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RE: What makes a good Master? - 7/11/2011 1:44:19 AM

erieangel

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For me, a good Dom would be somebody who accepted me for the woman I am while helping me to become the woman I can be. He would be caring, considerate, loving, honest, trustworthy, intelligent, patient and sincere. He would make me feel safe, secure and loved, no matter what happened. With such a Dom, I would be loyal, happy (most of the time), obedient (most of the time), and seek to make His life comfortable through my actions. I have always behaved in such a manner with every vanilla relationship I've had and it wouldn't be any different in a D/s relationship--well, maybe more intense.

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RE: What makes a good Master? - 7/11/2011 8:11:29 AM

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Look at their life history. If their life has been full of failed relationships, financial irresponsibility, and bad decisions, you might think twice before turning the reins over to them. A good Master would be someone who has managed his own life well.

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RE: What makes a good Master? - 7/11/2011 10:56:13 AM

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What makes a good master, sub, or slave? (Whats the difference between a good one and a bad one.)
As others have said... someone who is compatible with you.

how do you think a D/S relationship should work? What do you expect from a Master and what do you think he should expect from you?
Again, this is going to be highly individual. You are seeking outside yourself for answers that can only come from within. Carol, predictably, thinks I'm the bees knees when it comes to doms, husbands, and men in general. For many of the other subs/slaves here I'd be a really poor fit. It's the same from the other way around. There are lots and lots of women here in relationships that I respect... relationships that are working and making their participants happy and fulfilled. Almost all of those women would be a really, really, poor slave for me.

Hopefully you will find some time to share some advice! - Also if you know of any good websites..a mail wouldnt go a miss :)
My advice goes to the above. Stop asking us what makes a good master and ask yourself what you WANT out of a master. What works for Carol is basically a normal, vanilla marriage where her man is ... well... happy. It's just that if making me happy happens to involve things like total obedience and ownership then she's fine with that. See Davan's quote in my sig line for a good encapsulation of what Carol enjoys. In other words, she's not looking for a self-centered narcissist. She's looking for a lover who's dominant.

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