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RE: Ageing - 7/9/2011 2:00:41 PM

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I suppose I would "discard Carol like rubbish" the moment I came to see her as "rubbish".

Nah, man. You take her to the slaughterhouse. That's prime grade hamburger meat we are talking about. You gotta collect on your investment somehow.

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RE: Ageing - 7/10/2011 4:15:09 PM

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I almost fell off my chair laughing.

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RE: Ageing - 7/10/2011 4:27:17 PM

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I almost fell off my chair laughing.

(giggles)

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RE: Ageing - 7/11/2011 11:26:26 PM

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what happens to a slave when she is no more no more able to serve u as she used to due being sick or getting old or no more flexible as she used to be. As she being discarded like rubbish or thrown out to wherever?

Your honest answers please, as we all here are not going to be young forever

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I'm hoping he opts for the Valentine Michael Smith route but it's up to him.

I am no longer an egg.

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RE: Ageing - 7/11/2011 11:35:41 PM

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Getting older rocks!

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 5:49:41 AM

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My ex christy was 14 years older than me. Eventually she grew old an was unable to have children, couldn't put her legs behind her ears anymore or take it as rough as when I first took her as mine in 1993. But she never gave up or gave me less than she was capable of. In all our years, she always woke up before me and brought me breakfast and sex in bed in the morning. She made me king with what she had to give.

She was OK with poly but had trouble when it came to living with an other woman that was bearing my children when she couldn't. We broke up but remained friends, family and lovers. I look after her when needed. She even lived next door last year when she was single and she lives a mile away with her new guy right now. I helped her start her modeling and adult acting career, I gave her a publishing company and I am always willing to help her if I can. Even everhope (my girl/nurse) was looking after her when she had a surgery.

On the other hand, I had a slave change up after 2 1/2 years and I ended it totally. Unlike your OP that specifies physical reasons for the end of certain services, this was a mental change. She had come to me with 2 children and no bio dad to deal with. I became the only dad loving her and the kids with all my heart. We were a big happy poly BDSM family. 2 1/2 years later my slave asked me to go vanilla/mono. Dumped that shit like a hot potato more...

For me, what I give is directly relevant to what they give.

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 5:52:58 AM

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I very much hope to grow old together and die with Carol. We hope we die together driving too fast in a convertible on a twisty road on a gorgeous spring day -- 40 years from now.

That's kind of macabre romantic. I like it.

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 7:28:59 AM

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Getting older rocks!

Yes it does.

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 2:36:58 PM

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Easy. The same thing that she would do if the dom became fat, bald, impotent or gray....

For me, my first master was grey, and impotent and fat - and i loved him dearly, and served him as well as i could. And when his hair fell out because of the chemo, i continued to serve him as well as i could - right up to his death.

So , i guess, love will overcome any adversity. No dumping in my house thank you!

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 2:57:52 PM

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I guess I am one of those sub for life people.

If someone has been your sub, to a certain extent at least they stay your sub, no matter what is going on in each other's lives.

That doesn't mean your relationship doesn't change, they do change. Times changes everything. For me it means if I connect on a certain level, that connection does not ever go away. It is certainly far too valuable to toss it away.

The person who is my sub now will be my sub until one of us dies. Likewise I will be the man's submissive (on some level) until one of us dies -- until then I will *always* look to him to be my emotional anchor.

So no, I don't get tossing a sub out b/c of age.

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 4:36:05 PM

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Getting older rocks!

Yes it does.

Lies Lies and more lies ..getting old sucks it is somewhat better than the alternative.

Relationships should be just like a car leases, The bitch gets traded in every 4 years. The low mileage ones get extra credit...

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RE: Ageing - 7/12/2011 4:49:01 PM

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I think getting older is awesome. What ya give up in your body, the great stuff that you have in your mind makes up for.

For me anyhow........I wouldn't go back to younger than 40, even if I could.

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RE: Ageing - 7/13/2011 6:41:17 AM

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OP, I would sincerely hope that nobody would discard their partner like so much rubbish. I understand that there are people for whom love doesn't play a part in their dynamic (I don't understand how), but even then I would think that a master would still have a responsibility to his slave. Perhaps he should seek a younger more able slave for the bedroom, and have the older slave run the household, after all those years I'm sure she would be quite good at it. She could probably also train the new slave in the ways the master likes to be served in the bedroom.

