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mistoferin -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 11:39:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy Honesty, integrity, a sense of humor, great strength of character as well as being a character, a gentle heart, an intelligent mind, similar moral code, similar hard limits, a reasonable amount of experience, and of course, being a biker. What she said...lol. The most important being honesty (and I see that twicehappy had that listed first also). I am very serious about this and I have found that sometimes men must think I say that just to hear myself talk. After the first "caught in lie" they realize though just exactly how much I mean that. Here is a quote from my profile... quote: Who I’d like to meet….Above all else the most important quality that I look for in people is honesty. If you are incapable of complete and open honesty, all of the other wonderful characteristics and qualities you may possess will not make up for the lack of that one. If I find I am lied to once I do not give the opportunity to be lied to twice. On this one I am unwavering. So at least they can't say that I'm not completely upfront about it.

Dustyn -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 11:44:02 AM)
Two things... First, I'm noticing a severe echo in this thread.... thread... thread... thread.... smirk Second, everyone always says they want honesty. Always be honest. Give me the truth. When you give them the brutal truth, though, they just tend to freak out. Have always thought, though, that sugar coating the truth is a couple of hairs off of lying. But that's just me, and most of the time, I consider tact a socially acceptable form of beating around the bush. shrug - Dustyn

VvShadowspawnvV -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 12:12:44 PM)
"Tact: Acute sensitivity to what is proper and appropriate in dealing with others, including the ability to speak or act without offending." i believe it is possible to be honest and tactful at the same time. As a slave, it is required of me. =) (and if i can usually manage to pull it off- so can y'all) becca

Bearlee -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 12:19:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress What are your "must have"'s... in a partner? in a relationship? in a casual partner? A communicator A communicator A communicator

Mistrix -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 1:13:02 PM)
Partner - Honesty, openmindness and willingness Relationship - All of the above whether it's a friendship or casual Casual- all of the above as well. And LOTS of spanks. [8D]

ArchangelMichael -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 1:57:18 PM)
I'll repeat some of what's been said. I need honest, open communication. I like open-mindedness, a willingness to learn and try new things. I also need someone who will enjoy my goofy sense of humor. It's important that I can entertain and please the person I'm in a relationship with. Of course, she needs to be kinky. She'd also need to understand my geekiness. I need someone who is at least on my intelligence level and I need emotional stability. Because of my asthma, she needs to be a non-smoker and I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone who does illegal drugs. It's important for my partner to also be compatible with me on a spiritual level. That doesn't mean we have to share the same religion, but it does mean we have to have similar ideas on the nature of life, the universe, and everything. It's also important that she has a caring nature, even if she can be cruel in a D/s or S&M way. As for casual partners, we just have to have a connection in some way. I need to like the person and get enjoyment from our interactions. I don't do casual sex, but I do casual BDSM play. However, I don't think I'd have the need for casual BDSM play if I'm satisfied in a relationship.

yourMissTress -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 3:21:59 PM)
Thank you all for your replies, of course, I was fishing. There are so many people that are looking for very specific things, so specific that they will try to change their partner to fit a mold, a preconceived notion of what a sub, slave, Dom/me must be to be what they want or need. The lovely men and women that responded here are not of that brand. My answer: I have to have a genuine person that is confident and secure in who and what they are. My partner has to be smart, funny, honest, trusting and trustworthy, daring, willing, adventurous and have a gentle heart. Above all, they have to love me as much as I love them. I have definitely found my absolute have to have's and then some in My mousetrapp.

LaTigresse -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 3:28:58 PM)
I will add my $2......better late than never![:)] First, I don't want a casual anything anymore......rather be alone than that. The rest is rather fluid but based on relationship of mutual respect and alot of communication...ALOT!! Total honesty, or at least as much as two human beings can manage it. I need someone that can function in a relationship that encompasses the day to day regular life stuff....family, friends. Someone I can talk about things OTHER than kink with, and ALOT of humour and intelligence. Definately affectionate, I am a tactile hugging kind of person with those I am very close to. All the kink stuff is fairly negotiable outside of my absolutely NO WAY hard limits.

