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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 12:05:43 AM   
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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 1:36:07 AM   
CynthiaWVirginia


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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 4:15:55 AM   
SerendipityWM


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't bother actively searching. Make yourself a relatively appealing prospect by offering something coherent, genuine and thought-out and you're likely to be contacted by people after what you're offering.

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 6:03:19 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?


You joined a week ago.
This is not an instant thing.
I made some sound suggestions in the other thread, none of which you took apparently (your profile is exactly the same with the same missspellings in it and the same bit of bad punctuation).
Spelling and grammar do count.

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why on earth is it so hard to find a genuine person.


1) Maybe it goes to your particular definition of genuine?
Some people are not impressed nor interested with the Slave Registry but that does not make them not genuine.

However, my second answer is this: you have been here for 6 days. That is hardly long enough to get any kind of a reasonable sampling of what and who are available.

Perhaps your approach is wrong?
I suggested adding a generous dose of patience to that and work on  changing your approach.

Some parts of the UK have an active kink community; have you tried that?

My last suggestion is that you pay close attention to the advice generously offered here:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm 


So, my guess is that you are using the same lack of care in your messages, which should be as well written as any resume you were to present for job seeking.

And at this point, you clearly sound desperate. Is that coming across in your messages?
Go back and read the suggestions I presented to you in the first place.
Stop seeing yourself as god's greatest... and start presenting yourself in a likeable manner.

Currently anyone going to your profile will see a complete mess of a profile filled with meaningless declarations...that is if they bother to read it. And then they will go and click on the link to forum posts and read what you have written here.
And they will run far, far away in the other direction.

If you are a slave then you should know the value of patience.

If you are a slave then you should be able to demonstrate that you can follow direction.
I gave you direction and everyone knows you did not follow it.

Actions speak louder than words.

It is not enough to say you are a good slave; your behaviors have to reflect that.

Read the information that was generously provided, tuck away your bad attitude and impatience and know that you  aren't entitled to Ownership simply because you tantrum.
(Hint: people don't find tantrums very attractive in a 'potential'.)

Best wishes.

< Message edited by angelikaJ -- 7/12/2011 6:04:04 AM >

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 6:06:30 AM   
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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 6:09:51 AM   
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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 6:13:13 AM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

you have been given advice to stop whining, to shut off the computer and go and meet people

^ what he said


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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 7:33:24 AM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth
Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?

Wow.... just wow.

So let me get this straight. You are a super-special rare find and you're wondering why all the other super-special rare partners for you aren't beating a path to your doorstep? And you think you're a real slave?

Out of curiosity, what exactly does "real slave" mean to you? What makes you think I (or anyone else here) would agree with you?


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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 8:40:29 AM   
Wolf2Bear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?


Gotta burst your fantasy sweet cheeks but nothing in life is handed to us on a silver platter. ya gotta work for what you want. Like most said here, get off the damn computer and make yourself known in the local community, actually show potential owners that you have something worthwhile to offer that appeals to what they are looking for.


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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 8:41:37 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Your spelling and punctuation suggests a lack of attention to detail, not an attractive quality in a slave. I recommend you fix all the errors that spellcheck was so kind to highlight for you. If you paste into Word, it will find the grammar errors as well.

You should also delete your journal entry about being lazy forthwith. No one wants a lazy slave. Or an "obeidiant" one.

There's lots of good advice in "Ask a Mistress."

AFTER spending some time reading the Ask a Mistress FAQs, etc, if you send an example first email, I will be happy to critique it.

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 9:15:43 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SerendipityWM

I wouldn't bother actively searching. Make yourself a relatively appealing prospect by offering something coherent, genuine and thought-out and you're likely to be contacted by people after what you're offering.

I can't say that I completely agree with this.  In My opinion, males on this site do need to be proactive.  The sit back and wait approach works for relatively few. 


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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 9:40:49 AM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		And OP, for the rubber duckies sake, get rid of the primary pic.  Didja miss the part where it says no explicit primary pics?  Juuuuuuuuuuuuuuust sayin..................  Some people like the whole nekkid thing, most don't.  If you have nothing to show but an ass or dick pic, then expect people to think, well, think.........you're nothing more than.............take it from there! 

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 9:59:29 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ


You joined a week ago.
This is not an instant thing.
I made some sound suggestions in the other thread, none of which you took apparently (your profile is exactly the same with the same missspellings in it and the same bit of bad punctuation).
Spelling and grammar do count.

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why on earth is it so hard to find a genuine person.


1) Maybe it goes to your particular definition of genuine?
Some people are not impressed nor interested with the Slave Registry but that does not make them not genuine.

