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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I don't think you need to include your vanilla partner in your scenes. In fact, it might make him more uncomfortable if he does get BDSM because if he feels anything positive during the scene its going to raise doubts in himself and how much time and energy do you wish to give to that?

I don't include Tom in my Ds relationships at all. He and Fox and others I've had are just friends and they do just friends stuff together (mostly science/sci fi geeky stuff). He respects the rules, rituals and other Ds things that Fox and I have, never speaks badly about them, never attempts to change them.

Perhaps you should just give them time to get to know each other and become friends.

Of course it is strictly BDSM with your pet and you don't want any vanilla or mundaneness there it will be harder -- we are family, we eat dinner together, the guys share some chores, they have a gaming group they are members of which I have no interest in, etc.

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ORIGINAL: DerLachendeKater

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I don't think you need to include your vanilla partner in your scenes. In fact, it might make him more uncomfortable if he does get BDSM because if he feels anything positive during the scene its going to raise doubts in himself and how much time and energy do you wish to give to that?

I don't include Tom in my Ds relationships at all. He and Fox and others I've had are just friends and they do just friends stuff together (mostly science/sci fi geeky stuff). He respects the rules, rituals and other Ds things that Fox and I have, never speaks badly about them, never attempts to change them.

Perhaps you should just give them time to get to know each other and become friends.

Of course it is strictly BDSM with your pet and you don't want any vanilla or mundaneness there it will be harder -- we are family, we eat dinner together, the guys share some chores, they have a gaming group they are members of which I have no interest in, etc.

since my mistress is at work I’ll pop in here and reveal a few more things since she kind of gave a very basic view of the situation the situation isn't as simple as there being a vanilla bf a kinky pet and her we all share extremely strong feelings for each other even though I refuse to be anything more then a pet and a gf it often works more like a three-way relationship.

The problem arises with the fact that her bf has an extreme aversion to loss of freedom violence etc. all that I think I can say for now is has to do with stuff as he grew up. I on the other hand among other things enjoy rape fantasies and other such things where i have the possibility of getting tossed around hit etc.

the other big problem is that and I will be the first to admit it me and him are both attention whores when it comes to his mate and my mistress so we usually end up bumping heads about that but not always. The threesomes we have are also very fulfilling for example the other night when they surprised me even though nothing major happened I walked away happier because I felt that we had all grown closer.

Anyways I hope this sheds some more light I don't want to say anything else cus I’m not sure if it would be ok.