one. I know what I want, and I know what I need... and those alone took me years to discover. The hardest part is already over.

ElectraGlide -> RE: How long does one normally keep looking before giving up? (5/16/2006 11:56:58 PM)
Hey take your time, dont put a time limit on it. In your search you can learn much about yourself. Independance is a tool that many insecure people dont have. You can learn what you need to improve on in your life to make yourself happy. Only you can make yourself happy nobody else can, they can enchance your happiness because it does reflect upon one another.

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