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LillyBoPeep -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 10:27:04 AM)
no matter what, there still this girlfriend who isn't being dumped, even though he's scoping for chicks behind her back. =p now they're Dominant chicks instead of sub chicks, but still chicks!!!

Wolf2Bear -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 10:34:31 AM)
Guess the whole "know thyself" just got thrown out the window eh? sigh OP....I'd listen to what most of the posters here advise, they know what they speak of when it comes to creating and maintaining a healthy D/s dynamic. In the end, you still have to have a good grasp on exactly what you want and need for yourself and what you want in a D/s relationship and be fairly sure you are able to follow through. Above all, be honest about yourself, be honest with yourself and most of all be honest with any and all people you are involved with.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 10:36:03 AM)
Agreed. The OP's behavior seems to be a bit douchy, it's just that now he doesn't know if his behavior is dom douchy or sub douchy. Just making that clear. People out there need to know this stuff !! Edited to rewrite this so it was not an attack on the OP, merely an attack on his behavior. There. All better now.

kalikshama -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 11:32:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: deepenough11 I cant find out... she is w her step dad in different state for a couple months... and im not going to dump her... im just trying to figure this whole thing out cause im not even really sure how the heck it works. I suggest you buy Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, read it with your gf, and see what interests the two of you. (It has some nice pics ;)

DecadentDesire -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 2:41:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt Young dude just wants to get laid. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but he is perhaps going about it all wrong. It helps me to understand why I get so much mail when so many male doms keeping bitching about how they never get any.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: new dom issues (7/13/2011 3:07:58 PM)
I just took a quick look at your profile, and I'll tell you why I think you get mail. It's this bit of your profile right near the end. quote: If your here for the kink and not a person, I'm not interested.

crazyml -> RE: new dom issues (7/14/2011 1:44:49 AM)
Hey, What with the gf and all, my advice is slow the fuck down man. It's pretty harsh to be scoping chicks when you've got a gf, so you need to figure out what you're going to do with your relationship first.

MrHCurious -> RE: new dom issues (7/15/2011 2:09:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: deepenough11 I am a fairly new dom and im having troubles finding myself a sub. What would be the best way to go about finding one? Im not into extreme pain or bondage quite yet. I do enjoy control w reward, center of her attention, also them knowing what i want before i have to say it. A munch, since you asked, is a social gathering wherein people of a like-minded bent get together and enjoy the company of others like them. They are normally more fun than that definition makes them sound. There will be one somewhere nearby you can attend - although, being American, 'nearby' is something of a relative term - and I suggest going if only so you can meet people. Although you'll hear people talk about how they did meet their partners over the Internet, those stories tend to be significantly in the minority. However, if your plan is to start trolling for girls at munches or other scene events without telling your girlfriend, I hope you fail and fail badly at that. Like people have said, it's a pretty dickish thing to do and no, her being away doesn't exculpate you in the slightest.

sunshinemiss -> RE: new dom issues (7/15/2011 6:45:05 AM)
Dang. You gotta love a dude who can inform and then use a fifty cent word like "exculpate".

SashaSteel -> RE: new dom issues (7/15/2011 6:47:39 AM)
Grow some balls first and formost. And if that isn't the promlem, see a doctor about why they haven't dropped yet. Gotta wonder about guys wanting to take on dominant roles when they are singing" there's a hole in the bucket dear Lilah - dear Lilah"

Sakone -> RE: new dom issues (7/15/2011 9:18:49 AM)
Well I read all the posts and honestly find you confusing dude. You clam to have a girlfriend and arn't dumping her. She is gone for two months, good for you a small vacation away from her. However doesn't mean you go behind her back, and try to find a sub so you can bust a nut while she is gone. This lifestyle is about being open, honest, and trusting. I'm sorry if I was her, wouldn't trust you for doing this bullshit. Grow some balls and talk to your girl friend about this lifestyle, maybe shocked at what you get for an answer. As for finding a sub, there is no golden way to get a sub the first day. Just like in the vanilla world you have to work on getting a sub. Like suggested get a mentor, go to munches, talk on here or fetlife, take the time to fill out your profile.

MASTERMAC50 -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 8:38:48 PM)
Actually not a reply more of following up on deepenough's question. My girlfriend and I just had been together for 7 years and as the years progressed we kinda fell into this little grove(no pun intended). From the very beginning she loved to fall to her knees whenever I pulled out my cock, she absolutely loved to suck cock and swallow cum, she enjoyed eating cum and playing with my cum. Even when we were screwing she could tell I was about to explode and she would turn around in time to catch it in her mouth and then right after she would coo so sweetly while having the sweetest look on her face as she looked at me that she wanted more cum. Even when she went out of town she always wanted me to save anything I happened to unload when I took matters into my own hands so that she could drink it up when she got back, and she did!! We split about 2 years ago I thought that I would do some research into BDSM since I thought what she and I did fit the bill(despite the fact that we never put names to what we were doing).I remember vividly that she said that she loved my essence and didn't want to waist any of it. Well right off the bat I read about all these BDSM articles discussing women worshiping their Masters cum and calling it their essence!! WHAT A WEIRD COINCIDENCE!!. Also there is all this discussions about cock worship and again that was her she lived to look at it, hold it and I would even wake in the night and she would be under the sheets nursing off of my limp dick. Now on another tangent altogether, I had her legs spread wide and I was using my fingers for some foreplay and as things got hotter I got more and more of my fingers in until there was only one thing to do and I slipped my fist up inside her without any force at all and she came so hard she squirted all over the place and it was beautiful. Well after that I fisted her on a regular basis using huge objects along with my fists. This was in the early 90's, I had never heard of anything like this and she said that she had never experienced it before, weather it was true or not is questionable considering the fact that she just swallowed up my hand and I actually lost a couple of huge toys as they got sucked out of my hands as her pussy sucked those huge toys right out of my hands and considering the fact that my hand just fell right in her pussy the very first time that I attempted it. Well that was some pretty kinky stuff and I loved it and even wanted to push her further but the relationship ended. So, by researching the BDSM stuff I found out that I am sure I have certain proclivities that lean itself to this type of thing. Sooo...after the long way around and giving all my background I have the same issue as deepenough, how do I find a fine sub when I am not sure I want to go all the way and also if you are a Dom how do you deal with a sub that has more experience? The other question is more for my curiosity and concerns my ex can a woman have that big a pussy without ever having it used and abused by fisting?

