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NiceGuyNihilist -> Do You Show? (7/11/2011 2:32:06 PM)
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Based on the way other people respond to you in everyday life, do you think your submissive nature shines through--maybe even when you'd rather it didn't?
I think mine does. Four years ago, my uncle's friend's girlfriend offhandedly mentioned that she considered herself to be sexually dominant. I don't remember the context of the remark, but it didn't seem out of place for her to make it. I resolved to keep my own submissive streak under wraps as much as possible, mainly because I already felt quite attracted to her and didn't want to do anything that could be remotely perceived as flirting. Yet somehow, I continually found myself being gently teased by her, blushing at little smirks which seemed to hint at more insight than I would have liked. I told myself not to be delusional; of course I couldn't really be that transparent. But toward the end of the night, while a small group of close family and friends were browsing some frivolous book on "sexual astrology" which happened to reside on my uncle's coffee table, the woman briefly locked eyes with me and said with utter seriousness, "I know what kind of relationship you need." When I pressed her to tell me what she was talking about, she said, "I won't go into it now because this is a family situation, but I think you already know. Just know that I know." And with that, she turned her attention to another member of the group and pointedly changed the subject.
That's the most illustrative example I can recall of my inability to keep my submissive light under a bushel, but I believe there have been others. A woman who once worked at a grocery store I frequented would ask me in a sweetly patronizing tone every time I approached her to buy a protein bar, “Is it snacky-snack time?” Or, “Is it time for a snacky-snack?” If you’d only heard her, you might have thought I was a kindergartener jonesing for his post-recess peanut butter and crackers. (I would die if she ever read this thread, but I suppose that possibility gives me a thrill, too.) Does anybody else run into the same thing? Do others seem to sense your submissiveness, even if only on some subconscious level?
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