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Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 11:27:10 AM   
chantrea


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I was wondering if someone could give me some information on Daddy Doms.  I am not into age play, but my last Master thinks that a Daddy Dom might be a way for me to go this time.  Sooooo any ideas, thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated...

thank you

chantrea

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 11:35:34 AM   
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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 11:47:21 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Why would your last Master think that? Is it because you need structure/protection/allowances/ and guidance from somone older and more mature?
Or, is it because you are an orphan and need someone to take you to the circus from time to time?
I'm a Daddy Dom....but my sons only know about the Daddy aspect, I keep the Dom aspect of my life private.
good luck in your quest.....Kevin

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 11:58:36 AM   
chantrea


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Status: offline 		Hello fastlane,

I think its the allowance/guidance thing.  I don't know all His reasons, I learned not to ask a long time ago.  But i do trust Him and He has far more experience in the life than i do.  So, i try to listen.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 12:01:57 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		well, listen with caution. Even though we trust someone, it doesn't always mean that they know what is best for us. You have to follow your instincts. A DaddyDom, takes on several appearances and the one you may need, may not be the one  you get.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 12:07:28 PM   
chantrea


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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 12:18:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fastlane

well, listen with caution. Even though we trust someone, it doesn't always mean that they know what is best for us. You have to follow your instincts. A DaddyDom, takes on several appearances and the one you may need, may not be the one  you get.

Kevin

Very well said. Always try to look out for yourself and think things over carefully. Sometimes those that think they know whats best for us, sometimes isn't.
 
To the OP you should be able to ask him what he meant by that. After all in relationships communication is important and if there's something you don't understand he should be able to explain it to you.
 
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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 12:39:27 PM   
zebra


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ORIGINAL: chantrea

Hello,

I was wondering if someone could give me some information on Daddy Doms.  I am not into age play, but my last Master thinks that a Daddy Dom might be a way for me to go this time.  Sooooo any ideas, thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated...

thank you

chantrea


Hi,

For some of us, wanting/needing a daddy dom has nothing to do with age play. I know it sounds strange, but when a daddy dom approaches me (my profile says I'm looking for a daddy) and asks me whether I dress up like a little girl or what the "naughty little girl" will do for daddy, I know he's not for me. Maybe your former master thinks you are especially in need of attention and of permission to accept affection.

But I think daddy doms, as defined in most instances, are more about age play. So you've gotten some really good advice about asking him what he meant by that.

Good luck.

zebra

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 1:47:23 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		Being a"Daddy dom" has nothing to do with edge play at all.
It is more the definition of a "type" of Dom. who is more nurturing and patient then others..




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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 2:22:07 PM   
darq


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Status: offline 		One of my former Masters was a Daddy Dom when I met him. I am more attracted to the Daddy sort of Dom, personally but I haven't had much luck connecting with any. I wouldn't suggest advertising it on your profile if you do decide to seek one ... You'll get even more creepy emails only some of these ones might also include details about real life incest between him and his daughter with him justifying what he's done to her by telling you what a great Daddy he is.

Uhm, yeah. Nothing great about incest ...

Anyway ... My "Daddy" and I spent about 3 years together. Before I moved in with him I'd call him every day, usually around bed time and he'd read me a story or just make one up. That was our nightly ritual ... He sent me a care package with stuffed animals and one of his shirts (he was 150 lbs heavier than me so wearing his shirt really did make me feel like a little girl) and various other things. He'd send me grown up stuff too sometimes but every so often he'd send me colouring books and crayons, little sparkly trinkets ... Things little girls enjoy. He offered me a lot of guidance at that point. I was living with my mother and it was absolute hell. There were a lot of nights when just listening to his voice was enough to keep me sane. Spending time with my mother tends to make me suicidal but looking forward to the time with him was enough to keep me from the edge.

After we moved in together (we were long distance for about a year) it was just that much more ... It was like I was an orphan and he'd adopted me as his own in a lot of ways. I'm not ashamed to admit I was extremely spoiled. But I was also completely devoted to him. I was 14 years younger than him and I look young for my age so when we were out and about we did get some funny reactions from people. I called him Daddy he called me little one or little girl. He was very much 'the boss' ... I didn't do anything really without permission and there was great comfort in knowing that anything I did was because he allowed it.We didn't do age play and the sex did not have any sort of incestuous undertone. I called him Daddy but I think for me it was a lot like when other girls call their men Master or Sir.

The only drawback was that I got so deeply into the headspace of being 'his little girl' that when the relationship dissolved it was extremely difficult for me to go back to making my own decisions. I remained dependant on him for quite some time and occassionally he still offers advice and guidance although now its more like a big brother kind of thing than a Daddy thing. I miss being a little girl ... I'd give just about anything to get those feelings back.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 3:45:23 PM   
chantrea


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Status: offline 		Thank you all so much! I did ask Him and i was right.. .it is about the structure and whatnot.  Darq, god that sounds ideal. :) Don't know that i could get used to calling someone Daddy, but hey, anything is possible.  I don't know, my profile undergoes constant changes as i seek and learn and grow.  I don't think i would put the Daddy in my profile, but ya never know... :)



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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 4:07:29 PM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		Curious why your Master would suggest that Daddy/Dom may be the way for you to go this time?
You state your Master has much experience and that you have learned not to ask him anything.

