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ElanSubdued -> RE: Profile DO's and DOnt's (7/14/2011 1:12:12 PM)
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Tony,
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I was wondering what is or what constitutes a good profile to A Dominant Female / Mistress. (snip) What, in your opinion, are the don't do's or the things you absolutely abhor in a profile. And what would be an ideal submissive profile.
To a large degree, I believe siamsa24 nailed it. But, I'll add a few comments.
There is no such thing as an "ideal submissive profile". Each woman is unique and has her own interests and things she looks for in a partner or partners. Remove the fact you're writing a profile specifically to attract a dominant woman. Now, consider the question again: what constitutes a good profile? You likely already know the answer to this.
Lists about only things you want (or that your potential partner must live up to) tend to be unattractive. Similarly, lists solely about what you have to offer are just as unattractive. What works, in my mind, is a subtle, *carefully worded* balance of both and showing a balance of interests. Note my emphasis on the phrase "carefully worded". For example, if you want a partner who has certain BDSM interests and/or physical attributes, you're better to imply this subtly and politely than to say "must have breasts of size triple-X". Consider (also) that leaving all readers (your target audience and those not in your target audience) with a sense of grace wears well on you.
Some other things to think about? Demonstrate communication skills, a sense of humour, a general level of intelligence and interest in learning, approachability, a positive attitude, empathy, courtesy, and the attributes of a gentleman - all of these never hurt. In short, presenting yourself as a well-rounded, enticing and endearing human being is about the best answer I can give. Spelling and grammar count so write as well as you can, use a spell checker, and proofread more than once (looking for and correcting errors). Add some vanilla pictures that show you dressed well and looking good.
Partially nude (or nude) photos are an optional addition to vanilla photos and can work, however, keep in mind classy works better than "head on". I don't think I'm incorrect in saying few women want to see your "junk" before they know your mind and if they do want to see your stuff, they'll let you know. Class and courtesy never go out of style.
Side notes specifically about your profile content: (1) It's okay to be proud of your body, but excessive pride is a turn off so keep that one in check. Generally, if your pictures show your body, nothing really need be said. Women are visually astute when it comes to noticing these things. (2) The phrase "online play" is a turn off for a great many dominant women. Consider what you mean my this, describe it more clearly, and remove the catch phrase. If you literally mean you're looking for someone to satisfy your fetishes online only, I suggest looking for a legitimate, professional dominant and pay for this service... or... you may find someone who feels similarly, but you'll need to take time getting to know her such that she becomes interested and invested in your personage. The "hey, I'll let you watch me do stuff on cam" routine won't endear you to anyone around here. That's what is known as a "wanker" and we get dozens, hundreds, thousands of them at CM every month.
Joining in on discussions on the forums is an excellent way to get to know people. I see Arpig and Hannah are already in your friend list so you've already been socializing. This is a great way to meet people and break the ice. Welcome aboard and I hope you enjoy it here.
Elan.
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