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Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 5:44:36 AM

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It seems most Dommes/Mistresses do not enjoy ageplay, infantalism, or the AB/DL scene. The Daddy/lilgirl scene is far more prevalent and acceptable, but the opposite scenario is a rare occasion when you are looking for a partner.

Why is this? Are most Dommes not into age play? I don't necessarily mean acting like a baby. I personally enjoy diapers, ageplay, etc, as a humiliation tool.

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 6:38:28 AM

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The Daddy/lg folks I know do not use it as a humiliation tool.

I agree with you that D/lg is much more prevalent than the other way around. I don't know why. But the number of men wanting humilation is also much greater than the number of women wanting to give it.

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 7:43:13 AM

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Humiliation generally comes in two forms:

Erotic
and
Degradation

While female subs can be in to humiliation, by and large it tends to be more on the erotic side of the coin. The focus tends to run in the control of sexuality. It is most often driven and desired by the Dominant. Don't find a lot of women out there in any role looking to be debased, degraded, etc.

While the male submissive side of the coin tends to be much more about degradation if humiliation play is involved. The focus tends to be on removing power and often emasculating the male. It is most often driven and desired by the submissive.

It is not that there are not Ladies who are in to that sort of humiliation play, but there don't appear, in my perception and experience, to be a whole lot of them.

Ageplay - what is your goal with it?

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 7:49:07 AM

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Lol, doncha think the vast disinterest in the fetish is because it's a traditional female role, that lots of Dommes have to do it day in, day out, for years with their own babies or parents, or for patients? It's work, AND it stinks, AND there's no arousal in it. THAT's why it's the venue of pros.
Most lifestyle Dommes want the opposite of a little boy; a strong, obedient, smart man living up to his full potential, not a smart-ass masochist soiling his diaper so he'll get a spanking: blargh

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 8:54:55 AM

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quote:

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It seems most Dommes/Mistresses do not enjoy ageplay, infantalism, or the AB/DL scene. The Daddy/lilgirl scene is far more prevalent and acceptable, but the opposite scenario is a rare occasion when you are looking for a partner.

Why is this? Are most Dommes not into age play? I don't necessarily mean acting like a baby. I personally enjoy diapers, ageplay, etc, as a humiliation tool.

Different strokes for different folks I guess, I wouldn't mind a bit of age play as a roleplay, as a humiliation tool fine though I am not great on that, I guess you could call me limited, but I'm not the ice queen or angry bitch, I'm a bit more the friendly sadist, I enjoy it if the person I play with also enjoys it, so it's just not so much my thing.

When it comes to babies and diapers (especially full ones), it just grosses me out, not saying it's wrong, it's just not for me.

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 10:12:32 AM

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Having been a caregiver, I can assure you that messy diapers are RIGHT OUT unless medically necessary. I also hate babies. Why are diapers humiliating? Incontinence is a thing we learn our way out of, and sometimes return to. You deal with it.

I am a friend of Littles, I dig the idea of rewinding childhood for the Good Parts.

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 10:58:45 AM

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to my knowledge, most AB/DL's are not really into messy diapers. Its definitely not for me.

To me, age play isn't all about diapers, etc, its about strong dominant women taking control, but with some motherly type instinct and some ageplay mixed in. More like a 20 year old being forced into the role of a 3-5 year old as part of the discipline, training, etc.

Trying to locate Dommes who are open to the idea seems to be tough. Especially in the KCMO area.

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 11:05:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Chrispy101

to my knowledge, most AB/DL's are not really into messy diapers. Its definitely not for me.

To me, age play isn't all about diapers, etc, its about strong dominant women taking control, but with some motherly type instinct and some ageplay mixed in. More like a 20 year old being forced into the role of a 3-5 year old as part of the discipline, training, etc.

Trying to locate Dommes who are open to the idea seems to be tough. Especially in the KCMO area.

You'd be surprised, most of the requests seem to include diaper changing, and I don't think they mean clean ones.

To you that is, well not to everybody and to be honest I would feel really freaked out if somebody wanted to regress to 3 to 5 years of age, that's way under the age of consent, I know it's fantasy and all that but still, it just isn't for me...

Now if you do want to located Dommes that are open to it, I would suggest to go the pro route, it's supply and demand and it seems the demand for this is a lot greater than the supply...

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RE: Ageplay.. - 7/17/2011 11:55:14 AM

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That's the very reason why pros can make serious bank about this particular kink. While D/lg (and let's not forget here that not all of those dynamics involve age play or DL, some are just a lighter authority structure) dynamics are common, there just aren't that many female Dominants with the same fetish in comparison. No point in trying to guess why. I'd also say that the location has very little to do with it.

The best advice that I'd have for you would be to specifically seek out a 'littles' munch. You're not going to find bunches of "Mommies" that are trying to find partners, you might be able to do some networking.

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