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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/17/2006 11:42:34 AM

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EBay. Seriously. If neither of you want to keep it... =P

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 10:48:44 AM

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Ty all for your replies.
In answer to the question is my reasoning for returning the collar so i can see him again? No, i had no intention of doing it in person it would have been too painful.
When i mentioned giving up bdsm i actually meant he was giving it up as his wife has told him he has to if he wants to make his marriage work.
Bluntly though he has stayed in his marriage for the sake of his daughter. He doesnt love his wife and she doesnt love him. I have yet to find anyone who would do this - stay in a marriage for the sake of children.
He says he wants to be here with me and that he is in love with me and cannot imagine his life without me. He also promised his wife he would have no contact with me, but contact is still daily.
I'm rambling now - my apologies.
Do i give up the ghost or do i give up fighting?

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 10:51:36 AM

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Do i give up the ghost or do i give up fighting?

PLEASE for the sanity of all involved- move on.

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 11:13:35 AM

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Ouch !

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 11:27:41 AM

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...When i mentioned giving up bdsm i actually meant he was giving it up as his wife has told him he has to if he wants to make his marriage work...

just curious, but she was ok about you all this time up until now, or she found out after the fact?

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...Bluntly though he has stayed in his marriage for the sake of his daughter. He doesnt love his wife and she doesnt love him. I have yet to find anyone who would do this - stay in a marriage for the sake of children...

this slave has seen it and heard tell of it quite frequently...
there usually is more to it than that, however, the house, the car(s), the investments, the marriage contract...

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...He says he wants to be here with me and that he is in love with me and cannot imagine his life without me. He also promised his wife he would have no contact with me, but contact is still daily...
Do i give up the ghost or do i give up fighting?

if you are seriously taking a poll, this slave would vote for sever all ties with this man and do some alone-time before getting involved with anyone else in an intimate relationship.

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 12:06:10 PM

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She found out when he told her he was leaving. He didnt leave because of a mixture of thinking i didnt want him 24/7 and his daughters reaction. Up until that point his wife had no idea about me.

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 12:37:37 PM

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Dear missturbation, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I'm of the old days, to which the Master owns the collar and it is to be returned after the relationship as Master/slave is over with.

The Master has an option to return the collar as a token. The Master has the option to keep the collar as a momento. I rarely find Masters who reuse a collar--that is an etiquette and or protocol 'no-no.' I will add, that once a Master returns the collar as a token/gift of what was, what you do with it is your business. Just may want to hold off on hasty choices to do with the collar. An individual had regrets in cutting up a collar, having had an emotional moment. I would like for that same consideration for anybody who part ways. No regrets.

As to the question in sharing love, I would have to say yes. There are different loves in a most passionate of ways. I think this is why poly is increasing in popularity, as individuals are capable of loving many people and not just 'the one.' I believe love can reenter somebody's lives, such as after divorce, being widowed, etc.

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RE: Giving it up and returning it! - 5/18/2006 1:27:40 PM

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Ty.
I have decided to return the collar by post.
As for loving many people i see what you mean.
Ty all again.

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