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RE: trying not to give up - 7/10/2011 3:36:57 PM

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RE: trying not to give up - 7/11/2011 3:29:14 AM

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ugh i have been trying my hardest to become the best subbie possible or atleast half good and yet it seems like since im new im still a failure . I know great things take time and patience and hard work but why is it so hard to get my lifestle intact for my self and my Master. :/

If you are looking for serious answers, you are going to have to provide more in-dept information. Based on what is written, you seem to be looking for merely sympathy.

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RE: trying not to give up - 7/11/2011 3:33:16 AM

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Big respect for the insertion of a Shakespeare reference.

You fucking rock.

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RE: trying not to give up - 7/11/2011 3:36:44 AM

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if she'd been a fucking canadian i'd have said "exposed on an ice floe" rather than "shot".

Just in case you ever need to give similar advice to someone from England, I'd recommend "Attend a conference in Crawley".

Just a tip.

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RE: trying not to give up - 7/11/2011 3:43:28 AM

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Hello OP,

As others have said, it's all about communication, but not just your communication skills, your Dom's too.

I thought SlaveKelly's post was beautiful:

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ORIGINAL: SlaveKelly4life

Being relatively new myself, I've discovered that you just have to find that delicate balance between trying your hardest/doing your best, and giving yourself enough time to learn. As with anything, learning to be the best sub/slave for your Dom or Master, takes time and patience. Don't be too hard on yourself. Trust in your Dom/Master to show you what He expects of you and what He thinks you could use improvement in, if anything.

Remember that communication is key and you have to keep that going at all times with your Dom/Master.

And I thought Hannah's trenchant response was on the button.

Even where you're committed to submission, you still have the right to demand clarity from your Dom. If he's not clearly communicating his wants, or providing you with effective feedback, I feel you're entitled to slow things down and ask for more clarity.

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RE: trying not to give up - 7/11/2011 5:52:45 AM

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Excuse me but the blame is not yours. The Master has the responsibility to make sure his slave can be successful. If the slave is always failing then the Master has failed to teach his slave properly.

So it's time you BOTH chat together to figure out how success can be achieved.

1-There ain't no blame (Fuck-I hate words like blame, they carry such negative emotional weight. They corrode relationships), it's just two folks having difficulties working things out.
2-This is just my 2 cents worth and all, but it's my experience that it takes two to make a relationship and two to break a relationship. It ain't a him or her thing, it's a we thing....as in we don't work, we need to improve, we need to get better.
If it really IS a him/her thing, then you ain't gotta relationship, just two folks loitering in the same zone.

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