Just imagine how enjoyable it would be to have the older slave teach her how he likes his cock sucked, what with all the demonstrating and trying and practicing, it could go on for hours.[/color]

I agree with this completely - and I think it makes sense even without love. I think the owner has responsibility for the slave, at least after a period of good service, and as long as she's doing what she can. I think what happens in practice depends how you've lived your lives till then. If the owner has made proper provision for the slave to live a decent independent life, then maybe releasing her into that is a reasonable exercise of responsibility. But if she owns nothing, has no savings of her own and so on, then I think only an irresponsible man would "dump" her. If she's committed to being a slave long-term, and has kept her end of the bargain, then I think she's earned a place in the household.

I also think it's a really beautiful idea that a slave who one day needs personal care might one day be cared for inside the household, by her master and any new slaves, rather than in some "home".

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RE: Ageing - 7/14/2011 2:22:23 PM

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what happens to a slave when she is no more no more able to serve u as she used to due being sick or getting old or no more flexible as she used to be. As she being discarded like rubbish or thrown out to wherever?

Your honest answers please, as we all here are not going to be young forever

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If that's what matters to him then fair play. It's not as if we have pledged some life-long allegiance of some kind. And that applies to both of us.

I will never be discarded and nor will he. But then, I was never chosen for my *serving* skills. :)......and he wasn't chosen for his agility, either.

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RE: Ageing - 7/14/2011 6:49:44 PM

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I loved this question! I have thought about that quite a bit myself.
I often wonder what happens when a Master dumps his slave, and retains everything - and the slave sub ends up with nothing - perhaps homeless, and without a dime to their name.

Well she/he has their old collar of course - but try bringing that into a court of law and see what a judge says when you say you've served Master blah blah for X amount of years- and then turn around and see your married neighbor who's been living with her husband the same amount of years divorce and ends up with the house, pension, security, splitting of the investments....

Aint collars and contracts great! Well at least you have the bragging rights that your Owner "used" you really good!

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RE: Ageing - 7/14/2011 10:19:45 PM

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Feels good being young and what not.

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RE: Ageing - 7/15/2011 10:22:05 AM

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I guess I am one of those sub for life people.

If someone has been your sub, to a certain extent at least they stay your sub, no matter what is going on in each other's lives.

That doesn't mean your relationship doesn't change, they do change. Times changes everything. For me it means if I connect on a certain level, that connection does not ever go away. It is certainly far too valuable to toss it away.

The person who is my sub now will be my sub until one of us dies. Likewise I will be the man's submissive (on some level) until one of us dies -- until then I will *always* look to him to be my emotional anchor.

So no, I don't get tossing a sub out b/c of age.

I don't think that is true. Sometimes, no matter how close you have been, you have to let go of what was. My ex thinks I will always be his submissive, but he is dead wrong.

To me, he was my Dom and now he is not. Nothing to do with age, everything to do with people changing and having different needs.

If I thought I would always be his submissive, I would shoot myself.

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RE: Ageing - 7/15/2011 10:32:37 AM

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I don't think that is true. Sometimes, no matter how close you have been, you have to let go of what was. My ex thinks I will always be his submissive, but he is dead wrong.

To me, he was my Dom and now he is not. Nothing to do with age, everything to do with people changing and having different needs.

If I thought I would always be his submissive, I would shoot myself.

Oh I have one of those exes too. I was married to him for 20+ years. He will always think of me as his, though I left him 13 years ago and will never be his again.

So of course, there are times when you can't continue a relationship on any level. However, I have found that occurs when I did not have as much in common with the person as I thought I did. And when I say in common, I am not talking hobbies, more a similar ethical and emotional wavelength. If this makes sense?

I very much regret it when I can't maintain some type of relationship with an ex; I realize it means at some level I failed to see how incompatible we were.

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RE: Ageing - 7/15/2011 11:22:31 AM

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Exactly. Although I will say that sometimes you cannot be friends with an ex, not because of a lack of compatibility, but a problem with their new partner.

My ex husband and I were best friends and had tons in common, but our goals changed. We were able to remain in each other's lives until he remarried and I met my ex boyfriend.

Why? Because his new wife and my boyfriend were jealous assholes and my ex husband was too weak to overcome her objection while I could have overcome mine.

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RE: Ageing - 7/17/2011 9:05:36 AM

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I very much hope to grow old together and die with Carol. We hope we die together driving too fast in a convertible on a twisty road on a gorgeous spring day -- 40 years from now.

Well said, In a long term relationship a M/s dynamic should only end in this way. Its a view yes...and its mine, its how I want my second half of my life to end, together with my one and only female.

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