apb -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 3:30:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress My answer: I have to have a genuine person that is confident and secure in who and what they are. My partner has to be smart, funny, honest, trusting and trustworthy, daring, willing, adventurous and have a gentle heart. Above all, they have to love me as much as I love them. I have definitely found my absolute have to have's and then some in My mousetrapp. Hoping not to make people sick here by replying to my MissTress ... so here goes... After almost 25 years of searching for "the one", and only recently stumbling in to the lifestyle, i had pretty much decided no more relationships ... i knew it would take someone VERY special to turn my head again. i have to say that MissTress did indeed turn my head and has captured my heart, mind and soul. She matches me intellectually. She makes me laugh. She cares for me and loves me. She cherishes me and adores me. She teaches and guides me in the way of the lifestyle. She always has my best interests at heart and never lets me down. She feeds me. She cares for me when i am sick and makes sure i take care of myself. She wraps herself around me when i go to sleep and is always there when i wake. She is always proud to have me by Her side and takes me everywhere She goes. What more could a sub ask for? I love you MissTress ... [sm=flowers.gif]

LaTigresse -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 3:36:27 PM)
Mouse, that is just about the nicest thing I have ever read on here, and THAT is what I demand for myself or nothing at all.

apb -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 3:53:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Mouse, that is just about the nicest thing I have ever read on here, and THAT is what I demand for myself or nothing at all. Thank You Lady Tiger! my sincere wish is that you find the love and happiness that MissTress and i share. i also hope that we all get to meet one day! hugs

Raethepain -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 4:06:25 PM)
I crave intelligence, acceptance, guidance and care from my Dom.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Must have (5/18/2006 4:14:44 PM)
quote: What are your "must have"'s... in a partner? in a relationship? Respectfullness, humaneness/respect for human connections over material possesions, kindness, open-mindedness, intelligence (not necessarily meaning PhD), considerate nature, generosity, loyalty, a sense of humor, honesty, the capacity to express emotions, not just thoughts, attentiveness, and last but not least CHEMISTRY/passion because I need it. M

Mistrix -> RE: Must have (5/19/2006 5:36:12 AM)
GOODNESS there is LOTS of love to spread around!! I am just LOVING it!! Everyone should be in this frame of mind. We would have a calmer and more peaceful world out there, don't you think?? FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL the love folks....sigh.

odinlove -> RE: Must have (5/21/2006 5:26:45 PM)
I must have a partner a casual mate and casual sex. Love and devotion. Gratitue and aptitude, and respect for elders

Manawyddan -> RE: Must have (5/27/2006 8:03:12 AM)
I'm not going to duplicate the quite reasonable qualities that people have already mentioned, but I will add one: the ability to take care of herself. She should be able to maintain her health ... physically, psychologically, and environmentally ... without my presence.

candystripper -> RE: Must have (5/27/2006 8:27:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress What are your "must have"'s... in a partner? in a relationship? in a casual partner? i do not have casual partners, so i cannot answer that. i have a List of Intolerables that is applicable across the board; E/everyone i allow into my life knows Them, and i deal with violaters on a case-by case basis. As i alluded to in another thread, the First Rule is "dun f**k with my little one". In a Dom or Master i'd submit to and accept a collar from, here are at least some thoughts: 1. True Dominant 2. Integrity 3. Kindness 4. Compasssion 5. Truely loves and cherishes me. 6. Not a bigot. 7. Votes 8. Smells good (and i do not mean cologne; i mean Him.) 9. Sexually attractive 10. Wit 11. Intelligence and curiosity 12. Financially secure; able to meet His own needs as well as some of my wants. 13. Very attentive. 14. Hunter (meaning He pursued me.) 15. Sexually active; high sex drive 16. Has a past which reflects His lifelong Dominant trait; e.g., no criminal record. 17. Monogamous and faithful to the core. 18. Has same D/s relationship goals as i. candystripper

artglfr -> RE: Must have (5/27/2006 10:57:55 AM)
I must have a girl who is able to carry on a conversation about many topics, can help me to laugh at myself and with me. Honest yet not brutal with it...who wants to obey and please me and one that is more Lifestyle oriented and doesn't expect me to beat her all the time. she enjoys Kinkiness as well as music and movies, will use her codeword is a big must!!! I Always check this immediately. Oh the important one...she can put up with me 24/7

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