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Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 10:45:32 AM

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On another thread I just responded to(thanks KoM), I related a game we used to play where my Dom would hum the themes from "Jeopardy" or "Jaws" to up the anticipation at different times during the scene. It used to really screw with my mindset. To "Jeopardy" I could feel myself getting panicky inside to go faster, and to "Jaws" I could feel all of me tensing in anticipation for the pain that I knew was inevitably coming. An added blindfold only made it worse.

So.....are there oddball kinds of things that you do like that to up the anticipation or anxiety level in your submissive....or for submissives, does your Dominant have things like this He/She does?

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 11:00:20 AM

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I am very much into having a physical connection when I am playing with someone, it could simply be the tips of my fingers or my thigh touching them as I move around them.

So, while spanking, I move my whole body when I am going to give a heavy whack, then when she gets used to that and starts flinching, I move my body but don't touch her, then when the fun of that wears of I just go WHACK being very careful to keep my body relaxed so she doesn't know it is coming.

Being the mental sadist I am I always play with their fears, "oh gee, I know I wasn't supposed to mark you but that looks kind of red" or "now that I have you tied up, I have a new thuddy (or stingy, whichever they hate more) paddle to try out", you get the idea. Now, before anyone starts screaming what an asshole I am, I play with people I know well, who are experienced players, and who enjoy me fucking with their head.

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 11:11:29 AM

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Mind fucks are SOMETIMES better than most scenes.... crappy I like your style.. LOL

Some love pain (yeah me too... lol).. some love lots of things... my favorite is the mind fucking during play.... without it.. sometimes just seems like kinky sex..... but then again... not knowing if i'm going to receive is a mind fuck within it self... WOW!!!!

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 11:34:39 AM

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OMG...mind fucks are the BEST! This one is great:

What about laying all your toys...I mean tools...out before play. Let the sub SEE them, too, and be sure to include a very sharp knife. Now, personally I LOVE knives...and know to hold VERY still; but if your girl is new, or not used to such edgy play...use a credit card to run along her body. Tell her, of course, it is the VERY SHARP knife and that she NEEDS to hold very very still. And make sure to run it along tender bits...doing the same 'oops, that was a tiny bit deeper than I meant'...and 'wipe off' or kiss or lick the spot.

Heh heh heh

Another could be to display something like IcyHot...but actually apply vaseline or toothpaste in COPIOUS amounts while she's blindfolded.

Another one I really like is when my friend beats me pretty darn throughly and just when I imagine we're finished, he says "Okay then, I need TEN more good ones, just for me ...and you need to count them for me." OMG...sends me into both dread AND subspace!

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 12:22:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I am very much into having a physical connection when I am playing with someone, it could simply be the tips of my fingers or my thigh touching them as I move around them.

So, while spanking, I move my whole body when I am going to give a heavy whack, then when she gets used to that and starts flinching, I move my body but don't touch her, then when the fun of that wears of I just go WHACK being very careful to keep my body relaxed so she doesn't know it is coming.

Being the mental sadist I am I always play with their fears, "oh gee, I know I wasn't supposed to mark you but that looks kind of red" or "now that I have you tied up, I have a new thuddy (or stingy, whichever they hate more) paddle to try out", you get the idea. Now, before anyone starts screaming what an asshole I am, I play with people I know well, who are experienced players, and who enjoy me fucking with their head.

Classic! LOL

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 1:10:25 PM

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For me the Top needs to be able to tap into my psyche to create that kind of reaction during a scene. Sure there's yelping, crying and moaning in response to direct physical stimuli but to up the anxiety/tension it has to be a psychological trigger, not a physical one. As a result it take someone who either (a) knows me pretty well, or (b) is extremely intuitive. B has been hard to find in my exprience and A takes time to develop.

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 3:55:05 PM

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this thread is great-- the only thing i can add is.. can there be overkill? i mean the idea of wanting to get the anticipation level up, can you overdo it to the point where the one being 'played with' decides that you are always messing with them and therefore it fails to have the desired reaction?

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 4:21:38 PM

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Being the mental sadist I am I always play with their fears, "oh gee, I know I wasn't supposed to mark you but that looks kind of red" or "now that I have you tied up, I have a new thuddy (or stingy, whichever they hate more) paddle to try out", you get the idea. Now, before anyone starts screaming what an asshole I am, I play with people I know well, who are experienced players, and who enjoy me fucking with their head.

Goodness, it's warm in here, today!!

A good mind-fuck is a work of art, and sadly, I haven't met too many doms yet who can really pull it off. My first partner got me hooked, he was guite the mental sadist. ::sigh::

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 4:42:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sabswife

this thread is great-- the only thing i can add is.. can there be overkill? i mean the idea of wanting to get the anticipation level up, can you overdo it to the point where the one being 'played with' decides that you are always messing with them and therefore it fails to have the desired reaction?

If one's approach is always the same.. yes "over-kill" will occur. It's like going to the same field to hunt for deer. Sooner or later the deer are not going to be there. You will have killed them all.

Multiple approaches used in varied combinations will always keep a person guessing. Consider 5 approaches and sort them in all possible order. how many situations do you have now. In my opinion, routine is a sure way to kill ones play in the long run!

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PS. erin your welcome

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RE: Upping the anticipation/anxiety level? - 5/17/2006 6:17:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: sabswife

this thread is great-- the only thing i can add is.. can there be overkill? i mean the idea of wanting to get the anticipation level up, can you overdo it to the point where the one being 'played with' decides that you are always messing with them and therefore it fails to have the desired reaction?

If one's approach is always the same.. yes "over-kill" will occur. It's like going to the same field to hunt for deer. Sooner or later the deer are not going to be there. You will have killed them all.

Multiple approaches used in varied combinations will always keep a person guessing. Consider 5 approaches and sort them in all possible order. how many situations do you have now. In my opinion, routine is a sure way to kill ones play in the long run!

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PS. erin your welcome

If you use just a number as low as five then I would consider it an insult - but that is just me. The way the question was asked, and indeed intimated, was for those 'Doms' who wish to 'Play' at being a Dom rather than enacting it.

How many situations does she have now? A lot more than five. ;)

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