Does 'this time' mean you are re-entering a relationship with him, or is this a first time ongoing relationship?
Why would the Master who does not allow his sub/slave to ask anything lead them to suppose they need to gain knowledge and perhaps educate the Master? Is he telling you to find out what he already knows or what he does not already know?
Is it that you have learned not to ask anything... or not to ask for anything... or not to ask 'a lot' of things?

Each person's definition of any given role, or roleplay will of course vary. There are the usual stereotypes of pedophelia associated with Daddy/Dom relationships in general. By it's essence it infers a Daddy/daughter proposition, with the older wiser trusted authority figure Daddy succombing to temptation and going for the babygirl goodies under his watch. The overall jist to the numerous blends and flavours of Daddy/daughter is that Daddy uses his girl as a sex slave for his usually perverse passions. In the same token the Daddy not only uses his little princess, he loves her for her devotion, lost innocense, admiration, and her dependence on him to 'allow her' to be a naughty little girl slut for her deviant Daddy. Now we toss in age play (someone mentioned edge play but I suspect it was a typo), and you have the full spectrum from both ends... those women who enjoy an older dominant man, think of him and call him Daddy, while not in the genre of infantilism or necessarily incest (more at taboo, such as the basic nature of Daddy/daughter roleplay). In the opposite direction lies the women who enjoy age regression and being totally innocent but under the strong influence of a perverted Daddy who slowly makes sex a normal part of her innocent (but fun) little life.

No magic formula or one size fits all for the roleplay, it's a custom blend for each pairing. Did I mention the stereotypical goldigger types who seek sugar Daddy's... lumping their handywork variations into the basic roleplay as Daddy's little hired slut, lol.

Each combo mix has it's own levels of love involved. Some for the love of money, or for the love of the taboo, or for the love of the other participant, their stature and continuity as the roleplay progresses. Cupid spares no pity for Daddy either as it is very easy to love a girl who strives to be the girl of your dreams.

I still can't figure out why you are the one doing the homework here to gain knowledge, is your Master that stingy with his?

Edit: oops, my bad... I did not see 'last' before Master in your OP... so nevermind, lol  
   

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/17/2006 8:08:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Though everyone makes their own definition of what different 'titles' mean, to me a Daddy Dom is a sensual one.  More into making a girl smile then beating her bottom.   My first Dom was a Daddy Dom, though I never once called Him Daddy.  He enjoyed pampering me, but had no trouble keeping me in line.  I found myself always smiling and wanting to do more and more for him.
 
To each their own, but it is up to you which road you travel, so listen to your own heart and not to those around you, even those you trust.
 
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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/18/2006 2:48:39 AM   
chantrea


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Status: offline 		NastyDaddy,

He is my ex Master, just hate using the word ex really.  He is still a good friend with a lot more experince in these matters than i have.  Ultimately i will make my own decision and He will deal with it, but He was making a suggestion to try and aid my search.  Thank you for your information, i really appreicate it. 

I said i learned not to ask Him a lot, but that was a half joke, usually He explains things quite well, i just don't always understand how He puts it.  I learned to work it out on my own without asking Him to explain it.  :)

thanks again
chantea

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/18/2006 4:10:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		To some, it has to do with incest.  To some, with "adult babies" (dressing up in diapers and whatnot).  For some, it's about dealing with issues around their real father from childhood.

For my girl and I, it's more emotional.  Sure, physically she is indeed small in size and age, and I am older and quite a bit taller and stronger.  Emotionally, she comes to be for guidance, security, safety, affection.  She calls me Daddy (when we were together last summer, she let it slip in public without noticing... I saw a couple people take note and was quite pleased).  I'm a father in real life (two boys) and so I do have natural instincts in that regard.  I think it helps me relate to her in this way even better.  I always wanted a girl, and will not be getting one of my own, so she is definitely the next best thing.  I love her to bits.  She is mine.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 5/18/2006 11:01:57 AM   
SweetEscravo


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Status: offline 		There are huge varieties.  I think the blanket term "daddydom" simply refers to a dominant who is more loving and easy-going with his or her sub.  They seem to be more forgiving and might allow a rule to be broken here and there.  Other than that, there are a million different daddies out there.

Age play does not have to be a part of it.  I used to be with a dom who was very very much so my daddy...but that didn't have to make me a child.  In fact, neither of us liked that idea.  Rather, having a "daddy" seems to refer more towards a dom who will be more gentle and guiding in the relationship.  Of course there are masters out there who are gentle and loving, and daddies who are mean. 

Just think of this...Does the idea of calling a man your daddy turn you on?  If so...go for it...just try different things until you find something you like, and if not, then having a daddy is probably not right for you.

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