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Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 7:47:49 AM

DARKDES1RE

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I have noticed so many subs/slaves are seeking others to join there Dom/Domme and them for a group get together. I see nothing wrong with that but why can't the Dom/Domme ask for themselves instead of having the sub/slave do it? If you wish to have more people to play with show the strength and leadership to ask for yourself.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 9:53:59 AM

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interesting point of view....

I discovered CM because of an online realtionship that I was having with a Dom that I met on a traditional dating site. He recognized this hunger in me and fed it. Everything that we did was over the phone or online. He lives on the East Coast and my sister kept asking me, "What is so special about this guy that you cannot find locally?" I didn't want to tell her.

He had me set up a profile on CM so that I could find more little subbies for him to play with. After a couple of hours on the site, I got to thinking, "What am I doing? I bet I could find someone local to serve" and immediately changed my profile. A couple of days later, I told him what I had done, prepared for him to be furious with me. Instead he was happy that I was taking charge of my destiny and looking for my mate! He wished me well and we still communicate on occasion.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 10:01:17 AM

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see I keep trying to tell people you're exceptional angel *grins* As far as this thread I dont see a problem with a Dominant asking a submissive to look for additional play partners. It allows free time for the Dominant to scan over any selected as well as allows the Dominant to see if their sub really knows them, by the different partners they may suggest.

To Me I believe a lazy Dom/me to be one that expects their submissive/slave to work and work and work and just be happy to be in the presence of a Dominant. Thats not being Dominant thats running a slavery and not in the intention the BDSM refers to. To take on a submissive/slave is in essence to make sure you always provide them with understanding, compassion, love and adoration. Not just to say here I am be happy with it. Thats just bullshit as far as I am concerned.

Anyhow thats My oppinion take it or leave it, like it or dont, either way its not going to change.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 10:03:27 AM

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Not to be the stiff here, but wouldent this thread be more at home in the general BDSM discussion area? Dosent seem right being sandwiched between disgusting food and hungry hungry hippos.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 10:05:04 AM

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I agree with you on that tiger.... but no matter where it is it'll get some replies.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 1:47:51 PM

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I do not know that it is necessarily laziness per se, but perhaps the dom/me would like it if their alpha subs screened future subs for them. Part of the reason for this is that it would possibly lead to less jealousy in the "family" if the first sub found the others that their One would be playing with or perhaps inviting home one day? It makes sense when looked at from that view.

I know a lot of dom/mes would disagree with what I wrote above, but I think a lot of them would rather whomever they incorporate would play well with the others that are around. It establishes the poly dynamic more too, if the sub knows up front they will not have the dom/me all to themselves.

But then again I may be missing something here because I have never been poly and never would be poly, and finding partners for my dom isa hard limit for me...lol... Just my opinion

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 8:33:18 PM

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ahhhhhhhhhhhh he's backkkkkkkkkkkkkk

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Seems like I should say I'm sorry to those with fragile egos and feelings. I bring up one thing I find unique and all HELL breaks lose. This community is based upon TRUST . Why is it so hard for "Masters" to trust their subs and slaves but DEMAND they trust them at all costs? Don't give me this crap about rules about contacting a sub/slave. They are able to make up their mind on whether or not a reply is necessary. Show a little respect and you'll receive respect. What and odd idea. Common courtesy
For all those who think they need to drop their 2 cents worth in and try and say one thing or another on how screwed up I am. Please refrain from doing so as I really don't care for your opinion anyway. Read this post and keep all comments to yourselves.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 9:06:44 PM

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quote:

I have noticed so many subs/slaves are seeking others to join there Dom/Domme and them for a group get together. I see nothing wrong with that but why can't the Dom/Domme ask for themselves instead of having the sub/slave do it? If you wish to have more people to play with show the strength and leadership to ask for yourself.

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm conducting "our" search for a second slave for a number of reasons. I've got better instincts when it comes to people, I'm the one the individual would have the most contact with on a day-to-day basis, and if I don't like them, they're not going to be living under the same roof with me. Master has the final say, of course, but He doesn't even meet them until they've gotten my stamp of approval, which is no easy feat.

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RE: Lazy Dom/Dommes - 5/17/2006 9:06:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DARKDES1RE

I have noticed so many subs/slaves are seeking others to join there Dom/Domme and them for a group get together. I see nothing wrong with that but why can't the Dom/Domme ask for themselves instead of having the sub/slave do it? If you wish to have more people to play with show the strength and leadership to ask for yourself.

Why does it matter so much to you??
I mean who really cares if a Dom/me has thier sub/slave seek others to interact with them?
If it's ok with the subs/slaves asking and the ones responding why not live and let live? It isnt showing a weakness, i see it as the sub/slave doing as they are asked/told to do.
Why are you so judgemental of others?
Chill dude.
We can all read the same books & watch the same movies and I know we each get something a little bit different out of them. Also we will all apply it to our lifestyles differently.
I know I for one couldn't stomach a bunch of DARKDES1RE clones running around...........geesh and miss all the humor and sensitivity of the other Doms.(be a sad as forum then).

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