However, my second answer is this: you have been here for 6 days. That is hardly long enough to get any kind of a reasonable sampling of what and who are available.

Perhaps your approach is wrong?
I suggested adding a generous dose of patience to that and work on  changing your approach.

Some parts of the UK have an active kink community; have you tried that?

My last suggestion is that you pay close attention to the advice generously offered here:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm 


So, my guess is that you are using the same lack of care in your messages, which should be as well written as any resume you were to present for job seeking.

And at this point, you clearly sound desperate. Is that coming across in your messages?
Go back and read the suggestions I presented to you in the first place.
Stop seeing yourself as god's greatest... and start presenting yourself in a likeable manner.

Currently anyone going to your profile will see a complete mess of a profile filled with meaningless declarations...that is if they bother to read it. And then they will go and click on the link to forum posts and read what you have written here.
And they will run far, far away in the other direction.

If you are a slave then you should know the value of patience.

If you are a slave then you should be able to demonstrate that you can follow direction.
I gave you direction and everyone knows you did not follow it.

Actions speak louder than words.

It is not enough to say you are a good slave; your behaviors have to reflect that.

Read the information that was generously provided, tuck away your bad attitude and impatience and know that you  aren't entitled to Ownership simply because you tantrum.
(Hint: people don't find tantrums very attractive in a 'potential'.)

Best wishes.






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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 1:55:43 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		OP, you've signed up a few days ago and you expect to be instantly owned? Gosh, I dread to think how much you would complain if your owner wouldn't be in the mood to play with you all the time whenever you want it, I mean what if she's not in the mood for a week or a month? Will her ears be bleeding then?

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 2:45:03 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		What you think of as real. someone else thinks of as a royal pain in the ass. What one owner adores in a person without any needs is considered a doormat by someone else. There's no real or true, there is only compatible Apparently none of the people you've been desperately messaging think that desperation is a compatible trait.

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 3:01:17 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?

First of all, I'm going to be BLUNT here. I'm not trying to offend anyone, but here goes.....

I perved your profile and it has massive mispellings and incorrect/totally missing punctuation. That looks lazy and sloppy. Not attractive in anyone. And you've only been here a week and you're already whining. Impatient whining is not attractive in a slave either.

Also, male slaves/subs have a harder time getting snatched up than females. I think it's a supply and demand thing, so you have to make yourself look better than the competition and there's lots of it. It's not fair, I know, but that's just reality. Try writing some about you as a person, who you are, your vanilla interests, and what your skills are that you can put to use for your Dominant.

You're going to have to be proactive and write to some Dommes and not just wait for them to come to you. Make your letters stand out from the rest, women on both sides of the kneel get their Inboxes flooded all the time and you don't want to just be one of the herd. Read their profiles first, and take note of some things you can mention in your letters, so they are personal to each recipient, NOT just cookie-cutter or generic. NOT necessarily kink-related things either. Consider how you approach meeting women in real life, you wouldn't fixate on kinks first thing.

Also, not everyone likes explicit/naked pics. Slaves don't always serve naked. I would recommend having a nice, clothed picture of yourself for your primary picture. It makes a much nicer initial impression than seeing someone's ass.

All that having been said, welcome to Collarme and good luck on your search.

~Hisprettybaby~

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 3:36:39 PM   
Arieno


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Status: offline 		OP, I don’t profess to have the answers you are looking for. Or even a remote understanding of the motivators driving some of the comments on these boards, but I do know, argumentative negative insulting comment is better left unsaid.

< Message edited by Arieno -- 7/12/2011 3:37:59 PM >

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 3:49:42 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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From: Bellingham, WA U.S.A.
Status: offline 		I'm genuinely sorry if I appeared argumentative/negative/insulting. I was trying to be honest. Plus I gave some ideas toward the end for improving the OP's chances of succeeding.

~Hisprettybaby~

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 3:54:05 PM   
Arieno


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Status: offline 		My comment was not a product of your comment, not at all.

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RE: HOW - 7/12/2011 3:55:22 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Many of the comments if you read them were actually helpful.

You may think for example that I was argumentative, insulting and negative.

But the thing is in another thread he wanted to know what he was doing wrong... but involved people not being real.
This was a continuation of that. And people such as me, took time to explain what he needed to do to improve his chances of being seen and desired as he wishes.

It might not seem sweet.

I am looking at this thread and really it is generally helpful...and not all that mean, but if your opinion is otherwise, then by all means make use of the "Report" button beneath all the posts that concern you.
I sometimes do.

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