HannahLynHeather -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 8:55:11 PM)
look at my fucking avatar <----------------- it was chosen specifically with people like you in mind.

MASTERMAC50 -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 9:04:54 PM)
lol, got a headache,,..well my job here is done,lol

MASTERMAC50 -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 9:19:21 PM)
But on a more serious note. Is there something about my listing that you find disingenuous?

MASTERMAC50 -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 9:23:56 PM)
xx

BKSir -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 9:34:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Dang. You gotta love a dude who can inform and then use a fifty cent word like "exculpate". Wow! No shit, huh? Not to mention young and cute. Too bad he's so far away, dominant and, from what I can tell, at least mostly straight. sigh Oh well. Guess I keep looking too. ;) As for YOU, Mr. Original Poster Person. I really can't tell you much that the others here haven't. Granted, it seems everyone is in a very blunt and harsh mood lately, but they're right. Talk about it, investigate it, educate yourselves about it with your girlfriend. If you're really serious about even being with her, you can wait until she gets back. I know, a few months seems like FOREVER, but after about 16 years with someone, you'll LOVE the idea of having 3 months to be alone. Now, I'm not saying that stepping out then is on the table either, but some alone time will be nice. For now, wait and talk with her, go from there. Or if you don't want to wait, then don't be a, as someone else put it, douche. Just let her go and start anew.

JanahX -> RE: new dom issues (7/16/2011 10:12:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MASTERMAC50 Actually not a reply more of following up on deepenough's question. My girlfriend and I just had been together for 7 years and as the years progressed we kinda fell into this little grove(no pun intended). From the very beginning she loved to fall to her knees whenever I pulled out my cock, she absolutely loved to suck cock and swallow cum, she enjoyed eating cum and playing with my cum. Even when we were screwing she could tell I was about to explode and she would turn around in time to catch it in her mouth and then right after she would coo so sweetly while having the sweetest look on her face as she looked at me that she wanted more cum. Even when she went out of town she always wanted me to save anything I happened to unload when I took matters into my own hands so that she could drink it up when she got back, and she did!! We split about 2 years ago I thought that I would do some research into BDSM since I thought what she and I did fit the bill(despite the fact that we never put names to what we were doing).I remember vividly that she said that she loved my essence and didn't want to waist any of it. Well right off the bat I read about all these BDSM articles discussing women worshiping their Masters cum and calling it their essence!! WHAT A WEIRD COINCIDENCE!!. Also there is all this discussions about cock worship and again that was her she lived to look at it, hold it and I would even wake in the night and she would be under the sheets nursing off of my limp dick. Now on another tangent altogether, I had her legs spread wide and I was using my fingers for some foreplay and as things got hotter I got more and more of my fingers in until there was only one thing to do and I slipped my fist up inside her without any force at all and she came so hard she squirted all over the place and it was beautiful. Well after that I fisted her on a regular basis using huge objects along with my fists. This was in the early 90's, I had never heard of anything like this and she said that she had never experienced it before, weather it was true or not is questionable considering the fact that she just swallowed up my hand and I actually lost a couple of huge toys as they got sucked out of my hands as her pussy sucked those huge toys right out of my hands and considering the fact that my hand just fell right in her pussy the very first time that I attempted it. Well that was some pretty kinky stuff and I loved it and even wanted to push her further but the relationship ended. So, by researching the BDSM stuff I found out that I am sure I have certain proclivities that lean itself to this type of thing. Sooo...after the long way around and giving all my background I have the same issue as deepenough, how do I find a fine sub when I am not sure I want to go all the way and also if you are a Dom how do you deal with a sub that has more experience? The other question is more for my curiosity and concerns my ex can a woman have that big a pussy without ever having it used and abused by fisting? To answer your "OTHER" question, your ex's pussy is very useful being that huge. If you have a sail boat, you can stretch her HUGE pussy lips and use them as sails. Oh btw, you are a douchebag.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: new dom issues (7/17/2011 1:52:14 AM)
quote: Is there something about my listing that you find disingenuous? I can't be sure, but I suspect it has something to do with the fact that is basically poorly written porn. There's a place for such contributions down in the Creative Writing forum, you know.

DecadentDesire -> RE: new dom issues (7/17/2011 5:31:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MASTERMAC50 But on a more serious note. Is there something about my listing that you find disingenuous? Nothing disingenuous about it. You're exactly like the other 90% of the male population on this website.

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